UO Thursday

JNerd

LoHerrim said:

I don't think babies need a crap ton of stuff. I am a minimalist I suppose. Obviously, they need the essentials like clothes, diapers, wipes, car seat, etc. But honestly all the other crap drives me crazy. The "pee pee tee pees" are dumb, the bags for your baby's diapers are a waste of plastic, the diaper genies are a waste of space and smell terrible, all the toys that your kid wont play with because they would rather play with the box... Seeing people lug around 50 lbs of baby crap makes me smh. They don't NEED it, you're only making it harder for yourself! 

YES! Everything above and beyond a safe way to travel, a safe place to sleep, a clean bum, clothes and a way to feed the baby is for the parents, not the child. A child is perfect safe playing/laying on the floor. They do jot need to be confined in some sort of chair or swing all the time.

And it seems wasteful to spend so much money in items that have such a limited timeframe/ usage.

Pepper6

lalala8 said:

I just watched Frozen.  It was cute and I enjoyed it, but I also don't get all the crazy hype over it.  Still doesn't compare to Beauty and the Beast...best Disney princess movie ever ;-p  

I really liked Frozen, but I think I'll always be Team Little Mermaid

Little Mermaid comes in a close second.  But alas, B&tB was always 'my' movie and TLM was always 'my sisters' movie.  We shared a room growing up, so we each had the corresponding sheets and pjs.

tbmadeamistake

Hospital tours are great for those of anxiety ridden fools who don't like hospitals, or sleeping new places, or change, and like to be prepared for it. "Normal" people who don't have that issue, eh.

Dhs family gives all the oys the fathers name as a middle name. So he and both his brothers have Ronald as a middle name. Nuh uh. Not happening here.

jaybee11

Rachel5130 said:

MommyP710 said:

I am not a fan of naming boys Jr. or the third and so on.

DH is named after his father; however, FIL didn't want to be Sr.  So rather than being Jr., my husband is the second (hillbilly logic there).  Thank goodness we're in total agreement that there will not be a third.  Who the heck wants to pass on the middle name Eugene anyway?  It was bad enough the first time around.

************************** We plan to. It goes well with any first name. And no one cares about what someone's middle name is. Just first name.

Touche.  Well, consider that challenge accepted and accomplished.    To each their own.

chickpea912

Pepper6 said:

lalala8 said:

I just watched Frozen.  It was cute and I enjoyed it, but I also don't get all the crazy hype over it.  Still doesn't compare to Beauty and the Beast...best Disney princess movie ever ;-p  

I really liked Frozen, but I think I'll always be Team Little Mermaid

Little Mermaid comes in a close second.  But alas, B&tB was always 'my' movie and TLM was always 'my sisters' movie.  We shared a room growing up, so we each had the corresponding sheets and pjs.

I'm trying to get to a place where I'm totally fine with M watching Beauty and the Beast (I will 100% admit to having a knee jerk reaction to most Disney Princess movies... hell, I have a huge knee jerk reaction to pretty much anything from the Princess Industrial Complex, but I'm working on making sure I am being rational and thoughtful about my responses and choices), but TLM is such a disappointment to me that DH and I agree that we will never own a copy in our home.  I'm trying to decide if I'd let her watch it once just so we could have a conversation about it, including the problematic parts to me (otherwise I feel like I'd be a hypocrite for being so against it without utilizing it as a teaching opportunity for my child).

jaybee11

Lilygrace48 said:

Hospital tours are great for those of anxiety ridden fools who don't like hospitals, or sleeping new places, or change, and like to be prepared for it. "Normal" people who don't have that issue, eh. Dhs family gives all the oys the fathers name as a middle name. So he and both his brothers have Ronald as a middle name. Nuh uh. Not happening here.

Ha...that's DH's first name.  Maybe it's the combination with Eugene that he can't get over...

deepoceanmama

LoHerrim said:

deepoceanmama said:

I love it when random strangers touch my belly. For realz.

THERE. I SAID IT.

Say WHAT?!?

I know. Freak show over here.

elsa1688

@emilyh107‌ @LoHerrim‌ @JNerd‌ what would you suggest in a minimal diaper bag? I hate lugging crap around

coffee89

I'm only doing a hospital tour because there are questions I would rather direct at the staff than my OB. Yes he only delivers at one hospital but he is the only doctor in his office and it's highly likely I won't be seeing him. I also tend to panic if I'm in an urgent situation alone and knowing where to go and where to tell DH where to go and do will be comforting.

As for clothes I'm so tired of whales, monkeys and blue already. I just want some yellow, pastels, green...anything that doesn't scream "boy" clothes.

I'm only going to my shower for the benefit of my sister. I don't like the forced socialization, the generic finger foods, the stupid games and the idea of opening gifts in front of people like a child's birthday. I'd do a meet and greet or just a BBQ get together but I know this means more to her so I'm going with it. I skipped having a wedding shower for the same reason and I don't feel bad  or like I missed our on something at all for it. 

wtfisup

@Lilygrace48, I am an anxiety ridden fool (doing pregnancy unmedicated) who did the hospital tour mainly because anything vaguely informative helps me feel prepared. They don't really tell you much you actually need to know beforehand. For us, parking was probably the most valuable part. Our hospital is part of a mega-medial complex in the middle of a mega-large university. I'd say that was our biggest takeaway. 

kbellizio3

Read247 said:

I don't like superhero movies, except for Hancock. That one was great. (Thanks penis news story for inspiring that UO )

But... And...

This, this is the best argument for superhero movies. (and call me a nerd but I will be PISSED if my Captain America shirt doesn't fit me on April 4th when the new movie comes out.)

 

I don't have a UO today...I just wanted to oogle the lovely gifs of these fine superheroes 

wtfisup

LoHerrim said:

@muffinhny nah, I don't enjoy baby showers. The games are not fun, people are uncomfortable, and I don't like being the complete center of attention. Usually. 

Our circle does pretty nontraditional showers. No games, no baby crap. Just a hangout with food and booze (sadz for me) where gifts are dropped on a table, with opening them optional. The core of any event should be "people having a good time," and to hell with convention. I hate normal showers; they're totally just afternoon parties in my crew, though. 

ETA: To all the folks saying you hate X, Y, and Z about showers, then why not ditch that part? Tell your host what you don't like. If they're a real friend, they should be like, "Cool. We can work with that." I totally don't understand people having events that suck. Just make them not sucky. 

flerlgirl

Meh, I don't think it's a big deal if you want to dress your boys in all blue or your girls in pink and frills. They're babies. They don't care right now. I like pink, so my girl will wear pink. When she is able to tell me what she likes I am happy to accommodate her but I think people get too hyped up about it overall. DS is usually in firetrucks, baseballs, trains, etc. Not because I don't think he can like feminine stuff but because he looks darn cute in firetrucks. 

tbmadeamistake

wtfisup said:

@Lilygrace48, I am an anxiety ridden fool (doing pregnancy unmedicated) who did the hospital tour mainly because anything vaguely informative helps me feel prepared. They don't really tell you much you actually need to know beforehand. For us, parking was probably the most valuable part. Our hospital is part of a mega-medial complex in the middle of a mega-large university. I'd say that was our biggest takeaway. 

I need to be able to see where I'm going to be.  It's less where everything else is, it's what will my room look like and how hospitally does it feel and that sort of thing.  I had a major panic attack our second in the hospital with C and it sucked.  Since then they've redone the entire floor, so I want to do another tour just to see the differences.  Blergh.

JNerd

elsa1688 said:

@emilyh107‌ @LoHerrim‌ @JNerd‌ what would you suggest in a minimal diaper bag? I hate lugging crap around

Depends on the age. Newborn- 2 outfits, something to carry the soiled outfit home in, diapers, wipes and a receiving blanket.

As they age, always keep the diapers and wipes as well as something to carry soiled articles in. The rest depends on your baby, but I got to a point with DS where I could tuck the necessities in my purse and we were fine.

When you first start- might be an idea to pack what you think you might need, do an outing a day for a week, and at the end of the week review what you did and did not use and make that you 'list' going forward.

elsa1688

@KrystaJ‌ I feel ya. My grandma and sister are actively trying to sabotage my baby shower. I know it would be wonderful if they weren't there and I'm pissed they both ruin everything.

@LoHerrim‌ thanks!!

@flerlgirl‌ agreed.

folding

Coming to work sick.... not cool.    I'm not talking about a cold, though those are annoying, of course.  The partner who came in today with strep.... come on now.    It's nice that you're keeping your door mostly closed, but...

Pepper6

We're going to do the hospital tour too.  I'm sure I'd be just fine without it because I don't really have any anxieties about being there, but eh...I like to know where I'm going and I figure it'd be easier to know beforehand than trying to figure it out while I'm in the midst of contractions.

lest12

This is like, totally two pages ago, but I don't mind naming our son Jr.  In fact, I suggested it to DH, and it is one of our options as far as naming the LO.

But we both come from families that use a lot of family names.  My name has been passed on for about 6 generations... my brother has my father's name as a middle name... DH is named after his uncle... Two of my uncles were named after each of my grandfathers.  I like it.  I like that it honors family members and I always loved that my name was "passed down" to me.

curlylocks3

JNerd said:

I don't think babies need a crap ton of stuff. I am a minimalist I suppose. Obviously, they need the essentials like clothes, diapers, wipes, car seat, etc. But honestly all the other crap drives me crazy. The "pee pee tee pees" are dumb, the bags for your baby's diapers are a waste of plastic, the diaper genies are a waste of space and smell terrible, all the toys that your kid wont play with because they would rather play with the box... Seeing people lug around 50 lbs of baby crap makes me smh. They don't NEED it, you're only making it harder for yourself! 

YES! Everything above and beyond a safe way to travel, a safe place to sleep, a clean bum, clothes and a way to feed the baby is for the parents, not the child. A child is perfect safe playing/laying on the floor. They do jot need to be confined in some sort of chair or swing all the time. And it seems wasteful to spend so much money in items that have such a limited timeframe/ usage.

Sounds a lot easier when you're dealing with one child, not two. And perhaps the mother's sanity has a price

flerlgirl

Merie412 said:

flerlgirl said:

Meh, I don't think it's a big deal if you want to dress your boys in all blue or your girls in pink and frills. They're babies. They don't care right now. I like pink, so my girl will wear pink. When she is able to tell me what she likes I am happy to accommodate her but I think people get too hyped up about it overall. DS is usually in firetrucks, baseballs, trains, etc. Not because I don't think he can like feminine stuff but because he looks darn cute in firetrucks. 

@flerlgirl You just so eloquently stated what I've been trying to word this whole time. We're a match made in heaven, LB, it's like you can read my mind.

you even used a Grey's gif... it's like we're sisters from another mister

elsa1688

I think completely dismissing all baby carriers is stupid.

Pepper6

I love the inappropriate/funny onesies.  Babies don't care/don't know what they are wearing, so why not make someone laugh?

   

rainbowdashh

I think AP has gotten a bad rap. Some of the AP parents I know are very intense and I don't like it. But I consider myself AP and it bums me out that it seems like the crazies have ruined it for those of us that fell into that category without realizing there was a name for it.

Also, I don't like labeling parenting styles. It's stupid.

PressLove

deepoceanmama said:

I love it when random strangers touch my belly. For realz.

THERE. I SAID IT.

You can have it!  I finally stopped being offended by the people I know.  Random strangers would find me rubbing their bellies.

curlylocks3

Rachel5130 said:

LoHerrim said:

@KrystaJ I'm only going to mine for the food. 

LoHerrim - Neither is serving food I can or want to eat. Major bummer. 

**********quote fail **** le sigh ********** What the actual fuck? That sounds counterproductive. Let's throw a party for you but you can't eat anything here. Sushi and shots for everyone! Oh... Here's some old crackers and a ketchup packet, guest of honor.

I'm not supposed to be eating sushi? Whoops. 

obscurereference

I love all the baby gear! Who cares if baby doesn't need all of it? It's fun, and sometimes even useful. And I don't want a bunch of boxes laying around my house; bring on the unneccesary toys.

I mean, adults really only need clothes, food, and shelter, but I'm guessing most of us have some extras.

rainbowdashh

Rachel5130 said:

ohyealovely said:

I think AP has gotten a bad rap. Some of the AP parents I know are very intense and I don't like it. But I consider myself AP and it bums me out that it seems like the crazies have ruined it for this of us that fell into that category without realizing there was a name for it.

Also, I don't like labeling parenting styles. It's stupid.

This is how I feel about breast feeding. I think the few "crazies" make it something it isn't to society for the rest of us.

Unfortunately those breastfeeding enthusiasts tend to be AP women. It makes me sad because when people realize that I am AP, they automatically assume I'm going to slap them in the face with my boob and the run home with my baby in a wrap to go bed share.

pcourtade

I'm totally putting headbands on DD. I do agree that the huge flowers and bows are annoying though. I don't get it. Is it to draw more attention to your baby?

pcourtade

I think Dirty Dancing and Top Gun are way over rated. I hadn't watched them before my DH and he made me watch them. I just don't get it.

rainbowdashh

LoHerrim said:

@ohyeahlovely what is AP?

Attachment parenting. I find it really hard to explain or give a definition because to me, it all came naturally. If that makes sense. If DD was crying, I always responded. I breastfed, I bed share about half of the time (cue the horrified looks), I wear her. It's about trying to form a strong bond early on. But like I said, I had no idea any of what I was doing was AP, it's just what I felt was right for us.

curlylocks3

ohyealovely said:

Rachel5130 said:

ohyealovely said:

I think AP has gotten a bad rap. Some of the AP parents I know are very intense and I don't like it. But I consider myself AP and it bums me out that it seems like the crazies have ruined it for this of us that fell into that category without realizing there was a name for it.

Also, I don't like labeling parenting styles. It's stupid.

This is how I feel about breast feeding. I think the few "crazies" make it something it isn't to society for the rest of us.

Unfortunately those breastfeeding enthusiasts tend to be AP women. It makes me sad because when people realize that I am AP, they automatically assume I'm going to slap them in the face with my boob and the run home with my baby in a wrap to go bed share.

Slapping them with your boob is so 1999. If you're going to really make a statement you're going to need to spray them with some breast milk.

rainbowdashh

LoHerrim said:

ohyealovely said:

LoHerrim said:

@ohyeahlovely what is AP?

Attachment parenting. I find it really hard to explain or give a definition because to me, it all came naturally. If that makes sense. If DD was crying, I always responded. I breastfed, I bed share about half of the time (cue the horrified looks), I wear her. It's about trying to form a strong bond early on. But like I said, I had no idea any of what I was doing was AP, it's just what I felt was right for us.

Is this considered a bad thing?? I wasn't aware that I could be labeled as such?

Some AP parents are seriously nuts about it. Like... If you're not doing it my way, you're wrong and your kid is going to messed up for life. I don't do CIO, but if someone else does, I'm not judging them. A lot of super intense AP parents think CIO is the worst ever and that the kid will have trust issues and blah blah blah. That's just one example. They also tend to be (not always) against vaccinations and into a more "crunchy" lifestyle.

diagonalley

I had a doctor's appointment today and the doctor commented about how "perfect" everything is so far in regards to my pregnancy.  I guess my second UO today is that it freaks me out that everything is going well because I feel like that just means something is going to go wrong.  I'm a natural worrier.

rainbowdashh

curlylocks3 said:

ohyealovely said:

Rachel5130 said:

ohyealovely said:

I think AP has gotten a bad rap. Some of the AP parents I know are very intense and I don't like it. But I consider myself AP and it bums me out that it seems like the crazies have ruined it for this of us that fell into that category without realizing there was a name for it.

Also, I don't like labeling parenting styles. It's stupid.

This is how I feel about breast feeding. I think the few "crazies" make it something it isn't to society for the rest of us.

Unfortunately those breastfeeding enthusiasts tend to be AP women. It makes me sad because when people realize that I am AP, they automatically assume I'm going to slap them in the face with my boob and the run home with my baby in a wrap to go bed share.

Slapping them with your boob is so 1999. If you're going to really make a statement you're going to need to spray them with some breast milk.

Hahahaha. You're right. I can make a game out of it. I'll try to get them in the eye! I hear it's good for everything.

tbmadeamistake

@Loherrim, my brother's ex was one of the crazy AP's, and she was nuts about it.  Like, having a carrier and being AP does NOT mean your baby's butt can never touch the floor.  Literally, I don't think my nieces knew what a floor was until they were 1.  Someone was always holding them, mostly her, in a carrier.  She wouldn't let them fuss for any amount of time, so they never learned to self soothe.  She turned herself into a martyr for her children.  Bed shared forever, breast fed forever, joined a home schooling group for preschool and they only saw the other kids once a week.  It's made it very difficult for them now, at 5 and 8, when they spend time with my brother.  The little one doesn't know how to fall asleep without someone in bed with her, she had to have surgery to remove four rotted teeth and get crowns on her back molars because she was falling asleep with a boob and milk in her mouth every night until she was 4.  With anything, there's the right balance to find, and some people go way over that. 

I'm all for extended breast feeding, I think if you are willing and want to do that for your child, great.  But, it does make people uncomfortable and I think you also need to be sensitive to that.  I'm not saying go hide in a bathroom, but learn some boundries.  My exSIL never did.  I'm all for extended bed sharing, but at some point your child needs to learn independence and these girls never did. 

 

Pepper6

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LoHerrim said:

@ohyeahlovely what is AP?

Attachment parenting. I find it really hard to explain or give a definition because to me, it all came naturally. If that makes sense. If DD was crying, I always responded. I breastfed, I bed share about half of the time (cue the horrified looks), I wear her. It's about trying to form a strong bond early on. But like I said, I had no idea any of what I was doing was AP, it's just what I felt was right for us.

Is this considered a bad thing?? I wasn't aware that I could be labeled as such?

I think the negative connotation of AP is similar to that of feminism.  AP is something that most parents do anyways without even really associating with the AP label, but because of the extreme end of the spectrum where people who loudly identify themselves as AP and try to push the most extreme ideals of it on everyone, it sort of gives it a bad name.  Just like most women are 'feminists' because in modern times, not many women believe they aren't equal to men.  But because of the extreme end of the spectrum of the 'bra-burning, man-hating feminist', most women think that identifying with feminism equates to the extremes when it really doesn't.

rainbowdashh

@LoHerrim‌ crying it out!

steprozz

im a totally half assed AP parent. I like the sound of a lot of it and try some things but realistically I know it just doesn't work for us. also I think Dr. Sears is an ass and I didn't agree with pretty much everything in his book, so there's that.

Rosebud2587

 I hate shirts with boob pockets (which is ironic because the maternity top I'm wearing right now has one but I didn't know that when I ordered it online). Like what's the point of putting a little tiny pocket over your boob? It's not like you're ever going to put anything in that pocket and I don't think it's flattering to the boob either.