Happy Sunday Everyone,
I have lurked here for a bit to get a feel for the board culture, protocols, etiquette etc. Plus, I needed time to gain the courage to share my story. I realized that in order for me to get the support that I need as well as to give support when I felt I could, I would have to take the plunge, open up and be vulnerable. I started over at The Knot almost two years ago and had an amazing time planning the wedding with my DH and bonding with the September 2013 brides who I still connect with on facebook. Then all of a sudden the wedding was over, honeymoon was over, real life began and I was hit with all of these realizations that I never thought I would have to contend with.
I grew up with a mom who was a registered nurse and vegetarian and who was very open with talking about the human body and reproduction. I knew most of the basics but not the details of conception. The main message was don't have unprotected sex or pregnancy is guaranteed to happen immediately after just one time. I was even told that in rare circumstances, pregnancy can happen if you have sex when AF came to visit or even with pre-ejaculation. Being an AA woman who accompanied my best friend to the abortion clinic twice when we were in high school because she asked me to, I was determined to never become a statistic. She ended up happily married at 21 and still is. But it took me longer to meet "the one" so I went to college and grad school, traveled the world and lived abroad, had a 2 year marriage with thankfully no kids because I realized I could not see him as father to my children, then left him at 33 and ended up remarrying a wonderful friend last year at 35 who never married and had no kids either.
As time passed by I knew I could be like some other friends who had children as single moms. But again, I didn't want to join the 70% of AA moms who were single. I knew that a lot of them successfully co-parented outside marriage and never judged them for their choices or unplanned children. But I knew my mom had a lot of challenges after the divorce as a single mom. So, my personal preference was nothing less than a Norman Rockwell marriage and did not want children outside of the playground song order of "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage." I'd grown up as the product of divorced parents and always felt like though my mom was amazing before she passed from a brain tumor when I was 16, that I would have loved to have grown up in a healthy, happy, nuclear family unit like some of my friends had.
So, being in my thirties and without a child did not bother me until I found myself wanting to have a child out of the love and connection I feel with DH. It hit me like a ton of bricks that I wanted to be a mother to his children alone. He really wants children too but has been super supportive and never pressured me or acted like our marriage needs children to be a happy and fulfilled one. I love him so much. Either way we will be a happily married couple and family whether it's the two of us or hopefully more.
But as much as he loves me, he doesn't get how much I need the kind of support I know I can get on this board. I see how you ladies are there for each other lifting each other up and I want to be a part of that. We've been TTC since January because after the wedding my cycle went nuts for a few weeks and then holidays and travel got in the way. I use FF but have not done much with opks. I've had an IUS and everything looks pretty good except for a few fibroids that are not uterine based. DH is going to have an SA. I'm still overcoming the shock that this stuff actually takes time! AF came this morning... so on to April and cycle 4 of month 4.
If there's anything else I need to do beyond this intro let me know. I read the welcome sticky post but welcome other suggestions too. Thanks again and I look forward to getting to know you all.
Me: 35 DH: 41
Married September 2013
TTC #1 since January 2014
Re: Hello! New Here (Pretty Long Intro and Warning Abortion Mentioned-Not Mine)
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
Also, I would think O-2 or O-3 are probably supposed to mean the days past ovulation. Most folks say dpo, though.
**** siggy warning - bfp & loss **** ---- All Welcome ---
Me: 44 - Hashimoto's (under control), DH: 38 - (minor issues)
IUIs: 2 in 2012 ... Both BFN
IVF #1: 10/16/13 ... BFP, however it was not viable and ended in an early loss at 7weeks.
IVF #2: Feb '14 ... Cancelled. Positive beta at baseline appt, became very early loss.
IVF #2: Apr '14 ... Retrieval Only. 2 embryos made it to day 3 freeze & will be batched with IVF #3 for PGD testing.
IVF #3: June '14 ... Retrieval Only. 4 embryos growing, all arrested before day 5. Two from April thawed, but also arrested.
Currently benched while determining how to proceed.
"Keep going until you can't fail"
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Me: 40 DH: 38
TTC since November 2012
Elias (Eli) born 9/2/17 at 7:07pm weight 8lbs 10oz and 20.5 inches long!!
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
Good luck with everything!
Your warm words of welcome mean more than you know. Thanks so much.
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
My Ovulation Chart
I just started temping too its kind of fun. I bought the generic opks as well I don't think it matters. The wonfos are a much better deal though. I'll probably order them as well for next month.
Me: 38 DH:36
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive. Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)
DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP
**** siggy warning - bfp & loss **** ---- All Welcome ---
Me: 44 - Hashimoto's (under control), DH: 38 - (minor issues)
IUIs: 2 in 2012 ... Both BFN
IVF #1: 10/16/13 ... BFP, however it was not viable and ended in an early loss at 7weeks.
IVF #2: Feb '14 ... Cancelled. Positive beta at baseline appt, became very early loss.
IVF #2: Apr '14 ... Retrieval Only. 2 embryos made it to day 3 freeze & will be batched with IVF #3 for PGD testing.
IVF #3: June '14 ... Retrieval Only. 4 embryos growing, all arrested before day 5. Two from April thawed, but also arrested.
Currently benched while determining how to proceed.
"Keep going until you can't fail"
Me:38 DH: 45, SA Normal
Diagnosed unexplained infertility
Nov 7 2014 - HSG
Nov 30 2014 - BFP
Dec 15 2014 - MC
2015 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
2015 - 2 Rounds Femara - BFN
(1) IUI August '15
Switched REs
IVF #1 clinical trial started January '16
1/31/16: 26 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 9 made it to blast
2 month break in February/March '16
FET planned for April/May '16
FET resulted in BFP May '16
MC due to Trisomy 7 in June '16
FET #2 planned for August/September '16
August 2016 - BFN
Egg Retrieval October '16
PGS tested embryos produced 7 normal embryos (4 males/3 females)
Robotic Myomectomy for removal of Fibroids November '16
April 7 2017 - Spontaneous BFP