UO/confessions

emberlee3

We are visiting DH's parents this week, and there are just so many things that make me crazy.

But at the moment the biggest thing is that OMG their clocks chime every 15 minutes. I hate clocks that make noise.

jf198400

PrivacyWanted said:

My grandparents had chiming grandfather clocks. I have fond memories of them now but remember being terrified of the clocks at the time.

My ILs keep insisting on having us over for dinner this weekend. Evenings are so hard for us. And MIL is a terrible terrible cook. It'd be better if they'd just come to us but she "wants to make it easy".

The worst is when they think it's easier but it's not b/c the house isn't child proofed with stairs everywhere and lots of breakable items. It's far more effort to watch the kids at my ILs than at home where they can run wild and not get hurt or break things.

ks3pink

jf198400 said:

PrivacyWanted said:

My grandparents had chiming grandfather clocks. I have fond memories of them now but remember being terrified of the clocks at the time.

My ILs keep insisting on having us over for dinner this weekend. Evenings are so hard for us. And MIL is a terrible terrible cook. It'd be better if they'd just come to us but she "wants to make it easy".

The worst is when they think it's easier but it's not b/c the house isn't child proofed with stairs everywhere and lots of breakable items. It's far more effort to watch the kids at my ILs than at home where they can run wild and not get hurt or break things.

Yes,yes,yes! My parents' house and my in-laws' house is like this! We keep offering to have holiday gatherings at our house, which is more accommodating than theirs dr to layout, and everybody just keeps refusing. I realize they feel like it's their turn to host now that their parents are not able but work with me here, at least for a couple of years! DH has to work Easter, he works 24 hour shifts. I offered to have lunch and an egg hunt at my house and next thing I know my mom is calling saying we are doing it at her house. Ugh!

My confession is that even though money is a little tight DH promised to watch the boys today so DD and I could go get our nails and hair done. I am so excited though feeling guilty about spending the money. But I work hard and deserve a reward every once in a while!

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ss+el

theresat858 said:

That and her perfume. At xmas, she slept on top of the sheets and just used the blanket to "save us from having to wash the sheets".  Um...sheets are far easier to wash than blankets...and that's kind of the point of them...

My husband does this when we visit his parents. Drives me nuts. He also apparently cannot distinguish between sheets, blankets, comforters, etc. He calls them all "covers" and if I were to ask him to hand me a sheet, he would claim not to know what I was talking about.

groovygrl

Move 12 hrs away, it helps solve all these IL problems. hehehehehe

and MH won't have the sheets tucked in at the bottom of the bed b/c he thinks it is uncomfortable so 2 things end up happening: 1. the entire king sized sheet ends up on my side of the bed within 2 days of making the bed and is all bunchy & wrapped around me, and 2. he sleeps right under hte duvet cover since he doesn't have the sheet anchored & doesn't put it back each night so then like PP we have to wash that dumb thing more often and it is a PITA to put on.... I keep thinking I want to find a new top cover for our bed but I really like our duvet .

rubber_chicken

everybody needs to learn to say NO.  say it with me, NO.  NO we are not traveling for Easter, we're having it here.  No we are not driving 4 hours for dinner.  NO NO NO.

of course, it's easy for me to say, because I really don't care about my ILs feelings. 

Virgo17

I guess my UO could be that I don't mind going to the grandparents' houses for dinner or holidays. Their houses aren't necessarily baby proofed but they aren't a nightmare.  Plus they are very hands on helping with the kids so it does give me a break.  Getting everyone packed up to go there and come home can be a pain, but our house is also still clean when we get back

Tink112011

Virgo17 said:

I guess my UO could be that I don't mind going to the grandparents' houses for dinner or holidays. Their houses aren't necessarily baby proofed but they aren't a nightmare.  Plus they are very hands on helping with the kids so it does give me a break.  Getting everyone packed up to go there and come home can be a pain, but our house is also still clean when we get back

I agree! I would so much rather travel than host holiday gatherings.  ILs live 1 hour away, my parents live 2 hours away. Neither of those drives are so bad that I'd rather have to clean my house, prepare a meal, and host a houseful of people.

Attending holiday gatherings at other houses is practically a vacation for me.  I can keep one eye on DS while sipping my mimosa.

Curls218

rubber_chicken said:

everybody needs to learn to say NO.  say it with me, NO.  NO we are not traveling for Easter, we're having it here.  No we are not driving 4 hours for dinner.  NO NO NO.

of course, it's easy for me to say, because I really don't care about my ILs feelings. 

My brother, cousins and I all put our foot down about Passover this year.  My grandmother calls it for 6 but we don't get to the table til close to 7 and then have to do most of the seder before the meal is served.  There are now 5 kids under 5 and the past several years people have been leaving before dinner.  This year she finally called it for 5 and is doing an abbreviated seder.  We're leaving at 7:30 whether we've eaten or not since it's almost an hour drive for us!

mlee116

There must be something in the water with families.  Our problem is that we live too close to both sets, so they expect us to come every single weekend.  It's fine sometimes, but I just want to chill on the weekend without going anywhere or seeing anyone except DH and DS. 

My UO is that I don't like Hummers.  And I judge people who drive them (except for the military, of course).  They are humongous, use a ton of gas, hard to park and just generally over the top.  I just don't get it. 

ss265

mlee116 said:

There must be something in the water with families.  Our problem is that we live too close to both sets, so they expect us to come every single weekend.  It's fine sometimes, but I just want to chill on the weekend without going anywhere or seeing anyone except DH and DS. 

My UO is that I don't like Hummers.  And I judge people who drive them (except for the military, of course).  They are humongous, use a ton of gas, hard to park and just generally over the top.  I just don't get it. 

I completely agree with this! I once read a thread where someone commented that a H3 Hummer is pretty compact and that it's fine if it's parked in a "compact car" parking spot. *rolls eyes*

And I used to work for an auto finance company and we had a policy not to finance Hummers because their value diminished too sharply. 

dglvrk2

I totally get what others are saying about family wanting to "make it easier" for us. Yah...our perceptions of easy are different sometimes. It comes from a good place. I try to remind myself of this when dealing w family.....
@rubber_chicken‌ I loved what you said about saying NO :-).
Question: what does U/O mean?

MamaAllison

@dglvrk2‌ it means unpopular opinions

NextChapter24

I actually have an u/o this week so I'll play...

I don't mind the way the HIMYM finale turned out which seems to be pretty unpopular. I get its sad the mom dies and the series has been leading us up this whole time to his great love etc etc, but its kind of real. Life happens. He loved her, they had the children he wanted, robin was able to do her thing since it was never the right time for them. Now he and robin were able to be together. I dont think in any way that diminishes "the mother's" place in the series. I thought it was pretty cool. But i get its definetly an UO.