DH and I are talking about TTC #2 very soon...like June. I looked at my BC supply last night - I have 1 week left in this pack, and then 2 full packs. So that would get us to the middle of May. So we were thinking...let's just go for it.
But the thought of 2 in daycare is scaring me!! We pay $185/week for DS now. Unless we can get a "family discount" or something, we would be paying $370/week for 2. I know...some people have to pay that amount for just 1 kid. But DH doesn't make that much money....like he would be taking home maybe $250 more a month than daycare costs. I love daycare. I think it has been so great for Sam, I don't want to pull him out and have DH stay at home.
Do we just suck it up for the year or so that we have 2 in daycare? DH has been actively looking for a new job and I have been thinking about looking too. So I guess our financial situation could change before #2 comes along.
Sorry so long....just needed to talk this out.
Re: Need to talk....having 2 in daycare is freaking me out
I don't have any advice, unfortunately, but I do have the exact same worries!
we'd always said we would try for #2 when DS was 2, but I just don't know how we would afford 2 in f/t daycare, even though we both work f/t (we are in a HCOL area). but we also can't really afford for me to stay home because with the mortgage and DH's student loans, there just isn't enough money.
I think at most daycares it gets a little cheaper when they turn 3, and like you said, there would probably be a nominal discount if you have 2 in the same place.
but yeah, do we just say, "okay, we'll just be broke for the next 3 years and then things will get better"?
I'm hoping something will change over the next 18 months that will help us out- like DS getting a new job or my mother retiring and being able to watch 1 kid for us.
I'm also curious to hear people's thoughts/experience on this.
I think if it's only a short amount of time, even if you're breaking even, I would put them in daycare. The impact on your DH's job/career with a gap on his resume is pretty big. Also, would he enjoy staying at home? Would it have a negative effect on your marriage?
Basically ask all the same questions you would if YOU were the one who'd be staying at home, but add in the impact on the male ego. LOL