Dealing with the CD "Flack"

TugboatSheila

So there was a brief conversation on my BMB about the flack or comments us  CD newbs have been getting from those around us when they find out we are planning on CDing.

We've gotten:

Just you wait and see!

Do you know that you'll have to touch poop????!!!!

Good luck with that *eye roll*

*straight laughter in our faces*

While nobody else's opinion on what catches my future son's poop matters and it certainly doesn't affect how I make my decisions, it is the sheer smugness and wish to see us fail that grinds my gears.

My question is, to those who are CDing now, did you also encounter this and did it stop after you kept CDing for awhile (once people saw that you were still trucking along)? Maybe we just know some judgey judgeresons but was just curious!

annathyst

People never said anything to my face because they know I'd shut them down is a flash. I did get lots of eye rolls though. Once people see how cute CDs are they usually shut up

ETA: spelling fail.

stoneycakes

People will say "just you wait and see" about everything parenting related.  First it's about newborn stuff, then it's "oh wait till they're walking," then it's "Oh he's not in the terrible two's yet?  Wait 'till he's three."  I've seriously already heard "wait until he's a teenager."  Just ignore it and keep on keeping on.

PipSqueak0313

stoneycakes said:

People will say "just you wait and see" about everything parenting related.  First it's about newborn stuff, then it's "oh wait till they're walking," then it's "Oh he's not in the terrible two's yet?  Wait 'till he's three."  I've seriously already heard "wait until he's a teenager."  Just ignore it and keep on keeping on.

Yep, wait til he's a teenager.    My teenage son made meatloaf, by himself, for supper tonight since Pip-Squeak got his 1 yr shots today and was needing my attention and dh has to work late tonight.  Seriously, teenagers can either be worse than 2yr olds or great -- depending on their mood.

OP, I have only gotten a You're going to do what? and People still use cloth diapers? a couple times.  Most people I know don't know/care what kind of diapers we use since they're not changing ds's diapers and the ones that do either like them or don't know enough to have an opinion one way or the other.

unaveragejane

We didn't get a lot of naysayers, but there were enough that it makes me want a CD embroidered with the words, "I told you so."

emmylou78

I didn't say much about it pregnant, bc honestly I wasn't sure if I *would* stick with it.  Now I have no problem mentioning it.  A lot of people don't know about modern CD or have ever heard of anyone doing it. But its not worth getting in an argument over and you should just do as you like.  Someone will always have an opinion.

tjkdlhb

I didn't say anything except to my mom and DH.  My mom rolled her eyes.  DH let me go about my business as long as I didn't spend *too* much at first... until we knew we liked it.

Now my mom says that if she had access to diapers as nice as mine she would have used cloth.  DH doesn't understand why anyone would use a disposable (and I used to hide the disposables away from him at first!) because a) cloth works better b) cloth is cheaper.

He even does the diaper laundry more often than I do!

I've had a bunch of friends say that if they were to do it again, they would use cloth because it's so cute!

tjkdlhb

Since I've been using cloth for a long time now, I've had people ask questions, but more out of genuine curiosity rather than rudeness... 

MoFree

I don't get any flack now but when I started I told people that I didn't wear dioxin laden clothing touching my privates so why should my baby. It shut them up very quickly.

TJ1979

I just tell them to suck it and punch them in the throat.

Not really. I didn't tell many people till after. But once people see them, they almost always say how cute, and think they're pretty cool.

psychobutthead

I've told people I want to cloth diaper. My family has been supportive and say they think its a great idea. DH's family has tried to talk me out of it and tell me how horrible it was when they had to do it.

TugboatSheila

Thanks Everyone for the responses, was just curious what other people encountered.

It definitely doesn't change what I plan on doing but I guess you're right, people love to comment on everything when you are having kids. It brings out the opinions  

TugboatSheila

^^^ no idea why everything is underlined

LaBellaVida

I pay them no mind. Its not worth even dealing with and defending. Those people I'm sure never used cloth diapers and have no idea.
Also, I internally giggle when I hear about major blow outs in Sposies, that shit hardly happens in CD.

N_Koz

It stopped when I started telling people that if I want their opinion I will give it to them. FYI I had to touch more poop using sposies as he was constantly blowing out of them and also do people think wipes are infallible? Oh wait I forgot people don't think and washing your hands is hard  8-|

Chichigo

I absolutely will not complain about diaper laundry to anyone but my mother because everyone else will suggest I just use "regular" diapers.

The best way to help me to be successful is to tell me I won't be. I'm so contrary I need to prove people wrong.

MAdams728

There was a lot of smirking. They are all pretty used to me being "weird" though, with organic food and natural products. I did get some I Told You So's at first, because I didn't CD from the beginning like I had wanted. She was so small that her nb stash swallowed her, and I was overwhelmed with nursing problems for the first couple of months. She was about 3 months when I tried again, and everything fit! She was all cloth after that and most of the family doesn't say anything.

softservecity

I had 2 people at work bet today that I won't last a month... It only came up because someone asked and I didn't lie. My mother rolled her eyes and threw out the "So whose gonna watch the baby?" card (meaning childcare for when I start back to work). I shrug it off...

TugboatSheila

softservecity said:

I had 2 people at work bet today that I won't last a month... It only came up because someone asked and I didn't lie. My mother rolled her eyes and threw out the "So whose gonna watch the baby?" card (meaning childcare for when I start back to work). I shrug it off...

My dad said something similar, it was totally bizarre. My mom was supportive enough to shoot him a look and tell him to mind his business.

Robi1

psychobutthead said:

I've told people I want to cloth diaper. My family has been supportive and say they think its a great idea. DH's family has tried to talk me out of it and tell me how horrible it was when they had to do it.

I think the key for me was not telling people that I "wanted" to CD, but just saying "this is what we're going to do". If you're confidant about your decision, and don't feel like you have to justify yourself or explain yourself, people will take you more seriously. 

I agree with the pp who said that this happens all throughout parenthood - there are so many people who say "just wait" or "you'll change your mind later on" and you just have to learn to ignore that. Now that I've been doing it full time with no problems for 8 months, no one says anything to me about it. 

runningyogimama

I didn't tell anyone until we had started using them and that was only if they saw me changing her diaper or commented about it. My mom was the only one besides DH who knew ahead of time because she was at my house when I opened a package with my PnNs in it and showed them to her.