FFFC Confess all the things

July15Mama

mrscurlygurl said:

July15Mama said:

I got a second here.

I'm not comfortable telling my MIL I love her. I do yes, but it's weird saying it and I dread it when I'm saying goodbye.

Does she say it to you or something? I would feel weird saying that too. We don't talk on the phone or anything though. I'm pretty sure DH doesn't say it to her either though. 

Yeah she always does. She tells my parents she loves them too. It's a little much for me.

July15Mama

@JP27 what'd you say?

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TugboatSheila

July15Mama said:

@JP27 what'd you say?

It was on the damn vaccination thread. I didn't say anything I wouldn't say out loud but I am always the first person to be like 'NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE WILL NOT ENGAGE" on those kinds of topics but what I said was actually something I had been thinking about all week. 

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emy730

My grandfather is currently in hospice, dying and I feel very indifferent about it. I'm not sad, I really don't care actually, but only because I think he might be one of the most vile people I've ever encountered. I refused to write his obituary and I don't understand the rest of my family acting like he's going to be sorely missed.

I don't want to go to his funeral and I probably won't. I am pretty sure this makes me an asshole.

TugboatSheila

LiteraChick said:

@jp27 wellllll I'm marching over there right now to see what you losing your cool looks like ;-)

haha I don't think I lost my cool. I try and be respectful especially when disagreeing with someone. I am an over edit-er on emails/electronic communications. 

Except when I talk about poop. I just slew that out on the forum and hit "enter."

purpleXdandelion

DS and I ate expired yogurt for lunch. It tasted fine. Give me a couple hours.

violet615

It's 2:00 and I'm still laying in bed.

Big+Lil

The bigger I get, the bigger my crush on Billy Bush from Extra gets. It started in my last pregnancy and ended when I lost my baby weight. It's back and better than ever. I'm probably eight times the size he is.

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Skeemer

shanicenicolle said:

emy730 said:

My grandfather is currently in hospice, dying and I feel very indifferent about it. I'm not sad, I really don't care actually, but only because I think he might be one of the most vile people I've ever encountered. I refused to write his obituary and I don't understand the rest of my family acting like he's going to be sorely missed.

I don't want to go to his funeral and I probably won't. I am pretty sure this makes me an asshole.

It doesn't. I promise. This kid I used to date in high school was killed (for drugs) and the last things he said about me were horrible and untrue AND the last time i saw him he was part of a group of guys who jumped my best friend, who's like a brother to me. So I felt pretty much the same way and everyone told me I was horrible but I don't think I am. 

I have never understood why the most horrid people suddenly become angels when they die. People make the deceased into these amazing pillars of the community. The same thing happened when a friend's family found out the dad actually had a second family living about 3 hours away. Another wife, another set of kids...the works! Everyone was mad to start with then when the guy died it was sob sob & the works. I'm not sure I'd shed a tear if I found this out about my family.

blythemiles

@emy730

Did you go to ISU???  I didn't, but now live in the Ames area, and everyone around here is super excited!

emy730

@shanicenicolle: Oh wow, that's horrible! My grandfather was horribly abusive and he had no regard for anyone but himself, yet my family is acting like it's so sad. I don't understand it.

@skeemer: I cannot stand that bad people get immortalized when they die. It's awful. I just want to say to so many of my family members, "Oh yeah, he was great. Remember when he did (X awful thing) or how about when he did (Y awful thing)?" 

helloblueeyes

FFFC #2 

I am leaving work early today, so i did a some stuff that looked like i was getting a lot done when my boss was in the office earlier, i was mostly just moving paper around, but it cleared a giant section of my desk so it looks like i did a lot of work. 

In reality, i'm doing fuck all. I'm playing around on facebook, cookie clicker and the bump. I'll probably go get something for lunch when i leave and not tell DH i got out as early. 

My brain has entered vacation mode and i'm not doing anything to change it right now. 

emy730

blythemiles said:

@emy730

Did you go to ISU???  I didn't, but now live in the Ames area, and everyone around here is super excited!

Hell yeah I did! I'm a Cyclone, loud and proud!

cuntasaurusrex

My confession... I read somewhere that you can now hear LO's heartbeat with a simple stethoscope around 20 weeks.  So I ordered one.  Got it on Monday.  And then realized I don't know how to operate a stethoscope.

mrs.amma

avacek1 said:

Csltdk said:

I'm obsessed with watching ID discovery, who the bleep did I marry, scorned lovers, evil twins etc etc it goes on and on and when I venture out in public if someone pays to much attention to me I'm convinced they are getting ready to kidnap and kill me. I like to think of myself as a paranoid anti social- which brings me to my next thought I'm terrified of making friends with moms when the LO arrives. I have 4 sisters and 3 friends and I'm set.

DH tells people he's afraid I'm trying to figure out how to kill him because I loved shows like that.

ETA: And I'm packing my DVR full of that before maternity leave.

My hubby says the same thing! He gets uncomfortable when I watch those shows around him. Lol

DH and I watch ID together but I get so sucked in and its always on when he comes home. He's convinced I'm plotting his death.

@ashleysyn2 your link prompted me to go search baby fox stuff on Etsy (we've been obsessed with foxes since getting our Shiba Inu last year) and it was a horrible mistake that can't be undone! Adorable newborn crocheted fox costume for baby pics? Sure why not!

Anywho, FFFC when I first found out I was pg I googled everything under the sun about what to eat and what to avoid. Soft serve ice cream was on the avoid list, which bummed me out since I was looking forward to eating it all summer guilt free for once. FF to this week, I *just* realized that the milkshakes I've been drinking over the last few months have definitely been made from soft serve ice cream...Since I've broken the barrier might as well just keep on eating it...

TugboatSheila

aliletz said:

My confession... I read somewhere that you can now hear LO's heartbeat with a simple stethoscope around 20 weeks.  So I ordered one.  Got it on Monday.  And then realized I don't know how to operate a stethoscope.

I have a nurse friend who has a steth. She's about to get a lot of phone calls.

hgtvmom

helloblueeyes said:

FFFC #2 

I am leaving work early today, so i did a some stuff that looked like i was getting a lot done when my boss was in the office earlier, i was mostly just moving paper around, but it cleared a giant section of my desk so it looks like i did a lot of work. 

In reality, i'm doing fuck all. I'm playing around on facebook, cookie clicker and the bump. I'll probably go get something for lunch when i leave and not tell DH i got out as early. 

My brain has entered vacation mode and i'm not doing anything to change it right now. 

Are you doing something special in SF? I'm wondering if I am missing something fun going on in the city.

January Bride

emy730 said:

blythemiles said:

@emy730

Did you go to ISU???  I didn't, but now live in the Ames area, and everyone around here is super excited!

Hell yeah I did! I'm a Cyclone, loud and proud!

I went to ISU as well and am already really nervous for the game tonight!  I hate having Niang out for the season, grr.  Go State!

Nichole8787

aliletz said:

I care far less about buying baby stuff right now than I do about finding clothes that don't make me look like a frumpopotamus.  My wardrobe is dwindling weekly at an alarming rate and getting ready every morning is depressing.

Me too...it makes me feel selfish but i just can not be one of those sweat pants and huge ugly tshirts

emy730

I'm fully aware that this isn't going to gain me any new fans, but I love Miley Cyrus. She's so, so stupid, but I love her, her stupid music and her ridiculous antics.

That being said, my daughter will not be exposed to Miley, provided that Miley doesn't overdose between now and when my child is old enough to understand.

AMcLaws

emy730 said:

@shanicenicolle: Oh wow, that's horrible! My grandfather was horribly abusive and he had no regard for anyone but himself, yet my family is acting like it's so sad. I don't understand it.

@skeemer: I cannot stand that bad people get immortalized when they die. It's awful. I just want to say to so many of my family members, "Oh yeah, he was great. Remember when he did (X awful thing) or how about when he did (Y awful thing)?" 

Ugh...all of this. My BIL unexpectedly died 4 weeks after I had DD. Now, because of my hormones and being a new mom and junk, I sobbed. Uncontrollably. My heart was broken in half for HIS CHILDREN. How do you explain that to a 3 & 5 year old? Now, my SIL and her kids were living with us because she had left him. They were this.close to finalizing their divorce. He was a pig. Blew money on hookers and such. Just a real gem. ANYWAY now my SIL completely worships him and all. It's sickening.

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emy730 said:

I'm fully aware that this isn't going to gain me any new fans, but I love Miley Cyrus. She's so, so stupid, but I love her, her stupid music and her ridiculous antics.

That being said, my daughter will not be exposed to Miley, provided that Miley doesn't overdose between now and when my child is old enough to understand.

New fan right here! I love her too.  

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Nichole8787

Today my husband is working from 7am until 11 pm....I feel for him and I am so grateful thathe works so hard for us...but I am really happy not to have to cook dinner tonight.

AMcLaws

shanicenicolle said:

AMcLaws said:

emy730 said:

@shanicenicolle: Oh wow, that's horrible! My grandfather was horribly abusive and he had no regard for anyone but himself, yet my family is acting like it's so sad. I don't understand it.

@skeemer: I cannot stand that bad people get immortalized when they die. It's awful. I just want to say to so many of my family members, "Oh yeah, he was great. Remember when he did (X awful thing) or how about when he did (Y awful thing)?" 

Ugh...all of this. My BIL unexpectedly died 4 weeks after I had DD. Now, because of my hormones and being a new mom and junk, I sobbed. Uncontrollably. My heart was broken in half for HIS CHILDREN. How do you explain that to a 3 & 5 year old? Now, my SIL and her kids were living with us because she had left him. They were this.close to finalizing their divorce. He was a pig. Blew money on hookers and such. Just a real gem. ANYWAY now my SIL completely worships him and all. It's sickening.

It's just shitty all around. Doesn't it make you want to shake people?

YES! We finally made her take down the shrine she had of him in her living room. It was hard for the kids to move on with that constant reminder in their faces. And since it's come down, they're doing better in school and socially

helloblueeyes

Pup4gdb said:

FFFC #2 

I am leaving work early today, so i did a some stuff that looked like i was getting a lot done when my boss was in the office earlier, i was mostly just moving paper around, but it cleared a giant section of my desk so it looks like i did a lot of work. 

In reality, i'm doing fuck all. I'm playing around on facebook, cookie clicker and the bump. I'll probably go get something for lunch when i leave and not tell DH i got out as early. 

My brain has entered vacation mode and i'm not doing anything to change it right now. 

Are you doing something special in SF? I'm wondering if I am missing something fun going on in the city.

@Pup4gdb

Nope, my MIL got a really nice tax return and decided to take DH, me and 1 SIL for a mini vaca. 

It's supposed to rain all weekend so i'm not sure exactly what her plans are. It has been the vacation from hell as far as planning goes. Now that the planning is done and the actual day is here i am trying my damnedest to enjoy it. 

helloblueeyes

I just spent 30 or so minutes creating a spreadsheet that will gauge how the California minimum wage increase will effect the company i work for. Purely because i can and wanted to see the numbers. 

And i'm a nerd. Lol

At least it should make one of my bosses not so bent out of shape at the fact that i'm leaving early today. 

Skeemer

AMcLaws said:

@shanicenicolle: Oh wow, that's horrible! My grandfather was horribly abusive and he had no regard for anyone but himself, yet my family is acting like it's so sad. I don't understand it.

@skeemer: I cannot stand that bad people get immortalized when they die. It's awful. I just want to say to so many of my family members, "Oh yeah, he was great. Remember when he did (X awful thing) or how about when he did (Y awful thing)?" 

Ugh...all of this. My BIL unexpectedly died 4 weeks after I had DD. Now, because of my hormones and being a new mom and junk, I sobbed. Uncontrollably. My heart was broken in half for HIS CHILDREN. How do you explain that to a 3 & 5 year old? Now, my SIL and her kids were living with us because she had left him. They were this.close to finalizing their divorce. He was a pig. Blew money on hookers and such. Just a real gem. ANYWAY now my SIL completely worships him and all. It's sickening.

I'm so sorry for all that you're going through.

lindslalala

Everyone said after having DS I'd have more fun buying clothes for him than for myself. Um, no. I love shopping for him and DD on the way but I will never love it more than shopping for myself. I am very ok with this, but it feels confession-worthy.

hgtvmom

@helloblueeyes‌ I'm about an hour north of SF. it's nice here right now! We had sprinkles around 8, but it stopped quickly. A bit windy. According to the weather I last heard, Sunday should be sunny, but who knows!

Enjoy your trip!

abchittam

So my FFFC is not my own, but my MIL's (I can never think of anything good to share.) MIL called me and asked if she could "borrow" DS for about an hour to give me a break. I was a little leery at first because she is the one that has the dog that bit him, but she just wanted to take him with her while she went shopping. After hearing she was just going shopping, I was all for the mini break.

When MIL got here to pick him up, she confessed that she only wanted to borrow him so that she could try out the new leash she bought him.

DH and I have both told her multiple times that we do not like or want to use leashes on our children. I guess my confession can be that I despise putting leashes on children and I will side eye every person that I see using one.

abchittam

symphony4586 said:

abchittam said:

So my FFFC is not my own, but my MIL's (I can never think of anything good to share.) MIL called me and asked if she could "borrow" DS for about an hour to give me a break. I was a little leery at first because she is the one that has the dog that bit him, but she just wanted to take him with her while she went shopping. After hearing she was just going shopping, I was all for the mini break.

When MIL got here to pick him up, she confessed that she only wanted to borrow him so that she could try out the new leash she bought him.

DH and I have both told her multiple times that we do not like or want to use leashes on our children. I guess my confession can be that I despise putting leashes on children and I will side eye every person that I see using one.

Oh hell no! Did you still let him go? I would have seriously told her she's not taking my kid anywhere is she's going to treat him like an animal and put him on a leash.

It's really hard to stand up to this woman. She is very strong-willed and DH wasn't home to help. I have a hard time standing my ground with her. She's just so intimidating.

But I am sitting here laughing thinking about the hard time she is having. I know DS is giving her hell for it. There ain't no way my kid will ever accept leash training. He's a runner.

mrscurlygurl

Yeah, the "leash" debate is one that I'm sure can get some people riled up. I'm not opposed to them. I see situations where they would be great. I don't think MIL should get to make that choice though. @abchittam, you need to tell that woman that she had her chance when raising DH, but it's your job to parent your child how you see fit. 

hgtvmom

Even if I wanted to use a leash on my kid, I don't think I could ever do it. There's too much engrained dog trainer in me. If the kid was pulling on the leash, I would be likely to correct it as I would my dog. Not on purpose, but just a reflex. Or I would get my dog leash and my kid leash confused.

No leashes for me...

tourqeyes

My belly has officially become my personal food and drink tray.

abchittam

mrscurlygurl said:

Yeah, the "leash" debate is one that I'm sure can get some people riled up. I'm not opposed to them. I see situations where they would be great. I don't think MIL should get to make that choice though. @abchittam, you need to tell that woman that she had her chance when raising DH, but it's your job to parent your child how you see fit. 

I wasn't saying it in hopes of a debate. Everyone has their own opinion. As long as you aren't hurting your child, then I respect that. I think my initial "fire" in the first post came from my anger towards MIL because she never respects our wishes. She is constantly going behind our back (and SIL's back) doing things how she sees fit, despite what we request of her.

ETA: DH told her off when she brought DS home.