Am I wrong?

YTLCNURSE

Ex BF/BD told me yesterday that I was inconsiderate and selfish for not scheduling my dr appts around HIS work schedule. He's off every Thursday and Sunday. I am 29 weeks and my appts are now every 2 weeks. It just so happens that my appts that the nurses schedule for me fall on Wednesdays, which I am off every other Wednesday and every other Friday. My appts have always been on Wednesdays since I found out I was pregnant. The OB office is closed on Fridays. Keep in mind he has only been to 2 appts so far after asking him to come to appts with me on several different occassions. I told him that  1) I personally don't schedule my appts. It just so happens that my appts are on the Wednesdays when I'm off  2) I'm the one that's pregnant so why should I cater to his work schedule and accommodate him  3) If he is able to take off time from work to go to football games and take days off to go on trips then he can sacrifice 1 hour out of his work schedule to be at appts if he really wants to be there. He's been at his job for 7 years and I've been at my job for only 8 months. I'm trying to save my PTO for when I have the baby because I don't qualify for FMLA so having my appts on my day off works out fine for me. I just want to know if I am in the wrong here?

freeatlast2014

Is there a third option? Can you make an appointment without either of you having to take time off if work? If not, then you should go when you have off and if he wants to come he can make arrangements. But if you can make them later in the day, maybe, after he is done working on a Wednesday perhaps that could work (now that you know he wants to come).
Don't forget, he could just be giving you a hard time and not really have plans to come anyway so I would definitely not try To accommodate him only.

MinnesotaMomma91

Im with @mrslynnyd im to tired for a long thoughtful drawn out reaponse. Ill just say do whats best for you

jesuisfatiguee

First, it's really sweet that he wants to come. 

Second, I'm sure you could talk with the person who schedules those appointments and get it bumped from Wednesday to Thursday. I mean, what's the real difference in 7 vs. 8 days? I don't get the whole "I don't schedule my appointments" thing, because you absolutely do have a say in that. 

MinnesotaMomma91

je+suis=fatiguee said:

First, it's really sweet that he wants to come. 

Second, I'm sure you could talk with the person who schedules those appointments and get it bumped from Wednesday to Thursday. I mean, what's the real difference in 7 vs. 8 days? I don't get the whole "I don't schedule my appointments" thing, because you absolutely do have a say in that. 

This. Mine always varied due to my school scheduale and my mws scheduale. I booked my appointments.

It does seem a little bit like your looking for excuses for him not to be there. Will you do this when the child is born

Jwyman93

With you not being at your job for very long and trying to save your PTO it makes complete sense to have them on your days off...I don't have a lot of earned time saved up due to not working full time for long and I know it's difficult...is he able to take time off to go with you? Because if he wants to go maybe he could find a way

YTLCNURSE

Thanks for your responses ladies. The thing is I have told him on several occasions when my appts are in advance, but he tries to make me feel bad that I do not schedule them around his work schedule. Just wanted to get some opinions and thank you.