UO

micino

I'll be Mom of the fucking year

micino

Hey let me just hold LO while doing jumping jacks drop down and do some burpies while I give my DH a BJ then grab some lotion to reapply my sons cream for his itchy eczema skin. Oh he'll yea YES I CAN!

cboink

micino said:

I'll be Mom of the fucking year

Or Bitch. . Maybe both

Caitlinh27

micino said:

@ loolaide you are killing me.

@caitlinh This is me coming at you sideways. Are you really serious???

Yup, totes serious.
Again this is my opinion, and I'm aware it's unpopular. I am not judging anyone who decides to spend more time with their LO over working out. The majority of the time that's what I do as well. I usually workout when H gets home and likes to spend a good 20-30 minutes of alone time with E, and I don't do it everyday. A couple days a week is all it takes. If that's not how it works for you then that's fine.

greenbeanqueen

And the bush Obama thing, I don't love Obama but I would never call him a terrorist. And if he says he isn't Muslim then I believe him. I didn't vote for him either time, but I respect that he was elected by the majority and he holds an office that deserves some ounce of respect. So I respectfully disagree with some things he says/does. But I also think a lot of people are too hard on all the presidents. They all age tremendously in office and that job is crazy stressful. I wouldn't want it.

Caitlinh27

Cashingn2 said:

Well, we just finished an OT session that wore A out. She's sleeping for probably about 20 minutes. I chose to shower, getting ready to start laundry then eat. I'm a real fat ass, I guess. Also, if you knew anything about weight loss, you'd be telling everyone to focus more on their diet than exercise. And you know what they say about making assumptions. Wonder when I'll find time to work out when I go back to school full time during the summer while still working and caring for my child. I suppose I should sacrifice an hour of my 3-4 hours of sleep at that point.

As you'll see in my reply above to micino, it only takes 2-3 times a week. I don't recall ever saying that you need to workout for 3 hours a day, every day.

Caitlinh27

leahraewku said:

Caitlinh27 said:

I'm fully aware that my opinion is unpopular. That's why I posted it here in this thread.
If you don't want to lose time with your child then workout when he/she is sleeping. If you have multiple kids then get up early while they are still sleeping. If you don't have the desire to do these things then that's fine and understandable. However, if you do have the desire to but your not willing to exhaust all options, then don't say it's impossible for you to at least work towards whatever goal you have in mind.

I'd love to work out.  My day starts at 6:00 when my kids get up.  If I'm not driving to and from pre-school or taking care of the house, I'm tending to their needs.  I bump when I'm nursing and sitting in the school drop-off line. I'm with them until they go to sleep around 9:00.  DH usually gets home around that time.  That gives me about an hour (maybe two) in the evening to shower, eat, and spend a little time with him.  I guess I could have a banging body if I was willing to sacrifice the little alone time that we get at the end of the day.  Oh, and sleep.  I'll take a little belly pudge if it means preserving the health of our marriage. So, in that sense, I do have a choice, I guess.

Seriously though, I like you and I'm not flaming. I'm glad you've found a system that works for you and affords you the opportunity to exercise.  I'm not saying it's easy for you, and I'm sure you sacrifice to carve out that time.  But don't assume that other people are making excuses because their schedules and circumstances aren't the same as yours.
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You're right. I shouldn't assume. Point taken.

MissyC979

How have we not talked about social groups??? Is everyone over them already?

northport6

@Loolaide said:

OK, re: Bush and Obama and how they were treated. I honestly think that you can't even compare the two. 1. The caliber of insults is far different, as I alluded to in my other post. Bush was called a dumb, rich, prep school dilettante who ran multiple businesses into the ground. While some of that was verifiable (he got the gentleman's C throughout his ivy league education and ran a sports team into the ground), other parts were just an outsider's view of how southerners and Texans in particular spoke. So, OK, he's called dumb, whatever. Obama is called a secret Muslim terrorist who wasn't even born here and is alternately a fascist and a socialist (wut) but is definitely a left wing radical out to destroy America. He smoked pot in college and hung out with some wackjobs. But the theme of his insults are to make him seem un-American and dangerous. Except when he's insulted as a mom jean wearing doofus, which is I guess the new thing to do because conservatives now love Putin. (Are you kidding me?) 2. Democrats at least helped the government function under Bush. Not so under Obama. Just look at the number of bills passed in the Senate in each administration when it was controlled by the opposing party. And the only thing the house seems to be able to pass at this point is a repeal of Obamacare. Plus, no elected representative ever stood up in the middle of a speech by Bush to scream insults at him. Ever. Apparently, Obama doesn't deserve the same respect, according to Republicans. 3. Liberal politicians and those who support them in this country are more committed to ideas and will compromise. Conservatives will cut off their noses to spite their faces. That's why we thought Bush proposing amnesty and a fast track to citizenship was a good thing (he was in favor of this due to the proximity of Texas to Mexico and he realized it was needed). A liberal idea that liberals liked despite who supported it. However, Obamacare, which was originally proposed by conservatives and adopted by liberals as a compromise (because they really wanted universal healthcare like Canada), was immediately reviled when Obama took up the cause. Why the switcheroo? Oh, because someone you don't like supports it you have to switch your stance? OK that makes total sense. So, no, don't ever say that Bush was treated like Obama, because he decidedly was not.

You used the word "dilettante" on The Bump.  This is why ILY.

cammyisagirlsname

@Caitlinh27‌ you sound like the biggest fucking asshole. You should just stop.

Caitlinh27

Is just like to say that you ladies are right. I shouldn't assume that what works for me will work for everyone else. I really didn't mean to offend anybody, but I'm fully aware that I did. I should have chosen my words more carefully.
Working out 2-3 times a week after H gets home or early in the morning is something I have to do for me. It's my way of staying sane.
I don't blame any of you for coming at me sideways. You have all my sorries.

micino

Caitlinh27 said:

Is just like to say that you ladies are right. I shouldn't assume that what works for me will work for everyone else. I really didn't mean to offend anybody, but I'm fully aware that I did. I should have chosen my words more carefully.
Working out 2-3 times a week after H gets home or early in the morning is something I have to do for me. It's my way of staying sane.
I don't blame any of you for coming at me sideways. You have all my sorries.

I'm glad we can put that to bed. Thx for getting it

Jenniferomeo

I'm not defending Caitlinh, as I think she's just digging a deeper and deeper hole but I'm just going to make a general statement. If/when a persons health and longevity becomes as much a priority as working or taking care of their children or sleeping or cleaning then they find time to work out. Every persons priorities are different to save their own sanity.

Jenniferomeo

Caitlinh27 said:

Is just like to say that you ladies are right. I shouldn't assume that what works for me will work for everyone else. I really didn't mean to offend anybody, but I'm fully aware that I did. I should have chosen my words more carefully.
Working out 2-3 times a week after H gets home or early in the morning is something I have to do for me. It's my way of staying sane.
I don't blame any of you for coming at me sideways. You have all my sorries.

It's not that you worded it wrong. It's that you just kept going and going (which is fine because it's your opinion.) But everyone is also entitled to theirs. So don't backpedal just because you offended everyone if that's truly how you feel. Sorrys are accepted though!

thebobloblaw

Mrbatesisinnocent said:

I think there's more to this missing malaysian airlines flight than we're being told.

This might be horrible, I don't know, but in my imagination this is the real life version of "lost" and they are just trapped in some crazy science island. ( I haven't finished the series, so don't know what the island really is and want no spoilers!!!11!1).

But in all reality it is horribly sad and the families have all my prayers. I can't believe they are missing and I also find it crazy that it still hasn't been found.

Jenniferomeo

superspecialsnowflake said:

Jenniferomeo said:

I'm not defending Caitlinh, as I think she's just digging a deeper and deeper hole but I'm just going to make a general statement. If/when a persons health and longevity becomes as much a priority as working or taking care of their children or sleeping or cleaning then they find time to work out. Every persons priorities are different to save their own sanity.

Yes, but you can't make the assumption that if they don't "find time to work out" that they don't care, aren't prioritizing properly, or worst of all, are "lazy."


I'm not making any assumptions. I work in healthcare and hear the whole "priorities" thing constantly from the doctors. I'll be the first to admit my son is 13 weeks old and I've worked out three times. And I DO have time because I'm still home with him, but I choose to clean, shower, eat, and do other things over working out. And I would never ever call any mom lazy. Being a mother alone doesn't allow you to be lazy. But working out is not a priority to me nor will I use the "I dont have time" reason. I just don't give a fuck.

thesportsgal

Cashingn2 said:

Also, if you knew anything about weight loss, you'd be telling everyone to focus more on their diet than exercise.

This.  A personal trainer will tell you that losing weight is 90% diet. 

@caitlinh Now is probably not the time to start lecturing people on exercise.  Many of us are just getting back to work and dealing with very shitty sleeping LOs so telling people that they're lazy because they're not exercising at 2 AM when LO is sleeping is bull shit.  And I exercised all the way up until my due date.  Now it's a different story.

And yes I know, it's your right to a UO and BLAH BLAH BLAH. 

Caitlinh27

thesportsgal said:

Cashingn2 said:

Also, if you knew anything about weight loss, you'd be telling everyone to focus more on their diet than exercise.

This.  A personal trainer will tell you that losing weight is 90% diet. 

@caitlinh Now is probably not the time to start lecturing people on exercise.  Many of us are just getting back to work and dealing with very shitty sleeping LOs so telling people that they're lazy because they're not exercising at 2 AM when LO is sleeping is bull shit.  And I exercised all the way up until my due date.  Now it's a different story.

And yes I know, it's your right to a UO and BLAH BLAH BLAH. 

Yes, weight loss is 90% diet.  I never said it wasn't. 

thesportsgal

Caitlinh27 said:

thesportsgal said:

Cashingn2 said:

Also, if you knew anything about weight loss, you'd be telling everyone to focus more on their diet than exercise.

This.  A personal trainer will tell you that losing weight is 90% diet. 

@caitlinh Now is probably not the time to start lecturing people on exercise.  Many of us are just getting back to work and dealing with very shitty sleeping LOs so telling people that they're lazy because they're not exercising at 2 AM when LO is sleeping is bull shit.  And I exercised all the way up until my due date.  Now it's a different story.

And yes I know, it's your right to a UO and BLAH BLAH BLAH. 

Yes, weight loss is 90% diet.  I never said it wasn't. 

But according to you, if new moms could just get off their lazy ass and get to the gym and "want it bad enough" then they would lose the baby weight... 

notkateanymore

I'm on my way to New Orleans, alone to meet DH, for a long weekend of drinking and eating and sleeping. Could not be happier to have left the kiddos at home.

liz429

I too am not a fan of the pics of dudes. It doesnt make me gaggy just most of the bodies on those guys is not what I find attractive IRL. And I kinda think its the same thing as half naked pics of women that a lot of ppl complain about.

starskit1283

I have one finally! I don't like candy or really anything sweet. I have to really be in the mood for it otherwise I get a stomach ache and I feel sick. I prefer salty snacks

GTown08

I returned to work last week and was not at all sad to leave my kid in daycare.  I was actually relieved that someone else was/is responsible for keeping him alive for ten hours.  Admittedly, it is only two days a week, and I might feel differently if it was every weekday.  But, as it isn't, I like that my kid is in daycare.  Also, I feel like he will get some good socialization, which he doesn't really have anywhere else since he is the first grandchild on both sides and I don't have any babies in my neighborhood or among my friend-group.

Jenniferomeo

KateMW said:

I'm on my way to New Orleans, alone to meet DH, for a long weekend of drinking and eating and sleeping. Could not be happier to have left the kiddos at home.

That's not going to be unpopular at all. That's just making me more JEALOUS than I'd like to admit!

clhathaway

jyparker725 said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

jyparker725 said:

I like briefs for men.

*I'd post a sexy model pic for you ladies but I am at work and I don't want to be flagged*

Would you be flagged?  We can't do almost naked men anymore?  Sads.

I meant by my work IT dept. PLEASE bring on the sexy men!!!



You're welcome.

Cashingn2 said:

Caitlinh27 said:

I'm fully aware that my opinion is unpopular. That's why I posted it here in this thread.
If you don't want to lose time with your child then workout when he/she is sleeping. If you have multiple kids then get up early while they are still sleeping. If you don't have the desire to do these things then that's fine and understandable. However, if you do have the desire to but your not willing to exhaust all options, then don't say it's impossible for you to at least work towards whatever goal you have in mind.

I'm trying real hard not to lose my shit here. Please, tell me when I should cook, clean or sleep then because that's what I'm busy doing when my child finally goes to sleep at 2am...and some babies don't take naps. Stop assuming you know that EVERYONE has fucking time.

I think sprinting up my stairs to pee while my kid screams because I put her down is the only workout I will ever get. Then like cash said, cooking, cleaning, Andplusalso washing pump parts and pumping take crap loads of time.

It's kind of shitty of you to be judgey of moms and their time management and weight loss.

northport6

Reality TV is the worst. Thing. Ever. I have no idea how anyone sits through The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Wherever-the-hell.  The original Real World was amazingly good, but almost everything since has been a pale over-Xeroxed copy without interesting characters or compelling situations.

(...Except for Restaurant Impossible, which I love, and the Amazing Race, which I wish I was on.)

lifesaverz

I think children need to be allowed to have freedom of expression.  I cringe when I hear parenting styles that "don't allow" their children to be angry or upset with mom or dad.  Now, do children need help & coaching about how to express their anger in healthy or acceptable ways? Absolutely.  Should they constantly be told they "can't be mad" about something just because we're the parents and we make the decisions so "oh well"?  Absolutely not.  Kids have a RIGHT to have their feelings, & it's SO important for healthy emotional development that they are allowed to feel all of the feelings that they have, & not told that they "shouldn't" feel that way, just because some parents want to have a kid that does what they say like a robot.  

I'm counseled many a person who wasn't allowed to be angry or upset with mom or dad growing up, who then struggles with what to do with feelings of anger as an adult because they were never allowed to feel these feelings, let alone taught what to do with them.  Some people end up struggling in relationships because they feel like it's "never okay" to be upset or angry with someone they love, & they bottle things up instead.  And along those lines, I think kids should be entitled to their own opinions...a lot of people who were also "never allowed" to disagree with mom or dad growing up end up not knowing how to stand up for themselves as adults.  I get that it's hard to deal with these emotions with children, but I just think it's so important for their emotional development and for the health of their future relationships.

northport6

superspecialsnowflake said:

northport6 said:

Reality TV is the worst. Thing. Ever. I have no idea how anyone sits through The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Wherever-the-hell.  The original Real World was amazingly good, but almost everything since has been a pale over-Xeroxed copy without interesting characters or compelling situations.

(...Except for Restaurant Impossible, which I love, and the Amazing Race, which I wish I was on.)

Project Runway is awesome. I also like that people are actually trying to accomplish something productive on "The Biggest Loser," even if their methods are questionable.

Is Restaurant Impossible the one where the angry british guy acts like a giant douche but at the end tries to act like a really nice guy?

Project Runway gets a pass because my parents watch it together, which I think is the cutest thing about them.  I'd like the Biggest Loser more if I didn't see the exploitive side.

And I think Restaurant Impossible is less shouty and terrible than whatever Gordon Ramsay's shows are called.  His are about shaming restaurant owners for what they're doing wrong and cursing up a storm, Restaurant Impossible is more about empowering restaurant owners by teaching them the business of running a restaurant.  And Robert Irvine doesn't have to be bleeped, which makes it infinitely less annoying to watch.

RiceCereal

This is probably more of a popular opinion, but I think rice cereal is the best.  We are starting babies way too late on rice cereal these days.  It does so much for our children - they sleep better, they get more nutrition, it helps acid reflux.  I'm sure everyone can agree that we need MORE rice cereal in our lives!   

thebobloblaw

superspecialsnowflake said:

northport6 said:

Reality TV is the worst. Thing. Ever. I have no idea how anyone sits through The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Wherever-the-hell.  The original Real World was amazingly good, but almost everything since has been a pale over-Xeroxed copy without interesting characters or compelling situations.

(...Except for Restaurant Impossible, which I love, and the Amazing Race, which I wish I was on.)

Project Runway is awesome. I also like that people are actually trying to accomplish something productive on "The Biggest Loser," even if their methods are questionable.

Is Restaurant Impossible the one where the angry british guy acts like a giant douche but at the end tries to act like a really nice guy?


Project runway is my favorite! I've been a die hard fan since the beginning and have a major girl crush on Heidi Klum.

**Runs to start a PR social group**
(Jk - no sarcasm font on mobile )

leahraewku

northport6 said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

northport6 said:

Reality TV is the worst. Thing. Ever. I have no idea how anyone sits through The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Wherever-the-hell.  The original Real World was amazingly good, but almost everything since has been a pale over-Xeroxed copy without interesting characters or compelling situations.

northport6 said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

northport6 said:

Reality TV is the worst. Thing. Ever. I have no idea how anyone sits through The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Wherever-the-hell.  The original Real World was amazingly good, but almost everything since has been a pale over-Xeroxed copy without interesting characters or compelling situations.

(...Except for Restaurant Impossible, which I love, and the Amazing Race, which I wish I was on.)

Project Runway is awesome. I also like that people are actually trying to accomplish something productive on "The Biggest Loser," even if their methods are questionable.

Is Restaurant Impossible the one where the angry british guy acts like a giant douche but at the end tries to act like a really nice guy?

Project Runway gets a pass because my parents watch it together, which I think is the cutest thing about them.  I'd like the Biggest Loser more if I didn't see the exploitive side.

And I think Restaurant Impossible is less shouty and terrible than whatever Gordon Ramsay's shows are called.  His are about shaming restaurant owners for what they're doing wrong and cursing up a storm, Restaurant Impossible is more about empowering restaurant owners by teaching them the business of running a restaurant.  And Robert Irvine doesn't have to be bleeped, which makes it infinitely less annoying to watch.

Can we talk about Robert Irvine's guns? How many hours of whisking does it take to get those?

leahraewku

F'ing quote trees. Sorry, all.

northport6

@leakraewku It's from lifting HUGE BLOCKS OF CHEESE and MASSIVE DRUMS OF OLIVE OIL in the narrative I just made up in my head.

lifesaverz

ColeRose said:

I mean really I should just stop BFing because I think my body is holding onto extra fat due to nursing.

lol you're cracking me up. seriously is anyone else freaking hungry these days??? I swear, the "nursing diet" is no joke...it's like I need 5 full meals, it's ridic - I'm more hungry than I was when I was pregnant!

RiceCereal

tarashea721 said:

I mean really I should just stop BFing because I think my body is holding onto extra fat due to nursing.

Lol I kid you not.... my cousin suggested that when I said I have 10lbs left to lose. (She feeds her son rice cereal since 7 weeks. No joke.)

What's wrong with that? 

blainethetrain

I love Gwinny.

ReggieLou13

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jordanm24 said:

ColeRose said:

I mean really I should just stop BFing because I think my body is holding onto extra fat due to nursing.

lol you're cracking me up. seriously is anyone else freaking hungry these days??? I swear, the "nursing diet" is no joke...it's like I need 5 full meals, it's ridic - I'm more hungry than I was when I was pregnant!

Yes! And the cravings, ugh!

cammyisagirlsname

gwinnygirl said:

Also, it's been three fucking months. People need to be more realistic about getting healthy after their body has just produced life. That "stop making excuses" shit is not helpful in the least.

Word!!

Andplusalso Caitlin, it IS important for me to be fit. I just don't have the time to workout. AND my priorities have changed for the time being. When I'm ready to get back to the gym regularly, I will. I know you apologized already... Just had to throw that in.

esf60

@gwinnygirl said:

Also, it's been three fucking months. People need to be more realistic about getting healthy after their body has just produced life. That "stop making excuses" shit is not helpful in the least.

Yes. And sleep > working out.

esf60

Posting pictures on social media that might embarrass the kid when he's old enough to hear about it from his parents' friends: don't do it. Nevermind the privacy issues and creep factor of posting your naked kid in a bathtub, but what teenager wants to hear about how "cute" he was that time he dressed up in his sister's princess gown while his mom took video of it and posted it on Facebook? Out of respect for the fact that kids don't have a say in what does & doesn't get shared about them, more people need to err on the side of not sharing.