This is my first post but I've been lurking for a long time along various boards. I just went through my first miscarriage. Found out I was pregnant on New Year's Eve, had a first doc appointment in January but was told the baby was measuring behind but not to be concerned yet (of course I was). Two weeks later (what would have been 10 weeks) the baby hadn't grown, the doctor said I would miscarry. I started a few days later, had a natural miscarriage. My question is, how open are you about your miscarriage? I expect most people just tell close family and close friends. For me, only a few people know, however, with summer coming I will be seeing more of my cousins, extended family etc. The question will be coming (there's a few that always ask) 'so when will you be having your next child' and I'm not sure what to say. I don't want to be a debbie downer and mention the miscarriage, yet I don't want to deny my baby in heaven's existence either. A part of me also feels if people know maybe they will come to me if they ever find themselves in the same position (hopefully not) or have been in it before.
I know each person is different, but for you, how open are you? Is your miscarriage top secret? Is it something you tell more people about as time has passed? Is it something you don't like to talk about?
Thank you for reading! Wishing you ladies all the best. You are so strong and have been a great comfort to me!