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Am I wrong? WWJ12 do?
EandIMommy86
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I was taking DH to work this morning and he wanted to play this new CD he got. It was hip hop, which is fine, but within a minute of the song he had said a racial slur after every sentence about 5 times, and had said several swear words. I told DH how many more times is he going to say that? He got upset and we got into an argument. I told him DD is at the age now where she mimics stuff she hears and I do not want her picking language like that up. Plus, that type of music is not stimulating to the brain and DS doesn't need to hear it either even though he doesn't know what is going on.
DH part of the argument was "Well I like hip-hop and the kids are always around so I can never listed". I told him most of the time I do not take him to work, so he can listen in the car to work and from work and he also can listen on his laptop with headphones, or he can close the door to our bedroom and listen to it. He had a complaint for almost every suggestion and blamed me that this never happens.
I am irritated because it seems like he doesn't care that DD can pick up on certain language and he said he never gets to listen to it. I wanted to say" Well you have kids now so you adjust and you need to listen on your own time" but that would have made it even worse. So now he went to work mad at me. This is carrying over from yesterday when he asked me to cook something after knowing I had already fallen asleep earlier from being so drained during the day, put both kids to sleep and did some housework...while he was in the bedroom watching Youtube videos. I burst into tears like you are seriously asking me to cook you something right now when most of my day was hectic, I put the kids to sleep and cleaned up? He said "fine don't worry about it." My DH KNOWS how to cook and we had plenty of stuff he could make, he just didn't want to do it.
Sorry for the vent, but it has been bugging me. What would you do in this music argument?
DH part of the argument was "Well I like hip-hop and the kids are always around so I can never listed". I told him most of the time I do not take him to work, so he can listen in the car to work and from work and he also can listen on his laptop with headphones, or he can close the door to our bedroom and listen to it. He had a complaint for almost every suggestion and blamed me that this never happens.
I am irritated because it seems like he doesn't care that DD can pick up on certain language and he said he never gets to listen to it. I wanted to say" Well you have kids now so you adjust and you need to listen on your own time" but that would have made it even worse. So now he went to work mad at me. This is carrying over from yesterday when he asked me to cook something after knowing I had already fallen asleep earlier from being so drained during the day, put both kids to sleep and did some housework...while he was in the bedroom watching Youtube videos. I burst into tears like you are seriously asking me to cook you something right now when most of my day was hectic, I put the kids to sleep and cleaned up? He said "fine don't worry about it." My DH KNOWS how to cook and we had plenty of stuff he could make, he just didn't want to do it.
Sorry for the vent, but it has been bugging me. What would you do in this music argument?
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Re: Am I wrong? WWJ12 do?
Make it clear what you want and expect from each other. I feel like I've read you say "He knows" or "He should know" on many occasions. He won't know until you tell him.
This comes from a place of been there, done that, not judgy or snarky. The early years of our relationship had me thinking/saying "Brian should know..." 15 years later he knows what I want/feel because I tell him.
I like the song but I don't see how it can be interpreted in any other way than the way in which it was written. While it is too complex for our J12 babies to "get" it's still really heavy stuff.
"Mark Foster explained the song's meaning to Spinner UK: "'Pumped Up Kicks' is about a kid that basically is losing his mind and is plotting revenge. He's an outcast. I feel like the youth in our culture are becoming more and more isolated. It's kind of an epidemic. Instead of writing about victims and some tragedy, I wanted to get into the killer's mind, like Truman Capote did in In Cold Blood. I love to write about characters. That's my style. I really like to get inside the heads of other people and try to walk in their shoes."
Foster says he considered writing the song from the perspective of the victim, but felt that would be a cop out. He also points out that there is no actual violence in the song, as the threats are all the kid's internal monologue."
Baby einstein videos seem to be more about the visuals they see on the screen and how they can relate the language to those visuals. They do things like counting, colors, shapes etc. The music they play along with it is very soft and calm. There are a bunch of baby brands that do this exact same thing so I do not see the big deal with baby einstein specifically, but I understand the concept of these types of things for baby. The problem with baby einstein specifically is that they have videos for children as young as 3 months. To me, a child should not be getting any TV screening time that young. There are plenty of other ways to stimulate their mind at that age.
I don't mind edited or old school hop hop where slurs and foul language are a lot less. I gave it a chance when he put it I'm and if within a minute it was that bad, imagine the rest of it.