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zellatrix

tundrabunny said:

Now that DH and I have started house hunting, I want a house NOW. I know we need to be patient, but now I'm getting really anxious to start nesting. I want to buy a crib and a pack n' play, but I have no room in the apartment.

I know the feeling. We started house hunting and I found one I liked immediately. So, I rushed us into it. I kind of wish now that I had waited a little longer. I love our house, but there were a lot of things I gave up that bum me out now. 

cuntasaurusrex

jojobean86 said:

LiteraChick said:

jojobean86 said:

LiteraChick said:

Kind of pissed that New Parenting classes are going to be about $300 for my husband and I. WTF, like new parents don't have enough to pay for?

In my head, that is like... a BOB Revolution stroller, or a Arm's Reach CoSleeper, or a Breast pump. Do I really need 4 hrs on how to get the baby to latch?

IMO, NO! Save your money girl. Others may disagree but I'd rather spend my money on almost anything else in the world. 

I'm inclined to agree with you!!! I will have a Lactation Consultant in my birthing suite (that is just how my hospital rolls. Woot) so I think everything else .... I mean, it'd be nice to know, but we are in our 30s and have tons of nephews. I can always call up my OB RN sister in law if I have dire needs. Thanks for the reassurance @jojobean86 ♥♥♥

Just FaceTime me when you're nursing. I'll show you what to do and provide some comic relief Was that totally creepy? Just please do not waste $300 on some freaking granola grandma who's never cut her hair in her life telling you how to nurse your baby. 

ETA - Just realized how cynical I sound. It's Monday, I'm sorry. Spend your money how you please. You are a grown up.  

:-*

I'm super glad this discussion happened.  I was planning on blowing $200 on classes that I was feeling dubious about taking.. I just found my local La Leche League and will go to a meeting one of these days

jnnfrrose6

tundrabunny said:

@zarkarella - you're right. I just need to be patient. Even if it takes us months and months and we end up having the baby while we're still in the apartment, that's still better than making that kind of investment for something that isn't the right fit. I'm just anxious to get settled.

We started searching before DS was born.  We found one thing that would have worked for us, but it would have had us moving within a month of my EDD and I wasn't ready to sign up for that.  We decided to keep looking and continue to take our time and ended up finding the right home for us 2 months before DS turned 1 and moved in on his first birthday.  Sure, it took over a year and we had to stay in the apartment after DS was born, but we found a home we both feel like we can be in long term without compromising and when DS was so little (and not mobile) it really was NBD to be in an apartment.

zellatrix

jnnfrrose6 said:

tundrabunny said:

@zarkarella - you're right. I just need to be patient. Even if it takes us months and months and we end up having the baby while we're still in the apartment, that's still better than making that kind of investment for something that isn't the right fit. I'm just anxious to get settled.

We started searching before DS was born.  We found one thing that would have worked for us, but it would have had us moving within a month of my EDD and I wasn't ready to sign up for that.  We decided to keep looking and continue to take our time and ended up finding the right home for us 2 months before DS turned 1 and moved in on his first birthday.  Sure, it took over a year and we had to stay in the apartment after DS was born, but we found a home we both feel like we can be in long term without compromising and when DS was so little (and not mobile) it really was NBD to be in an apartment.

Compromising isn't fun... like I said, I like my house but I get really upset when I think about how we don't have any really good outside play space because our backyard is steep and treacherous. And I will never have a swimming pool, even above ground. And I don't have the big garden tub I said I would have because the house is older and they didn't do that back then. But, I substituted that for lots of rooms. 4 bedrooms and a rec room and a partial basement for tornado season. You can't have EVERYTHING you want in a house usually, but I wish I had waited just a little longer to figure out what was the most important. 

beff12

@SarahVol131, @Skeemer, @Jennik30, @Pup4gdb - thanks for your kind puppy words I haven't spoken to DH in person yet, but he texted and said that all of Milo's tests came back negative! He's the world's biggest wuss at the vet, so he said that Milo was a mess when the vet was trying to get his sample. Poor guy. Anyways, they gave us anti-diarrhea medicine and probiotics to sprinkle on his food, which will be chicken and rice for the time being. If that doesn't do the trick, I'll look in to your recommendation @Skeemer!

Craziest thing is that when we got him last October from the shelter (he was pretty neglected before, but definitely not abused) he weighed 75 pounds. He weighed 92 pounds today! Sheesh big guy

katnipeverclean

beff12 said:

@SarahVol131, @Skeemer, @Jennik30, @Pup4gdb - thanks for your kind puppy words I haven't spoken to DH in person yet, but he texted and said that all of Milo's tests came back negative! He's the world's biggest wuss at the vet, so he said that Milo was a mess when the vet was trying to get his sample. Poor guy. Anyways, they gave us anti-diarrhea medicine and probiotics to sprinkle on his food, which will be chicken and rice for the time being. If that doesn't do the trick, I'll look in to your recommendation @Skeemer!

Craziest thing is that when we got him last October from the shelter (he was pretty neglected before, but definitely not abused) he weighed 75 pounds. He weighed 92 pounds today! Sheesh big guy

That's a big puppy dog!

I'm glad he is going to be ok! Sometimes their tummies just get off kilter!

Skeemer

Yay for @beff12 's doggie! :x  I love animals.

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ashcross

Let's see what can I bitch about..ummm..here we go: 

1) Because of the bullshit weather, there are horrible pot holes everywhere. I was going up an exit ramp this past weekend and couldn't avoid hitting the pot hole (option was going over the bridge)  which caused me to have a flat tire and cracked something in our suspension. Now it's going to cost like $1500 to get new tires, re-align the car and fix the suspension. Not to mention being on the side of the road for two hours trying to change a tire and the flat iron wouldn't work. 

2) Our apartment is increasing rent and it's just too expensive for us so we have to move. My DH works 80 to 100 hours a week and so I have to endure all the stress, worry and moving myself. My DH also decided to extend his research year another year so we will be here 3 years instead of 2 so there is no way we can take on staying in this apartment because there is no rent control and they will probably increased rent again next year. That being said, I found all this out on Wednesday, scheduled 5 showings, found a place and got the lease all signed and taken care of by Saturday. I'm still not looking forward to packing everything up, paying movers because I can't physically move myself which I would usually do and then having to un-pack and organize all over again. I know shit happens but it's just stressful and annoying. 

3) I love my DH so much and he is great but sometimes I really get sick of doing everything alone. He works so much. I knew what I was getting myself into and I'm proud of what he does and being his wife but sometimes I feel you should be able to have an healthy outlet and bitch right. I mean he is gone all the time and I endure the stress of everything all on my own. When he is home, he is exhausted and does everything he can to stay up and spend time with me but usually falls asleep sitting up. It's sad. 

Book and stress rant ended. Thanks ladies. 

TugboatSheila

Hm, I'm wonder if the prices of everyone's classes are regional. I just signed DH and I up for 3 classes (Infant CPR, childbirth preparation and Infant care) all for a grand total of 85 dollars through our hospital.  I'm totally going to check out the La Leche League page though for breastfeeding classes. 

middleschoolmommy

My boss is seriously pissing me off. She scheduled a staff meeting today (left work almost an hr later than usual), we have tutoring tomorrow (another hour + there!) and then She wants us to stay extra late on Wed. to get some ratings done for our ELL students. She wants to "get them all done in one shot". Thursday I have a dr's appointment. Okay... are you going to give me extra time during the day to get my grades and lesson plans done? Nope, and everything is due Friday... So looks like work is coming home with me yet again. I've been trying so hard to limit what I take home while pregnant

Nichole8787

My wonderful husband bought me a very sweet and thoughtful gift for valentines day, a gift certificate for a massage at a very nice Spa. Well here is my bitch: My back fucking hurts! I mean hurts! I have this huge stomach that I am just not equipped to cary around. I have absolutely no muscle strength at all and I am suffering because of it! So I have been trying to schedule an appointment to get a massage and they are booked for over a month! I don't know what in the hell I am doing in a month or how in the hell I'll be feeling! I want my massage this week! I'm in pain and I am sick of waiting for relief! (btw I know I sound like a spoiled brat...but I really just want my massage.)

AutumnBonfire

zarkarella said:

AutumnBonfire said:

I guess I'll complain about my husband too.

One day last week he tells me he needs to buy back his military time so it can go into his state retirement. Ok, great. Then he proceeds to tell me that this will cost us $24,000. I think my answer was hysterical laughter. Why doesn't he just ask for a million billion dollars? We don't have that kind of extra cash right now. We're probably going to be the most pressed for money we ever will be in our lives over the next few years with multiple kids in daycare. Its like he just woke up one day last week and decided to all of a sudden care about his future. He's a lot older than me. He was in the military in the late 80's. He got his state job in the 90's. He just thought of this now?!

I feel like he had a whole adult life before me that he chose to extend his youth and now its all becoming my problem when I feel like we're just starting "our" adult lives (career, house, mortgage, kids, etc.). Then he gets pissed at me.

He's also having a major freakout over the fact that his IRA doesn't have more money in it. I met him when he was 37. He did what until that point?! We both have retirement funds through work, so its not like we'll be living on the street some day. He's just annoyed that he can't retire early. Um, no. He just started his full time job 8 years ago.

It would be cheaper to just up the percentage you are both putting into your 401k rather than find some bulk amount of money now to do this. I have a hard time believing, also, that the military time would even pay him too much more in retirement than if you put 25k into a high interest mutual funds account and just let it earn money until you retire. 

MH just now started saving for real for retirement and he is 45. He has a pension from his previous job, but that will likely only pay about $300 a month. But, he has at least 20 more years to work and if we put at least 10% into his 401k from now until he retires, we will be fine. We will likely up that amount to the max once the kids are older. I know it differs from each job (MH's does matching and a bulk 401k bonus once per year), but I don't think it's too late. But, I am with you, there is pretty much a 99.99% chance I would tell him no way in hell can we come up with that amount of money to pay for that. 

DH had his brother (who knows much more about this than we do) look at the military paperwork and he pretty much said what you just did. So this idea is on hold for now. 

Pinksundrops

jnnfrrose6 said:

Just got off the phone with insurance about my breast pump options and the woman I spoke to was an idiot. I'm pretty sure she's not familiar with pumps to begin with (fine), but I was essentially told they cover "standard manual and electric pumps."  Now, could she clarify what that meant?  No.  She provided me with the codes I should use to submit a claim with the receipt of whichever pump I decide on.  Now, could I get her to clarify if there were limitations to the pumps I could choose between?  No.  It just has to fall under the code I submit, but I have no way to know if it does.  I did a quick search on google for the code and I can get the medela PISA "starter set," but I'm pretty sure that's not something you just get in the store, but actually have to order, despite her telling me to "just got to Babies R Us and pick out the pump I want and submit the receipt with the code."

Ultimately, I'll get this all figured out, but the woman I just spoke to was really not much help at all.

My DH has taught me to politely get off the phone with these people then call back until I get someone who is actually helpful . Love this method!!

Skeemer

symphony4586 said:

bunny0711 said:

I have a MIL bitch today. She offered to host my baby shower and is now being a total pain in the ass about it. She feels that May is "too early" and that she's also "too busy", even though her and DH just met last week and settled on two options in May. She called me directly to complain about wanting to have it in June. When I told her that a) the baby may be here in June and b) I don't want to be that physically uncomfortable while socializing she scoffed at me.  

Mind you, I'm cool if I don't even have a shower. I've bought most of the big stuff already and really don't care about buying the rest of it. At this point I really want to tell her to just forget it but DH would be upset. Ugh, it's times like this that I wish I had my own mother!! 

I'm right there with you! Fortunately a good friend of mine is hosting mine but my mom is constantly bitching about how we're having it "Tooooooo soooooooon!!" The shower is May 31st, my due date is July 30th, really I think anything past 31-32 weeks I'm not going to be in the mood to deal with all of our families and SO's religious wackjob mother more than I absolutely have to.

How in the world is a shower planned "Tooooooooooo sooooooooooon!" ? I mean, you need to prepare, see what you receive & what you may need to purchase to fill in the gaps. Unless you're waiting to find out the sex of the baby to have the shower I don't get the "too soon" business.