Choosing godmother - but past history hurts

Angelahelena

My husband insists that since we are having twins one godmother should be his sister. I can't do that bc she betrayed n hurt me by sleeping w my then 15 year old son when she was 23. I never filed charges but do not n cannot trust her not give her that honor of being
a godmother. Husband knows but forgave her. No other family knows bc of scandal. What do I do?

dholsapp

Depends... what are your thoughts on who gets to name this baby? Do you agree with the belief that if you carry the baby you get to name it, or are you letting DH have a say in the naming? How do you feel about the name Zayn? All of these are important questions you must answer before I can tell you that it would be insane to have anyone near your children who slept with your 15 year old son...

Angelahelena

Names are already chosen by parents. Same names we chose since before we conceived. No one else would name my children.

Lynzdice21

Um what the hell!? That is crazy and yea I don't blame you for wanting nothing to do with your SIL child abuser. Yes, 15 is a child so she is a child abuser. #TeamZayn

dholsapp

@Lynzdice21 you just became my new best friend with your hashtag. Is Zayn your favorite 1D member?

Angelahelena

I agree. Ty. It's complicated bc she comes off as looking fine before everyone bc no one else knows so family wonders why I don't like her. My situation sucks. I try to forgive but can never forget or trust her

YohannesH

Have you discussed with your son over this? Or it has remained a taboo ever since? You must be devastated then.

eves1989

If you're not comfortable w/ her then don't pretend that you are. DH will not understand why you don't like her but she is still his sister so I don't suggest telling him the truth..for now. Have you talked to her privately about the incident?

BMoreBride6

I know this sounds harsh, but by not pressing charges, you let the matter go.  If you think this is something the family would question, you will come out looking like the bad guy.  I would no way in hell let this women near my children period, and if the family asks questions, I'd tell them the truth.  Actually, scratch that, this is your husband's family, it should be up to him to tell them.