Using my maiden name as baby's middle name

katej11

Has anybody used their maiden name as their child's middle name? I was the last one with the family name until I got married. I have no brothers or boy cousins to carry on the family name. I'd love to use my maiden name for our child's middle name as a way to honor the family name I grew up with. Problem is, my maiden name isn't very common at all and doesn't exactly sound like it would be a middle name! Any thoughts?

queenbone

DS2 has my maiden name as his MN. It is a McName and not very first namey at all, but it still works. DS1 has his gr-g-ma's maiden name for his MN. It is also not first namey.

capulet

DS's MN is my maiden name.  My mom, my MIL, and I all switched our maiden name to the MN spot when we got married.  I don't think there's any reason any surname wouldn't work as a MN.

Dr.Loretta

I haven't, but my maiden name would make a terrible MN. If it's important to you, go for it. DD's MN is a surname to honor DH's side of the family

msmerymac

Like Queenbone, my last name (did not change it) is of the Scottish (in her case maybe Irish) variety and very last namey. After going through a ton of permutations, including combining our last names, my husband and I are pretty set on 2 middles. One "regular" middle (most likely a family name with meaning) and then my last name as a second middle. First name will be whatever we like best as a name, last name will be my husband's last name.

Our kids will have long names, but they will mean a lot. Oh, and my husband has 2 middles - his first name is a name MIL loved, his first middle is a saint's name (Catholic), the second middle is my MIL's maiden (now middle) name, and then his father's family's last name. He's never had a problem with it. He uses the first middle when asked his middle name, but has never seen the need to drop the second one.

slward03

Our son will have my maiden name as his middle name. I'm in the same situation as you and I know it will mean a lot to my dad.

mm529

I've very seriously considered it. My middle name was a tradition on both sides of my family so I dropped my maiden instead of taking it as my middle. Our future kids will either have my middle or my maiden for their mn depending on what we pick for them. 

genromeo

I didn't take my husband's name so we hyphenated our daughter's last name. It's clunky, but it just felt right for us. I say go with your gut. At the end of the day, it's a middle name. If your child ends up disliking it, there's no rule saying that he or she has to tell anyone. I had a friend in college who just went by Rachel B. Stone but never told anyone what the B stood for. It drove people nuts. Incidentally, I personally disliked my middle name so much that I had my name legally changed to remove it. (My parents don't know and they likely never will.) 

kindershlitz

I also did not change my name when I married. If we have another it's planned to use my last name as middle- very last namey. DH is not sold on this if we had a girl but I hope he'll come around. Ds has my father's mn as his mn. I am one who prefers significance of a mn over flow.

cmw&tdm

For both our boys we used our mothers' maiden names in the middle. Both very much surnames. I love using maiden names in the middle.

missilini

We are giving our daughter my maiden name. It is Lilly. I'm having a really hard time coming up with a first name that flows with it.

cappleby

We did the two middle name thing too. My husband has two middle names (both just ones his parents chose) so when we got married I just made my maiden name a middle. DS has two middles with the second being my maiden name. I'm pretty sure I will give DD due in august two middles as well. I figured they will only use all four names on official documents and if they want on diplomas and certificates. And they can always drop it later if they want

nearly_klo

I added my mums maiden name as a middle when I was 16. When dd1 was born, we used my middle name plus my maiden name. It has never been a problem for me having so many names, although I do curse it at work occasionally when I get writers cramp writing it all out!
For dd2 we used 2 of our grandma's names that were important to us and by happenstance the girls have the same middle initials - R M.

katej11

Thank you all so much for the replies! We are almost certain now that we will use my maiden name as baby's middle name. It is a true Czech last name and I've always been proud of it!

nittanyllama

I like maiden names / family surnames as middle names. But we did not do it.

jf198400

Personally I am not a fan of it, but that's just me, nothing wrong with it. My SIL had her moms maiden name as her middle name, she changed her middle name to her maiden name when she got married and took husbands last name.

Gapin1aj

I love that idea... I have known a family that all the kids have the same middle name which was their moms maiden name... Mine was just to weird for it to work...

alisonc87

You can get away with most any name if you can follow up with "it's a family name." If we have a boy he will have my maiden name for a middle name. 

coco0914

I have a friend who gave her daughter her maiden name as a middle name, but it seems to fit. My maiden name is long and there is no way it'd sound right with any name at all!