Things Dr's say

dragossoul84

So I saw my least favorite OB at my practice today and the things that come out of this guys mouth seem borderline malpractice to me. They are having a hard time controling my GD so he tells me he he doesnt want me to eat anything just drink water for the next 5 weeks. And then follows that up with that I could afford to lose the weight any way. Are you kidding me! I mean yes I am fat but I eat really healthy things and I'm following the GD diet how can a Dr say that to someone

talkthewholetime

.....what.

I'll cheer you up with this one. I brought my husband to one of my appointments and introduced him to a doctor he hadn't met.

Doctor: "So who's that other guy you've been bringing to your appointments?"

Winner.

CamrynnsMommy

Dick! Yes, please drink water only for the next 5 weeks.

Sounds like horrible bedside manner to me.

dragossoul84

He's super awful. He has already told me my stitches wont stay because they don't on fat ppl. And then was reaming me out for having a c-section until I asked him to read my file and he saw that it was a medical needed c-section.

Mimaloo

Um.......wow. No words for that. 

bridetobe9132013

What a jerk! Next time punch him in the face but I would be complaining about him.

kshampeny

Holy crap!  That's totally harassment.  What a fucker.  I would be having a discussion with my doctors office that I never want to see that doctor again, and that for the sake of the reputation of their practice, they may want to think about correcting his behavior or getting rid of him.

julesf817

Wow, that's awful! my grandmother told me that back when she was pregnant in the 50's her doctor tried to put her on a "bread and water" diet because she was gaining so much weight. turns out it was when she was pregnant with my AUNTS, as in twins. you'd think a doctor today would know better than to say something so ridiculous though.

firebelle26

Whoa, what an ass! I would definitely be saying something to the office about him. After I kicked him in the dick.

Bootsie327

dragossoul84 said:

He's super awful. He has already told me my stitches wont stay because they don't on fat ppl. And then was reaming me out for having a c-section until I asked him to read my file and he saw that it was a medical needed c-section.

You should definitely complain about him to someone - whether it's another doctor at the practice you like, or something. I'm serious! There is one doctor I don't care for at my practice. He told me to do kick counts at 24 weeks, practically punched me in the solar plexus when demonstrating to the med student how to find fundal height (and said something idiotic like "don't be afraid to press hard"), and then gave me a hard time about weight gain, which at that point really wasn't severe. To top it off kept saying "yippee kayay" about everything (eg, "You chart says posterior placenta...yippee kayay"), to the point where I think DH almost punched him in the face. I complained about him to the doctor I love, and she said they've been getting a lot of complaints about him, and that he's new, so they're taking all of the comments very seriously. I think they're trying to build a case to get him out. So definitely do it!

SMM1986

Oh that's awful! He needs a dick punch, stat.

My first OB with DD produced the comment "you keep it neat down there".
I switched to a different OB.

dragossoul84

I complained after my last appointment I'm not even supposed to see him I'm supposed to see only the female dr since I was a victim of an assult and am very uncomfortable being touched by men other than DH. The practice is garbage I would have switched but the only other place close to me couldnt have me. They are awful is there some where bigger than the office I can go to complain?

deanna1313

That's really horrible. I can't imagine dealing with that. I'm complaining about how openly my drs are complaining about my 26lb weight gain. That's nothing compared to what you're dealing with. There is no excuse for him treating you that way. Sorry you have that jerk for a doctor:(

ThereBeDragons

dragossoul84 said:

I complained after my last appointment I'm not even supposed to see him I'm supposed to see only the female dr since I was a victim of an assult and am very uncomfortable being touched by men other than DH. The practice is garbage I would have switched but the only other place close to me couldnt have me. They are awful is there some where bigger than the office I can go to complain?

Confirm with each scheduling appointment that you are being seen by the doctor you have asked to see. You have the absolute right to refuse to allow that doctor to treat you and if you have already complained- it should be noted on your file. If he walks in anyway, despite those precautions- walk out. Do not allow anyone to railroad you into being seen by a doctor who you feel uncomfortable with. 

 

True story- at my 6week post partum appointment following my late loss last pregnancy- I asked my doc, what had happened? How could I prevent this kind of loss from happening again? He said "These things happen with unnatural pregnancies." And spent a few seconds blowing me off about every concern I brought up saying that there was no medical basis for future prevention of another pregnancy loss. Then he took a phone call during the appointment and informed me that he had to see to a delivery at the hospital and to contact the nurses if I had any further questions- and walked out. I was 6 weeks out from delivering my dead child and the bastard treated me like a hysterical ninny who had brought all of this on myself by doing IVF to get pregnant. 

Needless to say, I left the appointment in tears and it wasn't until I'd had time to process how incredibly badly I had been treated that I realized that something had to be done. I called the practice manager and had my records changed to the on call doc who had actually held my hand and been kind during the placental delivery at the hospital and asked that a giant note be placed on my file that I was never, EVER, to be seen or treated by my former doctor again. Ever. 

When I came back with this pregnancy, they tried to schedule me with my old doctor as he was the last one on my file to have seen me and I refused. I gave them three days to transfer my records to my doctor of choice or I would find another practice to be seen at. And at every appointment since (and given my high risk status that's a lot of appointments) I confirm that I am to be seen by Dr. Bruce- and that if, for any reason, Dr Bruce cannot see me- that I am informed of the doctor filling in for her in advance of being placed in a room to wait for the doc. I will not be seen by my old doc again. If he is on call when I go to deliver, there is a hospital staff OBGYN who is perfectly capable of catching my baby and I know that I have the right to deny my old doctor access to my room. Id rather give birth with no one but a nurse and DH to catch the baby than have to see that doctor in a medical capacity ever again.

And that is my right as a patient.

dragossoul84

I'm so sorry Dragons. I can't believe he treated you like that. Thats good advice. I am being seen by the perinatalogist every week at least they are nice to me

sisterjanet

dragossoul84 said:

I complained after my last appointment I'm not even supposed to see him I'm supposed to see only the female dr since I was a victim of an assult and am very uncomfortable being touched by men other than DH. The practice is garbage I would have switched but the only other place close to me couldnt have me. They are awful is there some where bigger than the office I can go to complain?

If there are no higher-ups, there are at least doctor review websites.  Broadcast that far and wide, because his complete asshole-ness should be known.

sisterjanet

SMM1986 said:

Oh that's awful! He needs a dick punch, stat. My first OB with DD produced the comment "you keep it neat down there". I switched to a different OB.

Oh ew.  All by itself that's creepy, but OBs chose to specialize in birth, which is not what I'd call neat, especially not 'down there.'  (WTF kind of OB says "down there" anyway?)

Roufi

Wow these are all unbelievably rude things for anyone to say, much less for a professional who should be guiding/accompanying/providing professional services throughout (and in many cases, after) pregnancy. So awful!

@MK1013‌ at about 16 wks or so I saw a nurse instead of my GP and she strongly insinuated that I was starving myself and therefore my baby, out of vanity because I am (was) slim and had gained less than 5lbs. Fast forward to 34 wks and I don't even want to think about how she would comment on the fact that I have now gained 36 lbs (12 in the last month and a half).

Goes to show that anyone can be a jerk.

Roufi

@SMM1986‌ that is SO creepy! You definitely did the right thing switching.

babyaotw

I'm sorry a doctor treated you that way, it is unbelievable. You should definitely complain, even if it's sending an anonymous letter or something. You shouldn't be treated like that.

theoryofwhat

That was seriously screwed up of your OB, OP. I would've racked the dude.

Tuesday, I was at my OB getting my weekly check up and I started to have some back pain and cramping. I told her as soon as I felt it and she got up, touched my belly and told me, "Oh, you're just having a contraction." I got hooked up to a monitor and had several more. She told me to go home and drink water. I downed about 6 bottles at home and nothing changed. I called in to tell them and they told me I must not be drinking enough. Thanks guys.

awc1986

Wait, what? He told you to consume nothing but water for 5 weeks? That's dangerous for someone who ISN'T pregnant, let alone someone who is sustaining an extra human being. He shouldn't be practising if he thinks that's appropriate medical advice.

mileswithmyles

What a jackass!

My first OB was horrible. He told me my baby's heart rate was low at my first ultrasound when it wasn't, it was just at the low end of average. This was following my loss, so I freaked out.

He also told me not to run because "it might jolt the baby." So glad I switched doctors!

JAM85

I'm pretty sure I would have ripped his balls off and DH damn well would have. Not joking- that is infuriating. Is there sown where higher like the liscencing agency for doctors (AMA?) to complain about him? Obviously definitely tell that practice what he did and that you will not only leave but if they do not correct his behavior will be sure to let everyone you know know about how poorly they handled it. And of course that you should never ever have to see his face again.

iqwedding3

What an ass.  And especially, what a crappy practice to put you with a male OB after what you've been through

candrew05

That is definitely unacceptable for him! I wouldnt let it go.

fatbarbie0226

What a horrific thing to say! Not ok at all!

One of the OBs in the practice I go to has not been very good at all. During the beginning of my pregnancy, we always had a hard time finding LO's heartbeat. Well, for one appointment at around 17 weeks, we couldn't find it again, but this OB said he kinda heard it behind my own heartbeat. Instead of going in for an ultrasound, he said "I don't have a crystal ball, so I can't tell you that everything is going to be ok, but there is a heartbeat there." And sent me on my way. I spent the next few weeks freaking out that the OB didn't know for sure if everything was ok!

I feel like doctors sometimes say the most ignorant things because they try to "dumb it down" for us non-doctors and it comes out all wrong. They shouldn't assume we need things "dumbed down".

I hope you did file a complaint and that doctor gets reprimanded for his terrible bed side manner.