Overly eager in-laws??

2Swanns

I can't imagine being asked all the time. My husband and I never wanted children and were clear from the beginning that it just wasn't for us. It came up a few times, but we didn't entertain any invasive questions. It's been years since anyone has brought up kids to us (except strangers who can't fathom the fact that we've been married almost 9 years and don't have children). 

Well, now we're thinking of having children and we will not share that info with our families. If we end up getting pregnant, we will tell them when we're three months and ready to tell everyone. Don't get me wrong, we are very close with our families. We just don't think they need to know about our reproductive desires or habits.

Good luck to you!

MrsMCBMar2014

Well, this weekend was extremely interesting.  Saturday we had dinner with FIL and SMIL.  They asked how married life was going and I said great.  When H left to go move his car for SMIL to go pick up the food order, I told FIL that MIL was being a tad bit on the overly enthusiastic side with wanting me to get pregnant, like yesterday.  He laughed and said that he knew this was going to happen.  He said that he knows we're trying (H told him in private earlier that evening) and said to not take anything that MIL says to heart and to flat out ignore her questions.  I smiled and said thank you.  Of course he did ask how it was going and I said not yet...hopefully soon. To which his response was - just go with the flow and don't stress over it.  I couldn't help but hug him.  Sometimes we bump heads but FIL and SMIL are the logical more sane ones on H's side.  SMIL is excited and said she can't wait to babysit, etc.  She said that between her son and H, we are her only hope right now since SMIL's daughter won't be having kids (they flat out don't want any).  Thankfully both FIL and SMIL are supportive and don't ask a million and one questions every time they talk to us. 

Sunday before house hunting we stopped at MIL's house to see her for a little bit. First words out of her mouth "So, when are you having a baby?"  I snapped.  I looked at H and turned to her to say very dry and bluntly "We will have a baby once you stop pressuring us for a grandchild.  The stress that you are putting on not only me but H is making us re-think even telling you if and when we get pregnant.  We have only been married for 2 weeks and you're jumping on us like we can just pop a baby out RIGHT NOW.  It doesn't work that way.  It can be up to a year for us to conceive a baby.  Back off and go bother SIL with your badgering if you want a grand baby that bad."  H patted me on the back and said he couldn't have said it better himself.  MIL got all huffy and we left a few minutes later (we stayed a total of 10 minutes).  H then got a call about 5 minutes after we left apologizing to HIM about bothering us about a grand baby.  H said that she shouldn't be apologizing to him that she should apologize to me.  From what I heard (since she talks so loud) "Why should I apologize to her when she went off on ME?"  H told her he would talk to her later and hung up.  

Can you tell MIL is a drama queen.  Both H and I agreed that we would tell her after we tell my parents, FIL & SMIL, and our siblings.  That way she doesn't bombard us with crap.  I feel horrible around her and told H that if we have to go over there again, I won't be going.  He understands. I just hope that stress that I have right now, doesn't reflect badly during this cycle.