Can't stop worrying about a miscarriage

mmathews85

This is my first pregnancy and I'm only 6 weeks, almost 7. I keep hearing horror stories about miscarrying right around this time or even as far a long as 20wks and I just can't stop thinking about it. I'm stressing myself out! For instance, for the past couple of weeks I've been waking up in the middle of the night with hunger pains, but this week I've slept through the night just fine. In my worried mindset I take this as a sign that something might be wrong, even though I have no other indication that this is the case (no cramping, no bleeding, etc). I also know that miscarriage is most often the result of chromosomal errors and that there is nothing you can do to really cause yourself to have one, but it would still be heartbreaking. Anyway, I'm a healthy 28 yr old, very active - any help you can give me on how to curb my fears or just 'let it be?' Thanks all!

beccam1230

There's really not much you will hear to make you stop worrying, it's completely normal to worry and pretty much unavoidable. Just try to relax, put your feet up, go get pampered, do things you enjoy. Like pp said, symptoms will come and go. It doesn't mean anything in terms of having a healthy pregnancy or not. At the beginning of my pregnancy, I was constantly waking up in the middle of the night insanely hungry, it lasted a little while and then it stopped. My symptoms would change often... my baby boy is perfectly healthy and was born on March 10 :-) try not to stress out TOO much!

awc1986

It's perfectly normal to worry. Especially on a board like this where so many of us have experienced loss. Just because it happens to other people, doesn't mean it will happen to you. Also, if it does happen (heaven forbid), its no indication of your future ability to have children. Many of us are living proof of that. I had a MCC last May and am currently 34.5wks pregnant with my daughter.
The best thing you can do is stay away from Dr google and just enjoy your pregnancy. Symptoms change from day to day and are no indication of impending miscarriage. As long as you're not bleeding and having painful cramps, just keep on truckin! Congrats!

gingerkid9989

theresat858 said:

Guess what...even after 20 weeks, you can lose your baby. It just becomes pregnancy loss rather than a miscarriage at 20 weeks. 

The reality is that some percentage of pregnancies will end in loss. There is nothing you can do to prevent it, and there is nothing your doctor can do to change it. 

Focus on things other than being pregnant.

This.  With my first pregnancy (that ended in miscarriage), I worried about everything.  It did absolutely no good.  This time around I find myself forgetting I'm pregnant, because I don't focus all of my attention on it all day long.  Take care of yourself, take your vitamins and take it one day at a time. 

Rainbow17

Mmsathews I can totally relate to your post.  Its like you took the words right out of my mouth.  I'm just going to do what I can to stop thinking about it.  But its hard.  For example, this week, I don't feel pregnant, so I'm worried if everything is going on okay with my baby.

Helenahhandbasket

I think your fears are normal.

Honestly though, there's not much you can do to prevent having a miscarriage (unfortunately). 

I wish you a H & H 9 months.

HZ2012

*lurking*

Your odds of carrying full term are way higher than your odds of having a m/c.

Your symptoms will come and go - this does NOT mean something is wrong. Enjoy the days that you feel good - trust me!

It's normal to be nervous, but don't obsess. I wish I didn't obsess over the "what ifs" for 9 months like I did. I gave birth to a happy healthy boy last May and just wish that I would've enjoyed being pregnant. I didn't bc I was too busy being nervous.

H&H 9 months to you!

MrsAdventure

Just wanted to say I completely understand. And about your specific example of hunger pains, same thing happened to me at right about the same time (I am also 28, just a little over 7 weeks). About a week or so ago they just stopped happening. I was actually famished all the time, I'd eat never feel full. Fast foreward to now where I eat a third of what I normally would and feel like I've over eaten and might hurl. Don't worry, I'm sure your time for that is coming too Being pregnant is a lot like not being pregnant, but wanting to be. When you want to be, every bit of heartburn, nausea and anytime your overtired, you think, 'oh, I could be pregnant.' And when your pregnant, your brain thinks the opposite. 'Oh crap. I'm not starving anymore, I don't have m/s, or my boobs stopped hurting', what's wrong with my baby?? We're just hard wired to worry about things we don't have a lot of control over. Your not alone!

snickerdoodle84

I'm 5 weeks and 4 days tomorrow. MC is a worry for me too but I keep telling myself to not worry about something that is out of my control and to just focus on keeping myself healthy for the baby.