Have you heard of this...?

24karat

mrshudson618 said:

@kjkarats03 jinx!

Lol! Great minds...

Pink724

That can't be real. It just can't.

mrshudson618

Pink724 said:

That can't be real. It just can't.

Right?

emmanemm

mrshudson618 said:

YOU GUYS. I just heard about something worse. So bad, I am hesitant to believe it is real. 

From Oct '14 and July '14:

https://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=132702.0

@somerandomchick what say you?

This is a joke, right? RIGHT? I can't even.

babyQ2013

How are these people not embarrassed?!

sparkymcgeee

Im mortified for both of those things but the balls the poem lady had just astounds me. Incredible.

opheliainwaders

NKaeding said:

I might throw my computer across the screen.

I'm, btw, with @somerandomchick on the ettiquette btw. I don't like book showers either. Don't get me started on diaper raffles.

Can I ask a question about why people dislike the book shower thing? My family threw one for me (since I've always been a big reader), and I think they said something like, "bring a book for the baby" in lieu of a traditional gift? Some people brought both, some just brought books, some people brought only a gift, some brought handmade cards...it didn't seem like anyone was pushy about it, but now I worry that maybe it came across that way? :-/

dinomama13

That is some shit. Both situations are ridiculous but the bad poem was just too much.

opheliainwaders

somerandomchick said:

I responded to that etiquettehell thing on BSB (Thanks @Laurendag for paging me in!) I said that the receiver of the poem should send back an IOU... "IOU: Exactly nothing. Buy your own baby shit."

Read through the ehell forum, and the BEST post response: "I do not accept invoices/for your life choices." I am still laughing; it is PERFECTION.

mrshudson618

gulickr said:

NKaeding said:

I might throw my computer across the screen.

I'm, btw, with @somerandomchick on the ettiquette btw. I don't like book showers either. Don't get me started on diaper raffles.

Can I ask a question about why people dislike the book shower thing? My family threw one for me (since I've always been a big reader), and I think they said something like, "bring a book for the baby" in lieu of a traditional gift? Some people brought both, some just brought books, some people brought only a gift, some brought handmade cards...it didn't seem like anyone was pushy about it, but now I worry that maybe it came across that way? :-/


I don't think it is a huge deal, but generally the problem is most book showers the book is expected as the card, and another gift is still expected. Or that it just takes the idea of a registry a step too far. Registries seem more optional and suggestion like, rather than telling someone exactly what to get you?

24karat

In case you didn't read through the comments on the etiquettehell post...OP posted a reply update:

"Re: Oh dear ehell no!
« Reply #50 on: March 07, 2014, 02:52:36 PM »
An update, she's taken to Facebook. According to my friend she posted this status:

Apparently some people are upset at being called at out for lame gifts (or no gifts!), well I'm sorry but I'm having a child!! This is a blessing! I thought my friends and family who apparently love me would want to celebrate that blessing! But whatever, guess it doesn't matter my kid doesn't even have a crib! If the notes upset you, maybe it's because you're feeling guilty for skimping on a BABY!!"

mrshudson618

gulickr said:

NKaeding said:

I might throw my computer across the screen.

I'm, btw, with @somerandomchick on the ettiquette btw. I don't like book showers either. Don't get me started on diaper raffles.

Can I ask a question about why people dislike the book shower thing? My family threw one for me (since I've always been a big reader), and I think they said something like, "bring a book for the baby" in lieu of a traditional gift? Some people brought both, some just brought books, some people brought only a gift, some brought handmade cards...it didn't seem like anyone was pushy about it, but now I worry that maybe it came across that way? :-/


I don't think it is a huge deal, but generally the problem is most book showers the book is expected as the card, and another gift is still expected. Or that it just takes the idea of a registry a step too far. Registries seem more optional and suggestion like, rather than telling someone exactly what to get you?

opheliainwaders

mrshudson618 said:

NKaeding said:

I might throw my computer across the screen.

I'm, btw, with @somerandomchick on the ettiquette btw. I don't like book showers either. Don't get me started on diaper raffles.

Can I ask a question about why people dislike the book shower thing? My family threw one for me (since I've always been a big reader), and I think they said something like, "bring a book for the baby" in lieu of a traditional gift? Some people brought both, some just brought books, some people brought only a gift, some brought handmade cards...it didn't seem like anyone was pushy about it, but now I worry that maybe it came across that way? :-/

I don't think it is a huge deal, but generally the problem is most book showers the book is expected as the card, and another gift is still expected. Or that it just takes the idea of a registry a step too far. Registries seem more optional and suggestion like, rather than telling someone exactly what to get you?

Ah, gotcha. I had a very small registry (since I have a small apartment, and only registered for some bare essentials because I was getting yelled at by my MIL...who is generally very nice, but really weird about the Necessity Of Gift Registries), so I think it was actually more of a "Please do not buy large stuff/lots of gifts" kind of thing? But I do get where lots of direction would be tacky.

jmw222

Holy Hell.  I really am not too upset with the book thing or even diaper raffle (it's optional, no one is forcing me and I hope that if I am attending these showers, I like/know the people well enough, that I don't mind). 

But, the taking bets as an actual party -um, no!

The poem thing - I have no words other than

ljs4117

Good god.  How pathetic and tacky are people going to get with this stuff?!?  How many shower-like events do you really need?  And straight up asking for money? TACKY!

FWIW about the book thing... I think book raffles can be cute but I don't like the idea of asking for a book instead of a card.  For some reason it's different to me.

jmw222

Holy Hell.  I really am not too upset with the book thing or even diaper raffle (it's optional, no one is forcing me and I hope that if I am attending these showers, I like/know the people well enough, that I don't mind). 

But, the taking bets as an actual party -um, no!

The poem thing - I have no words other than

ljs4117

Good god.  How pathetic and tacky are people going to get with this stuff?!?  How many shower-like events do you really need?  And straight up asking for money? TACKY!

FWIW about the book thing... I think book raffles can be cute but I don't like the idea of asking for a book instead of a card.  For some reason it's different to me.

Kitten80

Asking for $ for bets as a "party" - just no.

The poems, ah hell no. And I don't get to up in arms over things like book showers. Really? Just really? I hope people put her in her place on FB. And maybe post some of those reply poems people suggested in comments. Some people really should not procreate.

opheliainwaders

ljs4117 said:

Good god.  How pathetic and tacky are people going to get with this stuff?!?  How many shower-like events do you really need?  And straight up asking for money? TACKY!

FWIW about the book thing... I think book raffles can be cute but I don't like the idea of asking for a book instead of a card.  For some reason it's different to me.

Yeah, leaving aside the valid point of not directing people to get a specific kind of gift, I didn't realize people were asking for books in lieu of cards, I thought it was more "if you're going to get a gift, please get a book." Anyway, sorry to totally jack an otherwise fabulously entertaining thread!

valstulas

Okay, guys. Time to fess up. I'm "Sue" and I threw that shower myself for my fourth baby.

Also I didn't send out thank you cards for the gifts I got that were to my liking. And my invitations? I posted them on FB.

Hahaha. Bring it.

sparkymcgeee

I love this play by play. She deserves every bit of shaming.

queenbone

No, that is seriously bizarre and I would choose not to participate.

Why do people feel the need to forever reinvent how to give baby gifts? The old way was working, people!

queenbone

mrshudson618 said:

YOU GUYS. I just heard about something worse. So bad, I am hesitant to believe it is real. 

From Oct '14 and July '14:

https://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=132702.0

@somerandomchick what say you?

Sweet

Fancy

Fuckin

Moses