Vent...are you F***ing kidding me?!

Melissa72777

So I had what appeared to be early labor on Thursday which then came to a screeching halt. I was so upset cause my doc had seemed so sure I would have the baby by the end of the weekend. My due date was yesterday and still nothing happening. I have been having severe back pain for at least a month and been pretty much housebound due to that. I am also an emotional wreck. Meanwhile, my co-worker who is pregnant with twins and who has been having a wonderful symptom free pregnancy and whose due date isn't till April 18th...HAD HER BABIES TODAY! Seriously, are you f***ing kidding me?! Honestly I'm glad she and the babies are doing ok and I'm happy for her but really I just feel like I've been kicked while I'm down. Sorry, I know I sound like a whiny brat but I needed to get that off my chest.

RondackHiker

You're upset that another mom had preemies before you had your full term baby?

PrimRoseMama

RondackHiker said:

You're upset that another mom had preemies before you had your full term baby?

Right? That's out of line, IMHO.

I know the last couple weeks are a complete fucked up mess, but your baby isn't ready yet. I know what it's like to be overdue, but pull your head out of your butt. Having a premie is nothing to wish for. Perspective.

Melissa72777

Ok I'm not saying I want a preemie and I said that I am happy for her and that I'm glad they are all doing well. Im just venting, hence the title "vent". And BTW when she texted me to tell me she had them her exact text was "I win...the babies are here." I know she didn't do it for spite but it think the text did set me off since I'm a hormonal mess. My post was not meant to sound like I'm wishing harm on anyone or that I wish I had a preemie or anything like that. It's just me being frustrated, thanks for the support.

ncbelle

I know the end of pregnancy can be frustrating but I'd much rather be a week or even two "overdue" than deliver over a month early.

Relax.  Stressing doesn't do anything but stall labor.  Baby will come

Melissa72777

DaisyBlinks said:

Melissa72777 said:

So I had what appeared to be early labor on Thursday which then came to a screeching halt. I was so upset cause my doc had seemed so sure I would have the baby by the end of the weekend. My due date was yesterday and still nothing happening. I have been having severe back pain for at least a month and been pretty much housebound due to that. I am also an emotional wreck. Meanwhile, my co-worker who is pregnant with twins and who has been having a wonderful symptom free pregnancy and whose due date isn't till April 18th...HAD HER BABIES TODAY! Seriously, are you f***ing kidding me?! Honestly I'm glad she and the babies are doing ok and I'm happy for her but really I just feel like I've been kicked while I'm down. Sorry, I know I sound like a whiny brat but I needed to get that off my chest.

Uh, Oh OP. This isn't going to go well. Being one day overdue isn't "down", you moron. Tons of women (myself included) would kill for the chance to get to our due dates. Chill out. 

I understand that all of us are dealing with our own issues with our pregnancies. Some may not be able to go full term, some may be going way later than their due date, others may have absolutely wonderful pregnancies but just not be ready to have the baby mentally. I'm just venting about my situation. And I don't understand what you mean by 1 day overdue isn't "down"? I know there are people way more overdue than that and I really just posted when my due date was for people on mobile who couldn't see my ticker.

Melissa72777

ncbelle said:

Relax.  Stressing doesn't do anything but stall labor.  Baby will come

Thank you I'm gonna keep trying to do that. :-)

Mimaloo

Wow - her babies are OVER a month early. I'd be more concerned with their health than "OMG she had her babies first!". I'd much prefer a full-term baby over a premature baby so count your blessings.

 

yeah.

you said it. You sound like a whiny brat. I'm actually floored that you are jealous of a mama with preemies. That's...yeah.

Justabean3

I get what you're meaning, just not how you're saying it.

I know the end sucks. I cried ever time I went to a doc appoint ever other day past my date for them to tell me go back home. In the end though that baby was far easier than my one born at 39 weeks.

Babies have their own plans and this in just a lesson called "baby wins!"
It will never be as planned from here on out.

MapleLeafMama

You know that twins very rarely make it to their due date, right? And I'd wager that she did not have a symptom free pregnancy, especially with two babies inside her.

pigtails1031777

I know it sucks and you're uncomfortable BUT don't compare to another pregnancy. It will get you no where but irritated. Everyone's body is different.
Take a breath and be happy you'll be holding your baby and not have to keep them in a nicu. Believe me THAT SUCKS WORSE

awc1986

Nah, OP. that's it now. They're stuck in there forever. Never gonna come out.

Seriously. Patience is a virtue.

veetveet

Congrats for making it to 3rd trimester. Hopefully you will deliver a healthy baby- some don't get the chance. Women on the loss board would love to be in your position.

Perspective.

TamiFaith

I get your frustration.  I'm not even full term yet (33 weeks) and I'm so ready to be done with being pregnant.

My mom used to tell me the story of when she was preganant with me (I was her first): she went to the doctor on her due date and he said, "Ok, everything looks good.  Come back and see me in a week."  She left in tears- she just wanted to hold me already! I was 6 days late, as it turns out.

Being in pain is no fun, and of course you're anxious to meet your little one.  Take a deep breath, put your feet up and chill- or, go for a nice long walk to try to get labour going!

Good luck!

hlm184

Melissa72777 said:

Ok I'm not saying I want a preemie and I said that I am happy for her and that I'm glad they are all doing well. Im just venting, hence the title "vent". And BTW when she texted me to tell me she had them her exact text was "I win...the babies are here." I know she didn't do it for spite but it think the text did set me off since I'm a hormonal mess. My post was not meant to sound like I'm wishing harm on anyone or that I wish I had a preemie or anything like that. It's just me being frustrated, thanks for the support.

I think this explained it much better than the initial post.  

Issa6601

If you're past your due date you can always ask to be induced. Giving birth to a preemie is definitely not what anyone should be wishing for (although, I don't think you were), but having the baby stay in there too long can have its own sets of issues.

iqwedding3

Noone seems to be actually hoping for preemies here.  This is a total vent, and feel free!  Your friend is probably also making a joke in the same vein, she's stressed out over having twins and is making the same kind of funny but edgy joke.

Good luck, I hope your kid comes out soon!

jasrun80

people are crazy… i would definitely be bothered if i thought i was in labor, was TOLD i'd "probably go" then …………. i really have no idea why some doctors do that… i actually feel like it's a jinx!

then the way that girl texted you is BS. she sounds weird.. everyone i knew had their babies early when i was due with my second and i was miserable,,,hot, and just done! i couldn't play with my son and i lost my grandma whose funeral i couldn't even attend because i couldn't fly and it was all SO overwhelming and hard. some of the people who i kew who had their babies early definitely went through things i was so glad i did not have to go through, but still i wondered "what can't i have mine too!?"

then i had her at the right time and it was PERFECT!! your time will come… 

24karat

Melissa72777 said:

So I had what appeared to be early labor on Thursday which then came to a screeching halt. I was so upset cause my doc had seemed so sure I would have the baby by the end of the weekend. My due date was yesterday and still nothing happening. I have been having severe back pain for at least a month and been pretty much housebound due to that. I am also an emotional wreck. Meanwhile, my co-worker who is pregnant with twins and who has been having a wonderful symptom free pregnancy and whose due date isn't till April 18th...HAD HER BABIES TODAY! Seriously, are you f***ing kidding me?! Honestly I'm glad she and the babies are doing ok and I'm happy for her but really I just feel like I've been kicked while I'm down. Sorry, I know I sound like a whiny brat but I needed to get that off my chest.

Yeah, as a MoM who faced very real complications, months of bed rest, and potential loss of my babies from preterm labor, you do sound like a whiny brat. I understand being ready for pregnancy to end, but really? Vent or not that was a horrible thing to say.

And just because a pregnancy looks wonderful and symptom free doesn't mean it is/was. Especially a high risk one like a multiples pregnancy.

Ashleypixie

It sounds like you really feel like shit, physically and emotionally. I also get stabby when people I know have their babies, even if they're due way before me! I'm tired of being pregnant and this last month is going to be tough and I'm going to also be completely irrational about every birth I hear about. At least you've acknowledged that you sound like a whiny brat, but I can understand because false alarms are pretty annoying and she made it feel like a competition. Just keep things in perspective, she went early (twins do) you might be late, at least your baby won't be in NICU. I'm personally surprised by her comment, she should be concerned about her own babies.

ILoveBoys

Lurker here....but I had to comment. OP, with my first, my OB started telling me that 2 weeks before my due date, because I was already dialating. By due date, I was walking around dialated to 4.5 cm. Guess what? I was induced being 6 days overdue, and after 18 hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing, I had a c/s because.....baby was face up and crooked in the birth canal. 

All that to say....take your OB's words with a grain of salt. They can only comment on what they see. They have no idea what your LO is doing inside of you.  And I get how frustrating it is, but try to do some things now that you won't have the chance to do once LO gets here.