Random Bitch Tuesday.

MarisaKathleen

What's your random bitch for the day?

Co-worker drama.  I'm about ready to tell one of my co-workers to kiss all of my ass. We're ADVISORS.  Our job is to HELP students, not hoard information and penalize them for stupid things.

Someone on FB keeps posting this and all I really want to say is "YOU HAVE A GIANT TATTOO ON YOUR NECK!"  Seriously.  When was the last time you saw a teacher, banker, CEO, lawyer, etc with a NECK TATTOO?!

tinyhumantoe

I LOVE some tattoos and piercings, but I think it is definitely a fair reason to turn someone down for a job, depending on the job.  It is in NO way the same thing as someone getting turned away for a physical look or disability.

I'm working from home and this place is a MESS.  DH has been out of town for 4 days.  At some point I'm going to have to clean, do laundry, and shower.  I look like I have hair gel in, and I definitely don't. 

melody921

Along the same FB lines, there's a woman who I might need to hide from my feed. She tends to write long, rambling, boring posts. But recently she posted about people who are always in and out of love, and how it's ridiculous that people have kids by 2 or 3 guys. When her kids were 17, 14 and 11, she met a guy on the Internet, got pregnant by him and left her husband and older children to move to Texas with him. WTF, pot meet kettle.

My other rant is directed at my 4-year-old, who is generally not listening, wants to be in charge of everything and has been on a name-calling bender since this weekend. According to him, I am "stupid, mean, cruel and evil" (maybe we need to lay off the fairy tales with evil queens?).

AKB090609

That keeps coming up on my feed as well. It is being posted by a former employee, this person was horrible and her facial piercings were always crusty or oozing (sorry for the image). Every time she posts the quote I think 'poor hygiene is not a superficial reason to be rejected'.

tinyhumantoe

@marisakathleen What is the deal with your coworkers?  Power trip, or trying to teach kids a lesson?

tinyhumantoe

melody921 said:

According to him, I am "stupid, mean, cruel and evil" (maybe we need to lay off the fairy tales with evil queens?).

EL OH EL.

I am dying laughing

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

Along the same FB lines, there's a woman who I might need to hide from my feed. She tends to write long, rambling, boring posts. But recently she posted about people who are always in and out of love, and how it's ridiculous that people have kids by 2 or 3 guys. When her kids were 17, 14 and 11, she met a guy on the Internet, got pregnant by him and left her husband and older children to move to Texas with him. WTF, pot meet kettle.

My other rant is directed at my 4-year-old, who is generally not listening, wants to be in charge of everything and has been on a name-calling bender since this weekend. According to him, I am "stupid, mean, cruel and evil" (maybe we need to lay off the fairy tales with evil queens?).

I'm sorry Melody, that would be awful.  I hope it's a quick phase.  Ugh.

tinyhumantoe

Dude, crusty piercings are not okay.  And new piercings?  Please get them on the first day of a one or two week vacation, so it can look uninfected by the time you return to work.

melody921

tinyhumantoe said:

melody921 said:

According to him, I am "stupid, mean, cruel and evil" (maybe we need to lay off the fairy tales with evil queens?).

EL OH EL.

I am dying laughing

So was DH when I told him. It was good for him he is on the other side of the world right now. While I can see the humor in the word choice, it's so far from funny when I'm living it.

melody921

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

Along the same FB lines, there's a woman who I might need to hide from my feed. She tends to write long, rambling, boring posts. But recently she posted about people who are always in and out of love, and how it's ridiculous that people have kids by 2 or 3 guys. When her kids were 17, 14 and 11, she met a guy on the Internet, got pregnant by him and left her husband and older children to move to Texas with him. WTF, pot meet kettle.

My other rant is directed at my 4-year-old, who is generally not listening, wants to be in charge of everything and has been on a name-calling bender since this weekend. According to him, I am "stupid, mean, cruel and evil" (maybe we need to lay off the fairy tales with evil queens?).

I'm sorry Melody, that would be awful.  I hope it's a quick phase.  Ugh.

Thanks, I hope so too. I was so frustrated/exhausted yesterday I was actually in tears. It makes me feel like I'm doing everything all wrong for him to have such an affect on me or a situation.

Flamingemu

My grandmother was in town this weekend for a visit. She started dinner on Friday night by the time we got home. Awesome right? Well my kitchen sink has been backing up into my basement sink ever since. 

Plumber just came up to show me what came out. Looks like the netting around a sack of potatoes. Thanks mommom, you are officially costing me several hundred bucks because you decided to wash trash down my sink. Awesome.

BeebopandBuddy

My random bitch is sickness.  Over it.

DS has been sick for three weeks.  It has been ongoing cold symptoms.  Sunday morning he woke up with a rash.  I toook him to the dr. yesterday and he has an ear infection.  DD is also sick with a hacking cough.  I feel terrible for her.  I have been sick with a lingering cold for almost a month.  We are like a disease-ridden, snot covered clan.  It's so gross.

I have no days left to miss for work.  My parents were here last week and I had scheduled days off.  I didn't know when I scheduled them that we would all get the plague and, by the time they came up, I had no other days to take.  I couldn't go back though since my parents were flying in. 

Then I missed yesterday because DS couldn't go to daycare with the rash (even though he isn't contagious).  I don't even know if I will get in trouble since I have no days left.  I'm waiting for the call from daycare to pick up DD.  I know I shouldn't have taken her and I feel like a bad mom, but I had no choice since DH is out of town.  Blech.

 

Flamingemu

2nd rant directed at my DH. I work in Fed finance. There are 4 months a year that I work long hours and NEED to be in the office. March is one of them. He signed up for a training that is an hour+ away all week. Doesn't sound like a big deal, but the bonehead never told me, never asked if it would be an inconvenience, and now I am stuck doing drop off and pick up making me leave the office when I should still be there. 

Oh, and I have to be home with the plumber this morning, so it looks like I will be going in on Saturday. Sweet. Thanks honey.

tinyhumantoe

@melody921   Do you have a way to do a special outing with him alone sometime this week - even if for only 45 minutes?  Or pull him aside and let him pick a weird dinner for you to make, even if it's something like mashed potatoes, pizza, and pbj?  I've never had a kid that age, so feel free to laugh at me.  It seems like maybe something special could get you two back on track.  When you're at war with someone for several days, sometimes you need a reset. 

melody921

Flamingemu said:

My grandmother was in town this weekend for a visit. She started dinner on Friday night by the time we got home. Awesome right? Well my kitchen sink has been backing up into my basement sink ever since. 

Plumber just came up to show me what came out. Looks like the netting around a sack of potatoes. Thanks mommom, you are officially costing me several hundred bucks because you decided to wash trash down my sink. Awesome.

UGH, this is something my MIL would do. Sorry that what should have been a help ended up causing trouble.

melody921

tinyhumantoe said:

@melody921   Do you have a way to do a special outing with him alone sometime this week - even if for only 45 minutes?  Or pull him aside and let him pick a weird dinner for you to make, even if it's something like mashed potatoes, pizza, and pbj?  I've never had a kid that age, so feel free to laugh at me.  It seems like maybe something special could get you two back on track.  When you're at war with someone for several days, sometimes you need a reset. 

Definitely something worth trying. Thanks. He likes to help me bake. Maybe we can make something healthy.

tinyhumantoe

I hate that we have to drive to a park for a nice place to play.  We do have a small backyard, and it will be nice this summer I think.  Right now it's snow piles, mud, and soggy dog turds. 

I want to move because I want W to have the same rattin-around childhood that I had.  The streets we walk on for our long walks go into some shady hoods that never gave me pause until W.  I think I'll buy a can of mace.  Can you still buy mace?

A positive:  I took W outside yesterday.  It was so muddy, but we kicked a ball around the sidewalks and she touched every tree trunk.  For the first time in my life, Irealize that I'm living the best time I'll ever have in my life - when it's happening. 

tinyhumantoe

My mom's dramatic, truly psychotic, estranged sister called my dad last night.  She told him she saw his dead mom while she was meditating.  She told her to tell him to stop working so hard.  My dad lost both his parents a year ago, almost to the day. 

I don't know what to think, really.  My first reaction was that my aunt is evil. 

MarisaKathleen

tinyhumantoe said:

@marisakathleen What is the deal with your coworkers?  Power trip, or trying to teach kids a lesson?

Long story short, we make our nursing students go through a petition process.  We added a new component to it this year so they had to meet with advisors and have some paperwork signed off on. She thinks that if they didn't do that portion they should automatically be disqualified.  I think since it's the first semester, we should be cutting some slack.  FTR, we're talking like 6 people here, not 60.  We haven't been able to fill a nursing class in 3 semesters, so I don't think rejecting people for 1 piece of paper not being signed is really going to help with numbers.  She's using the excuse of "I'm so busy I might not be able to call them" when in reality, she has 1/3 of the students the rest of us do.

willy_gert

I'm exhausted.  DD is fully into growing or a sleep regression and I am just plain exhausted.  DH can't help because of his dialysis running overnight and so I have the joy of getting up from 1 to 4 every night.  I feel bad for LO because I remember how painful growing was for me and I suspect the same is happening to her.  

My parents are being stupid 4 year olds right now.  They got divorced almost 25 years ago and they were doing really well, but suddenly want nothing to do with the other.  My nieces are getting baptized at the end of this month and my mom basically told all of us that she won't be around except for the baptism because she doesn't want to "be in the way" and she doesn't want to spend time with my dad.  So weird, and frustrating, but whatever, I have too many other things to think about.

Oh, and the transplant center rejected DH without even talking to him or anything.  He has been retaining fluids since he started dialysis and they are still adjusting his prescription, so right now he "weighs too much" again, but they won't even talk to us.  He got a fucking letter that basically said lose 25 pounds and then we will talk to you.  

Sorry, I'm done now.

MarisaKathleen

tinyhumantoe said:

My mom's dramatic, truly psychotic, estranged sister called my dad last night.  She told him she saw his dead mom while she was meditating.  She told her to tell him to stop working so hard.  My dad lost both his parents a year ago, almost to the day. 

I don't know what to think, really.  My first reaction was that my aunt is evil. 

Are we related?! I have a cousin who swears that spirits and what not talk to her while she's meditating.  To hear her talk about it, she sounds like a complete wackado, but she truly believes it.  My Dad's birthday is Thursday and the anniversary of his death is the 26th.  I've been having dreams about him for 4 days straight but I chalk that up to anxiety and not that he's trying to tell me something.  

Pokedot

I am about ready to throat punch an entire loan company. We're paying off a loan in full and called last Tuesday for a loan payoff amount and wiring instructions. I've gotten the run around now by 5 people with this fawking thing. Friday it was supposed to be sent to our CU by end of business day. Then when I called Friday it was end of business day yesterday. I called yesterday now it's at the regional office and they won't know when it'll be done. The loan is going to be "sold" to a different company on Thursday. I'm actually about ready to cry.

Pokedot

tinyhumantoe said:

My mom's dramatic, truly psychotic, estranged sister called my dad last night.  She told him she saw his dead mom while she was meditating.  She told her to tell him to stop working so hard.  My dad lost both his parents a year ago, almost to the day. 

I don't know what to think, really.  My first reaction was that my aunt is evil. 

I swear I've had family members come to me in my sleep. The circumstances were far too real for me not to believe it wasn't them. Maybe I'm crazy but I believe in this kind of thing. Even if it's just a comfort to know they are still with me and around. I'm seeing Theresa Caputo on the 14th of April so there's that too.

AlinnJo

I'm so over my kid waking up at night. So over it. I was ready to night wean but then all 4 of her molars started coming in and I couldn't do it. Now I think I'm ready and I have no clue how I should do it. I think I'll lessen how long I nurse at night or I might send my H in to comfort her and then put her back in her crib. I know she will cry a ton. But I am SO DONE with getting up in the middle of the night. But then part me of is thinking she just needs comfort, and then the other part of me is thinking it's just a habit and it won't take long to break it. So annoyed. But mostly with myself for letting it go on this long.

thebanich

DD has a stomach bug. She woke up in the MOTN on Sunday and puked all over DH and I. She then kept puking every hour or so until about noon yesterday. We thought it was over and then the mega-diarrhea set it.

I'm so damn tired. 

MRoxy0628

AlinnJo said:

I'm so over my kid waking up at night. So over it. I was ready to night wean but then all 4 of her molars started coming in and I couldn't do it. Now I think I'm ready and I have no clue how I should do it. I think I'll lessen how long I nurse at night or I might send my H in to comfort her and then put her back in her crib. I know she will cry a ton. But I am SO DONE with getting up in the middle of the night. But then part me of is thinking she just needs comfort, and then the other part of me is thinking it's just a habit and it won't take long to break it. So annoyed. But mostly with myself for letting it go on this long.

I've heard good things about Jay Gordon's method.

AlinnJo

MRoxy0628 said:

AlinnJo said:

I'm so over my kid waking up at night. So over it. I was ready to night wean but then all 4 of her molars started coming in and I couldn't do it. Now I think I'm ready and I have no clue how I should do it. I think I'll lessen how long I nurse at night or I might send my H in to comfort her and then put her back in her crib. I know she will cry a ton. But I am SO DONE with getting up in the middle of the night. But then part me of is thinking she just needs comfort, and then the other part of me is thinking it's just a habit and it won't take long to break it. So annoyed. But mostly with myself for letting it go on this long.

I've heard good things about Jay Gordon's method.

I've never heard of it. Going to google now!

MRoxy0628

@allinjo It's a more gradual process designed for night weaning older children.  I like that it's a gentler approach, but if you're looking for something quicker, it might not work for you. 

Sorry to clog this post with this...

bosha711

tinyhumantoe said:

I hate that we have to drive to a park for a nice place to play.  We do have a small backyard, and it will be nice this summer I think.  Right now it's snow piles, mud, and soggy dog turds. 

I want to move because I want W to have the same rattin-around childhood that I had.  The streets we walk on for our long walks go into some shady hoods that never gave me pause until W.  I think I'll buy a can of mace.  Can you still buy mace?

A positive:  I took W outside yesterday.  It was so muddy, but we kicked a ball around the sidewalks and she touched every tree trunk.  For the first time in my life, Irealize that I'm living the best time I'll ever have in my life - when it's happening. 

This is really sweet! I took DD outside yesterday & she plopped herself on the sidewalk & dug out a bunch of acorns from between the sidewalk slabs. I was annoyed at first b/c I just wanted to go for a nice walk. But then she started handing them to me, saying, "here, mommy" after each one. I had no choice but to just enjoy the moment!


On the flip side, my random bitch for today is with our oil delivery company (oil heat). They have the worst customer service. They are the rudest people I've ever encountered on a business level & I can't wait to be paid up with them for the season so we can switch companies.

Example, they overcharged us for a repair, so I called & left a message. When the manager called me back, he didn't even apologize. He just says, "yeah, I credited your account, bye" and hangs up. Asshole.

Flamingemu

willy_gert said:

My parents are being stupid 4 year olds right now.  They got divorced almost 25 years ago and they were doing really well, but suddenly want nothing to do with the other.  My nieces are getting baptized at the end of this month and my mom basically told all of us that she won't be around except for the baptism because she doesn't want to "be in the way" and she doesn't want to spend time with my dad.  So weird, and frustrating, but whatever, I have too many other things to think about.

My grandmother goes through this every other year. She sees my grandfather and his wife all football season (my cousin plays college ball), then the holidays come around, she has a couple glasses of wine and is all 'woe is me' I HAVE to be around my ex-husband again? You all divorced 25+ years ago. You have adult children, grandchildren, and great-granchildren. Suck it up and stop making us make special trips.

MarisaKathleen

@willy_gert, my Dad and his first wife divorced almost 25 years ago and my siblings always refused to do 2 gatherings.  It made both my Mom and my Dad's first wife uncomfortable for a really long time.

Now Nancy calls her Nana, her and my Mom are really good friends and I can't imagine my life without her.  We all go on vacation together and everything.  A lot of people think it's strange, but life is too short to waste time with such drama.  Hopefully your Mom will get with the program.

thebanich

thanks @bunkinmama She seems to be through the worst of it but isn't eating still. She managed to vomit and shit on DH in a 12 hour period. I think he was ready to run away.

hmp1

I never comment on public FB pages when it is a parenting debate, until today. The local parenting mag said "I would never lock my kids in their room because they keep getting out of bed, what about you?". First, why are you wording your question with so much judgment. But the reason I posted was because someone said "I would never lock my kid in their room. I spank them in they get out of bed to teach them it is not ok." Lol, spanking is better than a lock/gate/baby proof opener on the door how?

redneckmomma25

I am frustrated. Frustrated with all my hard work and good diet and I blew it all on Saturday for my husband's party. I'm frustrated with not getting time to myself at home without the baby. I was on hold with our propane company for over 30 minutes to be disconnected. I am tired of adult duties and taking care of bills and checking pricing on all our stuff. I need a break from life. I wish I had some friends to go out with or do something with or go somewhere with.

redneckmomma25

I also am supposed to have gotten my period. Nothing. Negative test. Just hate waiting for the inevitable.

PenelopePond

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

redneckmomma25

PenelopePond said:

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

That would hurt. I remember my niece said something about my armpit fat once and laughed. Had to hide tears.

It's crazy how I know I am fat and over weight it's not as if I try and hide it or ignore it....but if someone points it out its like a slap in the face.

MarisaKathleen

PenelopePond said:

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

Kids are dicks.  I'm sorry he hurt your feelings.

My Mom said when I was little I said something to the effect of "Mom, that lady's butt is really big!" while we were grocery shopping.  She made me go and apologize to her.  My Mom always made me do things like that.  You'd think it would have made me keep my mouth shut but no.  I've struggled with my filter since I was 4. :-(

PenelopePond

redneckmomma25 said:

PenelopePond said:

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

That would hurt. I remember my niece said something about my armpit fat once and laughed. Had to hide tears.

It's crazy how I know I am fat and over weight it's not as if I try and hide it or ignore it....but if someone points it out its like a slap in the face.

Yes. All of that. It makes me sad to think that's he's not suppose to say it because it's rude; not because it's untrue.

I'm sorry you can relate to that . And I agree with what you wrote, minus the trying hard on the diet thing. I'm so sick of being in charge of so much. It's exhausting and DH acts like it's nothing.

>:D<

PenelopePond

MarisaKathleen said:

PenelopePond said:

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

Kids are dicks.  I'm sorry he hurt your feelings.

My Mom said when I was little I said something to the effect of "Mom, that lady's butt is really big!" while we were grocery shopping.  She made me go and apologize to her.  My Mom always made me do things like that.  You'd think it would have made me keep my mouth shut but no.  I've struggled with my filter since I was 4. :-(

Ethan doesn't have much of a filter, either . It makes for some interesting conversations when we are out.

hmp1

PenelopePond said:

Ethan keeps telling me how fat I am. I know he doesn't understand how hurtful it is, so I can't be mad at him. I cried a lot because of it last weekend. I guess I can't be mad at anyone but myself.

There is a girl at daycare going through this right now. She will point at an over weight women and say "She has a baby in her belly". I am terrified for this stage of not understanding what they say can hurt people's feelings.

Big hugs.