Yep! Me! LO is still sleeping like crap since being sick. She is finally starting to sound better but I am very ready for her to go back to her normal schedule.... I am exhausted!
I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
I am so sick of feeling like all of my muscles are bruised. I am not sure if I have fibromyalgia or if I am just tense from anxiety, but the tightness and pain are really draining.
D woke up twice last night to go pee. Then insisted on getting up at 6:30 until I convinced her to sleep another hour in my bed. I have my oversized coffee cup ready for all day.
I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
I am sorry-- my mom does this to me too. She's always worked, but she's a teacher so she was home by 3:30ish. I don't walk in the door until 7. So in her opinion, I work too much, but she worked the perfect amount.
The funny thing is that she also would get on my case if I ever decided to SAH, because she thinks it's "lazy" (which is ridiculous). Talk about mixed messages.
Bottom line is you have to do you, right?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
That is beyond awful. I don't even understand what that means----there are 168 hours in a week, and you are gone for MAYBE 45 of them. That is absolutely ridiculous that she would say that.
Did you grow up without a mother when you were in school away from her?
I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
This is just ridiculous. Tell her when she wants to help pay your bills you will be happy to work less hours!
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
That is exactly how my BIL is that I was mentioning on the thread from the other day.
I really don't get that attitude. What do they think playing with a dollhouse for 15 minutes is going to do?
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
WOW that's silly. I would have no problems with this at all. DS pushes a stuffed animal in his shopping cart and plays store and kitchen. They are just little wanting to explore. Sometimes he even carries his "purse" around LOL really its the bottom of a shape sorter but it has a handle.
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
That is exactly how my BIL is that I was mentioning on the thread from the other day.
I really don't get that attitude. What do they think playing with a dollhouse for 15 minutes is going to do?
Obviously turn them gay... you know b/c that would just be the worst possible thing. *insert eye roll*
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
That is exactly how my BIL is that I was mentioning on the thread from the other day.
I really don't get that attitude. What do they think playing with a dollhouse for 15 minutes is going to do?
Obvioulsy, it's going to give them the geigh.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. The day I returned to work after having DD, my mom said to me, "I don't know how you can stand to work and let other people raise your baby." Moms have enough guilt without having to deal with being made to feel worse by their own moms.
Some of the best advice I ever got was from the nurse practitioner in my OB's office, who told me that she'd read studies that show that children of working parents have better relationships with them because we maximize the time we have and don't take it for granted, so not to worry about how much I work as long as I make the most of our time together. I like to think that's very true for DD and me.
My ex-H is in town visiting DD. She's on spring break, so no school. This morning, as I'm getting ready for work, she's following me around asking me to do stuff for her/help her out/find things/etc while ex-H is sitting on the couch texting/doing whatever on his phone and ignoring her. Then he goes, "I wish she would stop bothering you!"
It took all my restraint to avoid saying "Then get up off your ass and pay attention to her!"
I got an email about signing D up for my local library's prek story & craft. The librarianreally insulted me by saying D couldn't attend until she officially turned 3, and went into 2 paragraphs of explaining this to me. DUH, the prek story hour is for 3 year olds. Therefore, I'm aware that she can't attend until she is 3 years old, not 2 years & 50 weeks. I know I don't live in the most intelligent area of the country but to have someone treat me as a complete imbisil over email doesn't bode well for me liking the program.
I still think this is ridiculous. It looks like your DD will be 3 in no time!! Whats the big deal?
DS has a stomach bug so I feel bad for him. But he is getting tired of laying around and not well enough to do anything so he is getting ansty and that is a little bit annoying....sorry DS.
My floors did not clean themselves and I need to iron...blah.
Ugh, ladies I feel you on the judgey moms re work hours. My mom was a nurse so she worked mostly nights and weekends. So I definitely work too much and she also judges that we might only have one. Um, this is part of the reason we might only have one, lady! We need to spend quality time with him!
My moan is that we might have to cancel our trip to San Francisco. You guys gave such awesome suggestions and I was so stoked, but (and this is where it gets less moan-y) we might be in contract to buy an apartment today. I'm super excited about that and totally understand why it is not a good idea to take an expensive vacation before closing, but I just wanted to go somewhere warm. So now maybe I will take the week off and go see my parents, which has a whole set of issues. Husband would stay here and work.
D woke up twice last night to go pee. Then insisted on getting up at 6:30 until I convinced her to sleep another hour in my bed. I have my oversized coffee cup ready for all day.
I have a sippy cup, but it's a wine glass, not a coffee mug.
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
DS encountered a dollhouse recently and totally loved it. I almost bought him one for his birthday (it's harder to find a non-pink dollhouse than a non-pink kitchen, btw) but then realized we already have too many small pieces of everything around the house.
My mother totally supports my career and I feel bad for those of you dealing with anything else. Hell, both of my grandmothers worked full time.
On the other hand, MIL was a SAHM. And she lives in the same town with two of DH's cousins (so her nieces) who had babies the same year we did and immediately became SAHMs. She never says anything inappropriate but it's definitely on the long list of things we don't have in common and generally avoid discussing.
My kid was home with cold and pinkeye today. She's been on eye drops for 48 hours and technically should be fine to go to school, but eyes were still a touch pink and she feels crappy and couldn't breathe. She's only missed 4 days of school this year, so I kept her home. Eyes look wayyyy better through the day, so she's going back tomorrow. But I hate when my routine is messed up.
Thanks guys.
Although my moms comment still stings I didn't mention it to her. She's overly sensitive and it would bother her and she would tell me I am being mean to her, she's done this before and I end up being the bad guy.
I am just trying to shake it off because I never expected such an insensitive remark from her.
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I was talking to my mom yesterday and she mentioned how my work schedule sucks.
I usually work 8;30-5 and sometimes till 6. I don't know why but it really hurt my feelings when she said DS will grow up without me ever being there. Um wtf, I try to spend all my free time with him.
I mentioned that she worked too while my brother and I were little but she said she had better schedule.
I don't know what to think of it. There are times she tells me she loves that I work and there's days like this where I feel like she hates me for not being a SAHM.
I love her but she just has a way of hurting my feelings without really knowing she does it.
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DS - 2011
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DS - 2011
I am sorry-- my mom does this to me too. She's always worked, but she's a teacher so she was home by 3:30ish. I don't walk in the door until 7. So in her opinion, I work too much, but she worked the perfect amount.
The funny thing is that she also would get on my case if I ever decided to SAH, because she thinks it's "lazy" (which is ridiculous). Talk about mixed messages.
Bottom line is you have to do you, right?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
We were at a family party yesterday and after dinner, all of the kids wound up in the playroom of my cousin's house. My cousin (whose house it was) has 2 girls -12 and 16, so they mostly use the playroom to "hang out" but there are bins of toys in stacks, and a huge Barbie dollhouse in the corner.
I followed Josie in the playroom, along with another cousin that has 2 boys-- one a bit older than DD, and one younger. Both boys (along with Josie) went right for the dollhouse, and that cousin kep trying to stop her boys from playing with "girls toys".
I felt bad for the boys, because they clearly wanted to play with the dollhouse. I couldn't believe it, because I haven't yet encountered that IRL and we were just talking about this kind of thing on Friday. Ugh.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
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Ugh, ladies I feel you on the judgey moms re work hours. My mom was a nurse so she worked mostly nights and weekends. So I definitely work too much and she also judges that we might only have one. Um, this is part of the reason we might only have one, lady! We need to spend quality time with him!
My moan is that we might have to cancel our trip to San Francisco. You guys gave such awesome suggestions and I was so stoked, but (and this is where it gets less moan-y) we might be in contract to buy an apartment today. I'm super excited about that and totally understand why it is not a good idea to take an expensive vacation before closing, but I just wanted to go somewhere warm. So now maybe I will take the week off and go see my parents, which has a whole set of issues. Husband would stay here and work.
I have a sippy cup, but it's a wine glass, not a coffee mug.
On the other hand, MIL was a SAHM. And she lives in the same town with two of DH's cousins (so her nieces) who had babies the same year we did and immediately became SAHMs. She never says anything inappropriate but it's definitely on the long list of things we don't have in common and generally avoid discussing.
our one and only *
DS - 2011