I haven't been able to find this on other boars so I figured I would try here. My boyfriend and I are having a baby in June 2014, a little girl. He's military and we've known each other since high school. When we first found out I was pregnant we were going through a rough patch and he didn't handle the news well. He pretty much pretended for the first 6 months that I wasn't pregnant and didn't want to hear about any of my pregnancy complaints (there weren't much anyway). He's finally gotten used to the idea and is coming around which is great, but he talks and acts like he is the one in charge of parenting her and if my idea is different than his, he puts down this authoritarian temper tantrum about it. I want us to work together as parents to raise her, but he refuses to see my side of things.
Keep in mind he got transferred to Virginia from Colorado when I was about 4 months pregnant (I didn't and couldn't go with), has never been to a single doctor's appointment, hasn't spent a penny on anything for her yet and walks around with this "it's my way or the highway" attitude. So I'm wondering from a male's point of view how to deal with this problem. I will be her primary parent until he can get back to Colorado (sometime within the year after she's born, we don't know yet) and I'm in a state of shock with his attitude regarding it.
I don't post much but I figured it would be worth a shot. I don't know many fathers..