Never felt so violent in my life!

Alexinav

I have never wanted to tell or hit people so bad in my life. Rude comments on how big I am are driving me to my breaking point. It really bothers me... It seriously depends on what I'm wearing (ie maxi dress vs pre prego skinny jeans) but keep our damn comments to yourself! Today I was feeling okay till someone made a comment than I get home and have a wardrobe melt down crying almost naked in my closet. These are the times I can't stand being pregnant:,(

babyaotw

I'm thinking you should maybe seek some help, like counseling. I think that most people experience frustration with comments, but feeling violent and having break downs can be a sign of emotional instability. You could start by bringing it up to your OB. Weight gain and body changes are hard, but if you're feeling like you can't handle it there's no shame in seeking support. I really hope you do and start feeling like you can shrug off the comments.

kat8805

Wait, you're still able to wear pre-pregnancy skinny jeans? And you're feeling violent about that?

I literally weighed in at 303 the other day at my 32w appointment, and the only thing that makes me feel remotely ragey is when DH is being a complete douche, or I need to repeat myself 5 times to my 3.5 year old DD cause she just wasn't paying attention. I get the "oh my god you're huge!" comments all the time, and yes, I am huge. I take no offense, because 1) it's the truth and 2) I choose not to let what others think of me affect my life. I am brutally honest with people, so to me, it's refreshing to get the same, since everyone seems to thrive on flattery, rainbows and butterflies.

usernewname

You should talk to someone. Like PP said, your body is doing something amazing.

I am a bigger girl myself but my clothes fitting hasn't made me feel awful - more just annoyed because I'm readjusting them all day (if they aren't proper mat clothing). But it's temporary and for a good reason. People say I'm getting bigger all the time … they don't mean anything by it … just conversation.

lindseylu10

At the end of the day, most people get awkward around really pregnant women... Things just fall out of their mouths and unless you are surrounded by total assholes those things that they blurt out are not meant to hurt feelings. Weight gain is hard and maybe it would help to talk to a professional but at the end of the day I find it best to give people the benefit of the doubt. Hope you start feeling better soon.

softservecity

I own 2 pairs of work pants (only 1 fits well), 1 pair of jeans and about 7 shirts. I figure pregnancy clothes aren't needed for long enough to buy many... That being said I've had a meltdown in the closet a few times. Hope you get to feeling better and that today was just a bad day.

mrstengallonhat1

Sorry you had a rough day. People seem to lose their filters around pregnant women. If you find yourself getting that upset often, I agree with PPs that you should talk to a counselor about it. I hope you feel better tomorrow!

Dplusbsquared

I've gotten the "OMG you're huge & about to pop" comment from some people at work.

I jokingly kicked one in the shin & jokingly air punched the other. All I can do is shake my head at the lack of manners some people have around PG ladies. I figure they're just looking for something to say, can't find anything, so they blurt out something about my belly.

Hey, my belly IS my baby and I want him to grow - so I let it go.

Try to work past the PG hormones & laugh it off.

Jillzy86

I'm sorry people are making rude comments to you. I'm sure you look beautiful because you are creating something beautiful all day every day. I've had little melt downs in the begining when I was in between maternity clothes and regular clothes. It's hard to embrace your changing body. But remember your almost done and in a almost 12 or less weeks you will see your LO and your body will begining a whole new processes of going back to where you once were. Don't be hard on yourself now or then. Try not to let it get to you when someone puts their foot in their mouth. They are the ones who should be upset with themselves at the end of the day for saying something stupid not you!

Storrmys

If you are even able to look at pre pregnancy pants and they don't laugh at you you're doing amazing . I haven't been able to even look mine since about week 14 or so. That being said people just do that to pregnant woman ... I'm called waddles and spaghetti all night long at work most of the women I work with also rub my belly nightly and talk directlyto my sstomach. I also have one co worker who has stated she thinks she is more excited than I am about my LO ... Don't let comments get to you and I like to read the other thread " sh!t people say " a lot makes me feel better about the comments Iget ....

KBowen715

Near naked closet meltdowns are my pregnant thang. Just ask my husband who watches, wide-eyed, gape-mouthed, and terrified from our bathroom as soon as I turn the closet door to go inside.

Also, I'm 5'1 and thin prepreg. Husband is 6'4 and 265. I look like I'm carrying a pride of lions. People and their judgey 'oh you still have 9 weeks?!' can go away. Body will return to normal (ish), and eventually I'll stop snarfing brownie cheesecake blizzards. Maybe. It will instead be replaced by tired eyes and clothing that can only be matched by coordinating puke/urine spots.

Welcome to motherhood.

jjtyler

MrsKTen said:

Sorry you had a rough day. People seem to lose their filters around pregnant women.

OMG, THIS!!!!!  Sorry, but the whole "you are doing something amazing" thing only goes so far.  I am so incredibly excited for my son to be born, but being pregnant SUCKS sometimes.  And people HAVE NO FILTER.  In the beginning it was "OMG, you don't even look pregnant!" to the point that I whipped out pictures of me at 35 weeks with my last child all oompa loompa'ed out.  Now, it's the head tilt "how are you feeling" because as expected, I have exploded in 4 short weeks from barely showing to waddling like a duck.

It's incredibly frustrating when people don't realize that their comments may hurt your feelings...and when the hormones are all on fire, those feelings feel like they are trampled.  Take deep breaths, and know that this is temporary.  And we are SO CLOSE to the end ;-)

And BTW, I must really need therapy, because even non-PG, I feel homicidal more often than I care to admit ;-)

yvanehtnioj

KBowen715 said:

Near naked closet meltdowns are my pregnant thang. Just ask my husband who watches, wide-eyed, gape-mouthed, and terrified from our bathroom as soon as I turn the closet door to go inside. Also, I'm 5'1 and thin prepreg. Husband is 6'4 and 265. I look like I'm carrying a pride of lions. People and their judgey 'oh you still have 9 weeks?!' can go away. Body will return to normal (ish), and eventually I'll stop snarfing brownie cheesecake blizzards. Maybe. It will instead be replaced by tired eyes and clothing that can only be matched by coordinating puke/urine spots. Welcome to motherhood.

Hahahahaha!

Oh and closet meltdowns? During and before pregnancy right here.

awc1986

I haven't had a naked closet meltdown yet, but I've almost bitten through my tongue a few times when someone I barely know has commented on my shape. I'm a pre-preg 32G though, so I'm used to inappropriate body comments and grabbing.

I'm sorry your feeling self-conscious OP. I think that pregnancy is the most beautiful shape you can have and it's true that it makes people smile. Just remember you have a little baby in there!

Alexinav

jjtyler said:

MrsKTen said:

Sorry you had a rough day. People seem to lose their filters around pregnant women.

OMG, THIS!!!!!  Sorry, but the whole "you are doing something amazing" thing only goes so far.  I am so incredibly excited for my son to be born, but being pregnant SUCKS sometimes.  And people HAVE NO FILTER.  In the beginning it was "OMG, you don't even look pregnant!" to the point that I whipped out pictures of me at 35 weeks with my last child all oompa loompa'ed out.  Now, it's the head tilt "how are you feeling" because as expected, I have exploded in 4 short weeks from barely showing to waddling like a duck.

It's incredibly frustrating when people don't realize that their comments may hurt your feelings...and when the hormones are all on fire, those feelings feel like they are trampled.  Take deep breaths, and know that this is temporary.  And we are SO CLOSE to the end ;-)

And BTW, I must really need therapy, because even non-PG, I feel homicidal more often than I care to admit ;-)


My favorite by far! I would never actually hit a stranger or anybody for that matter lol maybe I should not has used that to express how frustrated I was people say unbelievably rude things. Funny thing is older people are so much more rude. My first pregnancy was in hs I never ever had anyone who made me feel as uncomfortable as the customers at work. I even had an incident today. I have been ignoring people's comments but any person can only do that for so long. Thanks everyone for the support and hearing me out:)