peoples opinion on more than 2 kids

triagain2

Anyone dealt with/dealing with people who feel any more than 2 kids is crazy? We are trying for #3 and are actually nervous to tell my in-laws because they have voiced (along with other extended family) that more than 2 is bad idea. Obviously we don't care too much what they think but wondering if we are alone in this conundrum...

triagain2

I agree with you, but its definitely been voiced to us. I was 1 of 3 and I always wanted 3 but my DH is 1 of 1 and my MIL always said she only wanted 1. I respect her opinion on one, but don't feel the same respect coming towards us. Kind of annoying.

AlfiesMOM

My mom was shocked when we said we want two but I personally don't care. I think its actually not that crazy uncommon anymore. I have several close friends who want 2+. 

mmb248

We're still working on #1 and both of our families have voiced their opinions on our ability to parent more than 1 child (H is a bit high strung and I'm a little lot in love with myself alone time).  We're going to have just as many children as we want whether it's 1 or 14 and be fabulous parents to all of them.

Any time they voice an opinion we just say okay or "we'll see what happens" and move on.

mpks

My friend is pregnant with her 4th child.  A lot of our friends are not so crazy about it, but her family (and his) are excited.  I believe that if you are in a stable relationship and can afford to support another child than there is no reason for you to be worried about what others are going to think.
Good for you trying to have another!

divinemsbee

Oh, I'm sure that if/when H and I are able to go for #2 (please God) my mom will be a total stick in the mud about it. She's totally not thrilled we're trying for #1 (there are no real reasons for this), so I imagine if I told her we wanted 3 or 4 she would flip. So I am not telling her.

Pintobean39

As long as you are able to support your children and are not expecting family for financial support and not expecting them to be your free baby sitter than they have no right to say a word about how many kids you have.

MusicFanatic

I'm still working on one.
But people will always have opinions.  People will bitch if you want none, it's not what people in society would do.  People will bitch if you have an only. "they need a sibling!!!!!!!!!!!" People will bitch if you have two... and god forbid they're the same sex. "Are you going to try for a girl now???"  People will bitch if you have 3... "shit, too many kids..."

Forget people and their opinions.

wirt2cute

I have two and both our families would love for us to have a 3rd. My mom is more excited than we are that we are trying. 

NerdyLucy

MusicFanatic said:

I'm still working on one.
But people will always have opinions.  People will bitch if you want none, it's not what people in society would do.  People will bitch if you have an only. "they need a sibling!!!!!!!!!!!" People will bitch if you have two... and god forbid they're the same sex. "Are you going to try for a girl now???"  People will bitch if you have 3... "shit, too many kids..."

Forget people and their opinions.

This.  Somebody will ALWAYS be bitching.

JNCPro3130

I'm with everyone else.  If you can afford them and love them like they deserve, then go for it!  What makes me mad is people who aren't financially stable/independent having child after child.  If you can't support the one/s you have, what makes you think having another is a good idea?

nina&bill

My BFF just had her 3rd! She is good now, but the pregnancy with 2 under 5, she felt bad for snapping at them probably faster than she intended. She was very tired in the later months and didn't get as much of a rest. She made her first two pregnancies look like a dream so it was definitely a surprise to the both of us that this one was more emotional. Their families didn't seem too bothered but they both come from a 3 children families! To each their own is my thought!

barely

SassyMommaC said:

DH's family thinks we're insane for wanting 6 and refuse to believe that we actually want that many OR that we'll go through with it. My former coworkers all thought I was ridiculous too. I personally don't care. People can think what they want of me. As long as we're supporting them, loving them, and raising them well, it isn't anyone else's business how many kids we have.

I'd love to have 6, but don't think it's realistic for us so I say 3-4. You go girl!

triagain2

Glad to hear that I am not alone...although that means there Re a lot of unnecessarily opinionated people out there.

OnceInLoveWithAmy

I come from a family of four, so my parents obviously are all about the more the merrier.  My husband is an only child, and his parents LOVE LOVE LOVE the idea of more grandkids (honestly, they were born to be grandparents), so I think they'd like to see me pop out 6 or 7 kids.

Honestly though, I can't even imagine how it's ANYONE'S business how many kids you decide to have.  That blows my mind that anyone would really have an opinion.  

meganglr

I always wanted five.  Lucked out with twins the first time around and then my son didnt take TOO long, bc it appears gettin knocked up isnt as easy as some people would have you believe.  Go figure.  One more and we'll be done. 
But I'm with everyone else in here.....tell anyone who has an opinion about your life to go scratch!  I cant believe anyone would care, let alone say something.  awful:(  hopefully they change their minds when your time comes.

wishiwaspreggo

My mom and my MIL would probably be thrilled if we had 6 kids (because we are literally the only ones in our families interested in reproducing at all right now) but we'll probably have 2-3.  I kind of want 3.  C and I came from families of three and - I am not saying this is the case with all families, BUT - she and I are the only siblings who are keeping our families together.  I was an oopsie baby (my parents wanted to stop at 2) but being the only girl and the only mentally and emotionally stable among the three of us, I'm their shot at an extended family.  No pressure, right? 8-| Same thing for C.  One of her brothers is an ex-convict and a heroin addict.  Her other brother is estranged and no one's heard from him in 3 years.  So yeah... Good times.

Anyway, point is: no one should tell you how many kids you should have.  My second cousin is on his fourth and it pisses me off (mostly because I'm jealous of his fertile myrtle wife).  But it's their choice as to how many kids they want.  I won't say a word one way or another.

nswain85

You guys should do what you want and tell other people to mind their own business! If having a certain number of kids will make you happy then power on, it's not them caring for your kiddos it's you so you can be happy with whatever number you'd like

Pookieson

My DH has a limit of two kids.  We already have one (well, I have a DD from a previous marriage, but he considers her to be his kind of thing).  He has the *personal* belief that people should only have enough kids to replace themselves on the planet (he's sciency...so....)  IE: each couple has two kids.  He doesn't care if people have more if they can afford them, send them to school...that kind of stuff.  It's the people who have 9 kids and are not caring for them that makes him very angry.  

I am more open.  I don't care if you have one or 100 if you can afford them.

divinemsbee

It funny to me that people are talking about how they come from big families or their parents come from big families so they're getting support on having more kids. My mom is one of 8, her dad is one of 12, she had three of us. But she still, I'm almost positive, will/would not be stoked about us having more than 2 (maybe more than 1, have I mentioned how incredibly unexcited she's been about me having kids?).