Is anyone else planning on having a Midwife instead of an OB?
If so, is your partner on board?
Mine doesn't believe in a Midwife and I don't know how to make him understand that they are professionals to!
We have made a compromise that we'll have a Midwife and a Hospital birth. Hoping I can change his mind to agree to a birthing centre instead! I've got a few months to work on him! Ha ha
Re: Midwifery
Have your hubby come with you to all your appointments, having him participate fully is the best way to help him see it from your side. Hopefully your midwife can help answer some if his questions and concerns.
Best of luck!
Thank you ladies.
My Man should be coming to my apts with me if he isn't out of town working, I hope they can help ease his doubts for sure.
I really want a water birth, I take baths every day and they soothe me, so i think this would be beneficial for me and baby!
I love the natural and no intervention side of Midwifery care. If any of you haven't see The Business of Being Born, I recommend it. It's all about midwifery and natural childbirth. A very good watch.
When I first toured my house, I walked into the upstairs bathroom, saw the huge bath tub and thought, "Home birth!" It's part of the reason I bought my house.
MH has always been on board with me having whatever birth I wanted. It's my body and my birth, he respects that.
Perhaps give your partner a few books on the topic. Ina May Gaskin's are the gold standard.
You don't spend much time during labor with the actual doctor, your nurse is your main point of contact. Most people in my area justgo with the obgyn so their attention is stretched if there are multiple deliveries and complications. The midwives where I delivered have more time to spend with you and the nurse because their patient load is lighter. Plus, the rotation of who will be delivering your baby is one of like 6 people so I will have met them all before labor. I have had friends deliver who had not met their doctor before labor. In terms of whether they are less likelyto intervene i can't say. She let me decide what I wanted to do and didnt want to do, and supported that decision.
Just because they aren't an obgyn doesn't mean that they aren't highly educated and experienced in childbirth and prenatal care. And just because you see a midwife, it doesn't mean you are going to be doing a home birth, water birth, and depending on where the midwife operates out of, you may not even have to do a drug free birth.
But obgyn's aren't evil, either, by a long shot. I do agree with previous posts, and perhaps try to use midwives that operate out of a hospital as a way to compromise if he is willing. I dont know that he would know the difference between a midwife and an obgyn. My husband sure couldnt tell.
DD 2010 and DS 2012
Umm, DH, that was an emergency situation. Lets not shoot for a repeat. Thanks.
Didn't catch if this was your first pregnancy, but be prepared on the water birthing...I wanted this also for my first as it seemed so much more natural for the baby to go from water to water. However, the 2 hours I spent pushing in the birthing pool I wasn't pushing right. Once I moved to the bed I realized I was pushing way wrong. Also, depending on the birthing pool they provide, there isn't much traction or good handles to get a good grip. I'm planning on having this one most likely in the bed, but laboring in the tub/shower.
On the subject of midwife vs OB? no contest for me, midwife all the way. Though I value DH's opinion and concerns, if he objected to a midwife mainly out of ignorance, he would lose that battle. In my opinion, it's ultimately YOUR decision being as you are the one carrying and pushing out baby. You need to be in an environment that makes you happy, comfortable and healthy.
I like the idea of labouring in water and then delivering on/in bed.
Can you labour in the water in most hospitals? I am very new to all of this.
I think the key would be to get him to go to your appointments and have him ask any questions he may have.
I am hoping to have my midwife from there!