TTC after 35
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Hi everyone,
Decided to dive right in here and say hello.
It's funny - for the past 10 years I've been hearing all these dire warnings about delaying children, and used to (smugly I realize now) think "oh, thank goodness I don't have to worry about that" since I was married for the first time at 27. But...I kept finding reasons to put off TTC (career, finances, even the need for home repairs). And then finally at age 34, my marriage a wreck, it struck me that the reason I was delaying having kids was that I didn't want to have them with him. During and after my divorce, I heard a lot of "well, at least you don't have kids." Cold comfort with that dreaded 35 number staring me in the face.
But, I am now happily married to a wonderful man with whom I most definitely want to have babies, and we jumped right into TTC after our wedding last May. Though, so far, to no avail
So, we're now in the "last ditch" phase before moving on to medical assistance. DH had an SA a few months ago, and everything came up normal. We met with an RE and I had the typical suite of tests (hormones, HSP) about a month ago. Everything was fine, thus giving me the dubious diagnosis of "unexplained infertility." So, we're going to keep going the old-fashioned way for a couple more months and see what happens. RE's plan seems to be the standard: Clomid, followed by Clomid + IUI, then re-assess.
I'm already pretty sick of this whole process, but trying to stay as optimistic and sane as possible. I'm finding that as time goes on, the optimistic is harder though sanity a little easier, as I'm realizing it's just not sustainable to try to organize my life around TTC. So I'm also training for a half marathon (figure hey, I'd love to have wasted the entrance fee because I finally get my BFP before the race!), having a drink now and then (had given up alcohol entirely for awhile but that got old fast), doing bbt some months, and others not, and so on.
Anyway, that's my story. Thanks for reading, and I look forward to engaging with what seems like a really caring, supportive, and fun group of ladies!
Decided to dive right in here and say hello.
It's funny - for the past 10 years I've been hearing all these dire warnings about delaying children, and used to (smugly I realize now) think "oh, thank goodness I don't have to worry about that" since I was married for the first time at 27. But...I kept finding reasons to put off TTC (career, finances, even the need for home repairs). And then finally at age 34, my marriage a wreck, it struck me that the reason I was delaying having kids was that I didn't want to have them with him. During and after my divorce, I heard a lot of "well, at least you don't have kids." Cold comfort with that dreaded 35 number staring me in the face.
But, I am now happily married to a wonderful man with whom I most definitely want to have babies, and we jumped right into TTC after our wedding last May. Though, so far, to no avail
So, we're now in the "last ditch" phase before moving on to medical assistance. DH had an SA a few months ago, and everything came up normal. We met with an RE and I had the typical suite of tests (hormones, HSP) about a month ago. Everything was fine, thus giving me the dubious diagnosis of "unexplained infertility." So, we're going to keep going the old-fashioned way for a couple more months and see what happens. RE's plan seems to be the standard: Clomid, followed by Clomid + IUI, then re-assess.
I'm already pretty sick of this whole process, but trying to stay as optimistic and sane as possible. I'm finding that as time goes on, the optimistic is harder though sanity a little easier, as I'm realizing it's just not sustainable to try to organize my life around TTC. So I'm also training for a half marathon (figure hey, I'd love to have wasted the entrance fee because I finally get my BFP before the race!), having a drink now and then (had given up alcohol entirely for awhile but that got old fast), doing bbt some months, and others not, and so on.
Anyway, that's my story. Thanks for reading, and I look forward to engaging with what seems like a really caring, supportive, and fun group of ladies!
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TTC #1 with IUI and donor sperm
First IUI May, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Second IUI July, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Third IUI Dec, 2014, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = BFN
Fourth IUI Feb 2015, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = C/P
All the best to you on your journey!!
**** siggy warning - bfp & loss **** ---- All Welcome ---
Me: 44 - Hashimoto's (under control), DH: 38 - (minor issues)
IUIs: 2 in 2012 ... Both BFN
IVF #1: 10/16/13 ... BFP, however it was not viable and ended in an early loss at 7weeks.
IVF #2: Feb '14 ... Cancelled. Positive beta at baseline appt, became very early loss.
IVF #2: Apr '14 ... Retrieval Only. 2 embryos made it to day 3 freeze & will be batched with IVF #3 for PGD testing.
IVF #3: June '14 ... Retrieval Only. 4 embryos growing, all arrested before day 5. Two from April thawed, but also arrested.
Currently benched while determining how to proceed.
"Keep going until you can't fail"
Diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer January 1996
One small cancerous cyst (left ovary) removed Jan '96, chemotherapy Jan - July '96
Three more cancerous cysts found July 1996 (left ovary), ovary removed July '96, chemotherapy July '96 - Feb '97
February 1997 given all clear! Told of suspected infertility
Tove Ikarus born July 2010, given guardianship September 2010
April 2014 infertility confirmed
IVF with sister's eggs July 2014
(Hopeful) adoption of Tove July 2015
@LaireAndLia is my sister's partner, @DragonsLaire is my sister
I have many friends on the same boat with the late timing. And one just got pregnant after 2 mc's and she is 37. Dr told her her eggs were old. But she got a good egg. I'm happy for her it gives me hope. I have no idea how my eggs are but my cycles are normal and I ovulate each month.
l look forward to the next month and it's all about luck and timing. I haven't been to an RE but am hopeful that everything is fine. We haven't really got our timing right more than 2 or 3 times. I think going would stress me out. I have had horrible luck with western medicine - I seem to be the one case that everything goes wrong with - so I want to avoid medication and am focussing on Traditional Foods diet of Weston Price and taking good care of myself. Lots of good quality butter and cod liver oil.
I have also been doing self-Maya Arvigo abdominal massage for 2 months and last week, my period was not painful for the first time. I'm focusing on preparing my body for a healthy pregnancy. Each month I make myself feel better by thinking about having another month of good diet behind me. I am keeping very positive about being ready for a baby.
I highly recommend this maya Arvigo massage - maybe you have a practitioner near you? I am in NYC. You only go once (but they teach you to do it yourself bc it's something you do daily). It strengthens your ligaments that hold the uterus. It also brings blood flow towards the uterus and can help it position into the right spot. It's very gentle and I do it every night in bed before sleep. I use pure cocoa butter and jojoba oil and imagine I'm preventing stretch marks. It's also a nice 5 minutes or so to meditate on the baby.
Anyway, the practitioners have told me that preparing the body is such a big deal. This moth my period was pain free and cherry red no clots so this is a great sign that my body is cleaning up and gearing up. Fingers crossed for next month... And I'm here all the time so I look forward to more posts!
Love and welcome.
PrivateOne and Radiantly - wow our stories do all seem pretty similar!
Radiantly, congrats to you as well, and thanks for the info on the massage - I'd never heard of that but will look into whether there is a practitioner in my city. I have done some acupuncture, though I'm undecided at this point whether to keep with it. Can't hurt I suppose, but so far it's a lot of time and money without any noticeable changes. But maybe I'm just being impatient.
Me: 40 DH: 38
TTC since November 2012
Elias (Eli) born 9/2/17 at 7:07pm weight 8lbs 10oz and 20.5 inches long!!
Wishing you the best of luck with your process!
1 daughter - 14 yrs old
2 miscarriages
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
My Ovulation Chart
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive. Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)
DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!