TTC Check-In

GoaliesWife123

Good morning, friends. This is the place for our weekly trying to conceive check in. How are things going? Where are you in your cycle? Rants/Raves? 

**As a reminder, please begin a new thread for a BFP announcement**

QOTW: Stolen from @2mamazinseattle for the TPR check-in: What is your favorite thing about spring? 

GoaliesWife123

I'll start by copying my check in with TPR...

Check-in: Well, I'm 13dpo (IF I ovulated right at the 36 hour mark of the trigger.) Home tests are coming up negative and I'm on progesterone, so no af as of yet. RE protocol is a blood test, which I had this morning. They said they have had plenty of people come in with negative home tests and then see a positive blood test. While I'd love to be hopeful, I'm not. 

As for our journey, we aren't sure, but are leaning toward this being our last try. It is devastating to think about not trying anymore, but this is such an expensive and emotional process that we aren't sure that continuing to try (and fail) is what we want to do. We know that our lives would be so wonderful with a child, but we also know that our lives would be wonderful with just us. My biggest fear is regret. I don't want to go 10 years and still regret not trying more, or trying something else. We could certainly try for another year, and fail, and then decide to stop trying, and still have the same regret. We are both devastated, but I'm so incredibly thankful that we are on the same page. We haven't made our decision yet. We may take a month off and try again, but as for now, we are taking it one day at a time. 

Sending thoughts and prayers to everyone who needs it. 

AandStilltrying

We are waiting on CD1 which should be any day now. Then we schedule our HSG and labs. Hoping for the best! So ready to try again. My neighbor has a 1 year old ( she pulled in drive way with her take home baby the same time we pulled in from our (D&C)...and is now prego again and due May 1st with twin girls!!! Ugh...having a hard time being supportive and not jealous!

AandStilltrying

Fav thing about spring is cool mornings with warm afternoons and a light breeze. And SUNSHINE!!! 70 in Raleigh today and I'm stuck in a classroom with no windows. Ugh!

doodah1013

Hello everyone!
We are in our pre-TWW . It is CD6 and I started using the Fertility monitor sticks this morning. I am enjoying my acupuncture and things are looking up. I got a huge promotion this week and I think I can feed off the positivity from that for a while! It is quite a change to have something to feel positive about.

I am hoping for everyone in their TWW that things work out for the positive!

QOTD: Being able to be outside. My life it outside and when it is cold it can be quite miserable!

AandStilltrying

doodah1013 said:

I am enjoying my acupuncture and things are looking up!

Good for you with the acupuncture. I won an acupuncture treatment on a cruise...not so much fun. Long story short I had a panic attack when they put pins in my hands and told me not to move or it would hurt. The boat started rocking as soon as he left the room and said he would be back in 20 min. Lol.

holdingThumbs

Happy Monday - and thanks again for the warm welcome.

Unfortunately, regret is has been a persistent feeling when it comes to all things reproductive... e.g., I should have acted long ago, I should have left a closed door closed, I should have run through an open door when it was open, yadda yadda.  It's sucky - I don't feel this way about other aspects of my life.

Alas, we are on hold as we wade through a bunch of my partner's concerns and fears not previously out in the open.  Obviously this has to be done, but I am feeling blindsided.  We had planned to do the first IUI this month.  Now, instead, we are going away on a romantic weekend where I will likely, much to my own chagrin, be weirdly passive-aggressive.  Sigh.  I wish I could dis-invite myself from this vacation - we would have a better time without the current me.

I LOVE the cold, and typically, the more snow the better, but goodness, this winter was brutal.  I am most excited to get out of heavy boots and back into flip flops!   Dirty, disgusting urban life be damned, I want to wiggle my toes!

SweetPea0307

@doodah1013 I'm so glad things are going better for you! I hope this is the beginning of a nice long streak of good luck.

I'm on CD2. This last BFN was brutal. We had an evap line at 13dpo that got our hopes up and then the BFN on 14dpo was devastating. I got bad news at work that same day (long story, basically I'm going to continue to have to work 2 jobs because another group stole one of my recent hires). There was lot's of crying both at home, and embarassingly, at work on Friday. At least there was wine last night after a long weekend of working.

I've decided I need to do something different, not quite sure how, to protect myself more from the disapointment of BFNs. I need to be less hopeful and just think about it all less. We'll see how well that works.  I want to come up with a plan for what to do if this continues to fail, but my wife's not quite on the same page yet. Right now, we've agreed to try a new donor for two more cycles after the next one (not that he's the problem). After that it will have been 6 tries and I want to move on to an RE, but my wife is not a fan of medical intervention, so we'll see if I can get her to agree. If it still didn't work after a year of trying, I'd want to try IVF for one round, and then give up.

 

ETA:

QOTW: My favorite thing about spring is my walk to and from work through the public garden. Each walk is different; new leaves have appeared, new flowers have blossomed, and everything is returning back to life little by little.

GoaliesWife123

SweetPea0307 said:

@doodah1013 I'm so glad things are going better for you! I hope this is the beginning of a nice long streak of good luck.

I'm on CD2. This last BFN was brutal. We had an evap line at 13dpo that got our hopes up and then the BFN on 14dpo was devastating. I got bad news at work that same day (long story, basically I'm going to continue to have to work 2 jobs because another group stole one of my recent hires). There was lot's of crying both at home, and embarassingly, at work on Friday. At least there was wine last night after a long weekend of working.

I've decided I need to do something different, not quite sure how, to protect myself more from the disapointment of BFNs. I need to be less hopeful and just think about it all less. We'll see how well that works.  I want to come up with a plan for what to do if this continues to fail, but my wife's not quite on the same page yet. Right now, we've agreed to try a new donor for two more cycles after the next one (not that he's the problem). After that it will have been 6 tries and I want to move on to an RE, but my wife is not a fan of medical intervention, so we'll see if I can get her to agree. If it still didn't work after a year of trying, I'd want to try IVF for one round, and then give up.

 

ETA:

QOTW: My favorite thing about spring is my walk to and from work through the public garden. Each walk is different; new leaves have appeared, new flowers have blossomed, and everything is returning back to life little by little.

I'm so sorry for your BFN. The entire process of TTC is a complete mind-you-know-what. 

GoaliesWife123

holdingThumbs said:

Happy Monday - and thanks again for the warm welcome.

Unfortunately, regret is has been a persistent feeling when it comes to all things reproductive... e.g., I should have acted long ago, I should have left a closed door closed, I should have run through an open door when it was open, yadda yadda.  It's sucky - I don't feel this way about other aspects of my life.

Alas, we are on hold as we wade through a bunch of my partner's concerns and fears not previously out in the open.  Obviously this has to be done, but I am feeling blindsided.  We had planned to do the first IUI this month.  Now, instead, we are going away on a romantic weekend where I will likely, much to my own chagrin, be weirdly passive-aggressive.  Sigh.  I wish I could dis-invite myself from this vacation - we would have a better time without the current me.

I LOVE the cold, and typically, the more snow the better, but goodness, this winter was brutal.  I am most excited to get out of heavy boots and back into flip flops!   Dirty, disgusting urban life be damned, I want to wiggle my toes!

Being on the same page and keeping a completely open, and honest dialogue is absolutely necessary in this process. I'm sorry you are feeling blindsided. I can't imagine what that must feel like. I would encourage you to talk openly to your partner, even if it is something she doesn't want to hear, and she should do the same with you. If you aren't on the same page, at least you will be able to determine your next steps. Wishing you the best of luck. 

GoaliesWife123

Well, we got the official bfn from the RE a bit ago. Even though we were pretty sure we were out, it's still devastating. We decided that taking the next few cycles off to really evaluate what we want is the best decision. We will revisit things in a few months.

HollynLeana

@GoaliesWife123‌ we are kind of in the same boat....we don't have the money to continue IUIs, it's a very emotional time for us too...I really hope you get a positive!
@TwoMomsInTX‌ I have a hard time staying on track too, with my healthy choices...have you tried fit pal or a jawbone up?
@AandStilltrying‌ it is so unfair....I'm sorry you had to see your neighbor with a new baby that day-that super sucks
@doodah1013 congrats on the promotion! Awesome! Are you guys doing IUI again?
@holdingthumbs you guys should try circle + bloom meditations!!! They really help with all the regretful and sad emotions.
@sweetpea0307 I know how you feel....you will be on your 4th IUI as well right? I've become less obsessive (I was reallllly bad) about dr googling things and even bumping...the two new dogs are making me very happy and I am just trying to focus on other things...I had my 4th this morning and I barely flinched, I was feeling like a pro! You'll get em next time girl...until then..there's WINE!

4th IUI this am...I am staying hopeful and optimistic...after wash sperm count was 8 million...is that ok? The last 3 (diff donor) were like 16 million....I know it only takes one....but I want 100 million! I had 3 mature follicles all around 20 and a 9mm lining....so all was good...and I've been using circle + bloom, which I LOVE! So I set forth on my new TWW...and promise myself not to POAS until 11dpiui! Hope you all have a great week! Thanks for all the well wishes!!!

QOTW - I love the warmth coolness of spring....being able to breath outside and cure a vitamin D deficiency I'm sure I have! Connecticut is great and all but I love warmth and sunshine and it's cold 9 month out of the year! Time to move!!!

doodah1013

@hollynleana Yup! We are onto another IUI this time. Unmonitored and unmedicated (we got our BFP on a UU cycle so we decided to proceed with that!)
Our doc will do the IUI as long as the count is at least 5 mil. Our last count was 15.9 mil, but I know some people who have gotten BFPs with far less. I think it is more about the timing! So much good luck headed your way. Hoping for an easy TWW for ya!

HollynLeana

Thanks @doodah1013!  I am so glad you guys are getting right back on the TTC horse, or I guess back in the stirrups! (I know, I'm hysterical!).  People cautioned me against it, but it really helped me to focus some of my sadness on something else...I also love that you are unmedicated and unmonitored.  I got my BFP with clomid and ovidrel, but I am not a huge fan of either.  I have heavy franken ovaries and hot flashes...not to mention i want to slap everyone!  Good luck! Cheers to high sperm counts!

kristi&p

I know my update is a couple of days late but work has been a little too busy.

A results showed that she did ovulate on her own. We are so excited about this all of her levels came back totally normal so we are moving forward with a natural cycle. Her first IUI will well be the last week of this month. Then we are headed on vacation, perfect timing we will be so busy for the TWW. 

Sending good thoughts and vibes to everyone

I love spring because it feels like everything just comes back to life with spring. The birds come back around, flowers bloom, trees get their leafs back. Its just a great refreshing season.

twobrooklynmoms

Hi all,

I took a break from the bump after my wife's miscarriage in Jan but started lurking recently. 

Luckily DW did not need a D&C. We found a new RE whom we love (and is much more conveniently located) and he put her on Clomid for this cycle so we'll be trying again in about 10 days. I'm grateful to be trying again, it has been a difficult couple months.

Best wishes to everyone, and thanks again for all your support.

StacyLH24

@GoaliesWife123‌ - I'm so sorry that you got a BFN.

@SweetPea0307 - I'm also sorry for your BFN. It is never an easy thing.

@doodah1013‌ - Congrats on the new job! I'm glad things are looking up for you both.

C and I have been on vacation. I have checked the board a few times but nothing much until now. TTC was the last thin on my mind, thankfully, since we left home on Friday. I'm at CD 14 right now. There will be no IUI for this current cycle due to my c/p and such. We shall start again with the next cycle.

QOTD: I'm most looking forward to the smell of dirt and the Spring flowers.

mrs&mrsk

Hello everyone! We are new here!

so I have some downtime at work today, and I'm reading all about TTC using donor sperm (From anonymous/ sperm bank). 

we havent gone to the Dr yet, we have been setting up some appts to do so (cardiologist, gyn, etc)

I thought we'd be spending $2-300 a shot or a month. 

Well the more I read... people suggest trying 3x per cycle @ "washed" sperm so we are talking $1000-1200. TIMES however many months.... 

Then I read some info re: birth certificates and even though we are legally married and can put both names on, they are state granted... so there are a lot of legalities federally where we may have to do a 2nd parent adoption ~$2-3000 with lawyer fees etc. 

Then, if we have infertility issues... they arent covered by our insurance. $$$$ 10,20,30K.....

How do people do this!!!!

firstcomeslove2013

@mrs&mrsk

Welcome and thanks for joining us! Be sure to introduce yourself to the group and jump right in. If you search through the threads there are a lot of great resources and answers to all your questions.