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Tnpeach

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Tnpeach

Last Thursday around 1:30 in the morning, my mom called me. The nursing home my papaw is in called local family to tell them that he wasn't going to make it through morning. Fast forward to Monday. He passed on.

My confession is my papaw's going home has made me realize how much I hate my mom right now. If you were to look at my mother's Facebook page, you could document every twist of his last days on earth, complete with pictures of him and my Mamaw saying goodbye to each other. Now that he is gone, she is being an AW. Yes, I know, your daddy died, but you went to see him maybe twice a month. Des saw and talked to him every damn day. My sister, that moved into my grandparents' house 18 years ago, who was raised by that man and his wife, has dealt with everything. Everything. All while my mother just sits. And face books.

So flame on. I know I won't have her forever, she will go just like papaw. But right now, I hate my mom.

LeeLee86

@Tnpeach I'm so sorry you lost someone and that your mom is adding drama onto the event ;(

My FFC is that I'm totes excited for the 50 Shades of Grey movie. We all know the writing in the book was terrible and she's another weak sauce female lead BUT I love the casting and I'm excited to see the story through someone else's writing lol.

oscarwao

Tnpeach said:

Last Thursday around 1:30 in the morning, my mom called me. The nursing home my papaw is in called local family to tell them that he wasn't going to make it through morning. Fast forward to Monday. He passed on. My confession is my papaw's going home has made me realize how much I hate my mom right now. If you were to look at my mother's Facebook page, you could document every twist of his last days on earth, complete with pictures of him and my Mamaw saying goodbye to each other. Now that he is gone, she is being an AW. Yes, I know, your daddy died, but you went to see him maybe twice a month. Des saw and talked to him every damn day. My sister, that moved into my grandparents' house 18 years ago, who was raised by that man and his wife, has dealt with everything. Everything. All while my mother just sits. And face books. So flame on. I know I won't have her forever, she will go just like papaw. But right now, I hate my mom.

I'm in the camp of "Making a public spectacle about loss on FB is not cool". I'm assuming for some people this is just how they grieve, but it makes me cringe majorly. I'm sorry for you loss. 

artichoken

I'm tired of ALL the complications this pregnancy has had I kind of just secretly wish the next time I go into PTL they don't stop it and just take her out....... X_X

83edwards

LeeLee86 said:

@Tnpeach I'm so sorry you lost someone and that your mom is adding drama onto the event ;(

My FFC is that I'm totes excited for the 50 Shades of Grey movie. We all know the writing in the book was terrible and she's another weak sauce female lead BUT I love the casting and I'm excited to see the story through someone else's writing lol.

Isnt the author also writing the script? I know she is heavily involved with the movie

busterbeagle

I got a mom haircut last night.

I tell DH before I go poop.

I think it's sexy that he darns his socks when they get holes.

Anytime I'm watching TV and a character asks if someone wants coffee, I mentally scream "YES!" and I've started saying it out loud now.

Tnpeach

Thanks for the condolences. @artichoken, I hope you don't go into PTL again, but if it does, I hope they do what is best for you and baby. @leelee86, I don't know if I will see it or not... It's hard for me to remember any real plot in that book...

RachelCA29

I "unfriended" someone on Facebook because she posted her Boudoir photos last week. I don't have any issue with Boudoir photos (I had a set done to give to my husband for our anniversary) or sexy images on Facebook, but it just seems like something you DON'T post on Facebook.

I guess the root of the issue to me is that something like that you do for yourself, they are intimate and private (nude, nearly nude, or not) and having to show them off on Facebook seems almost sad to me. It's this attitude people have that you don't feel like you've really "done" something until you post it on Facebook for everyone to see you have done it.

No one except you ladies and my husband know I had a boudoir session. Because I did it for me and him, and who else needs to know? (Obviously you guys didn't actually need to know).

CamrynnsMommy

busterbeagle said:

I got a mom haircut last night. I tell DH before I go poop. I think it's sexy that he darns his socks when they get holes. Anytime I'm watching TV and a character asks if someone wants coffee, I mentally scream "YES!" and I've started saying it out loud now.

Pics or it didn't happen.

TheBeeCharmer

@artichoken I'm sorry you've experienced PTL, but you're only 29 weeks. Just remember that the more time that your baby can get, the better. "Taking her out" this early would present a whole new set of problems. FX that it doesn't happen again! 

christieep

Confession: My sisters gave me a bunch of maternity clothes the first time I was pregnant.  I didn't wear most of them because they weren't my size or they were just NMS.  This time around, knowing I wasn't going to wear them again, I started selling them on eBay.  Neither one of them plans on having more kids and I was kind of their dumping ground for all of the stuff they no longer wanted to store, so I figured it was my right to do with it as I pleased.  I've made enough $$ to pay for a good portion of the new laptop I had to buy to replace mine that broke

CamrynnsMommy

DD had a banana and Popsicle for breakfast. She's been super finicky about eating lately. She's in this "I said I'm not hungry" phase.

Eta: I have no idea why "Popsicle" is capitalized, but auto-correct won't let me undo it.

LeeLee86

@MK1013 I have a friend that literally fell off the face of the earth once I got pregnant. She's engaged, planning her wedding and I have zero involvement in it. It hurts when grown ladies act like mean girls. I would love to help her even if I'm not invited (I even told her that!) but oh well.. Hope you and your friend can bridge the gap…

artichoken

TheBeeCharmer said:

@artichoken I'm sorry you've experienced PTL, but you're only 29 weeks. Just remember that the more time that your baby can get, the better. "Taking her out" this early would present a whole new set of problems. FX that it doesn't happen again! 

@thebeecharmer I know it would be bad...just a weak moment for me today.

awc1986

FFFC: I've had 4 people in 24 hours tell me how small I am. I think they think they're being kind, but it really worries me that so many people are saying it. I'm measuring 2 weeks behind and have been since I was 28 weeks (now coming up to 32). I don't think people realise that telling someone they're really small can be just as damaging as telling them how big they are. It makes you feel like you're doing it wrong.

ykristos

CamrynnsMommy said:

DD had a banana and Popsicle for breakfast. She's been super finicky about eating lately. She's in this "I said I'm not hungry" phase.

Eta: I have no idea why "Popsicle" is capitalized, but auto-correct won't let me undo it.

Autocorrect changes breastfeeding to BREASTFEEDING on my phone. It's the best, and I have no idea why I was yelling about it at some point. I just go with it.

Cupcakes89

awc1986 said:

FFFC: I've had 4 people in 24 hours tell me how small I am. I think they think they're being kind, but it really worries me that so many people are saying it. I'm measuring 2 weeks behind and have been since I was 28 weeks (now coming up to 32). I don't think people realise that telling someone they're really small can be just as damaging as telling them how big they are. It makes you feel like you're doing it wrong.

I feel you on this. It hurts sometimes to be called too small.. My MIL tells me everytime she sees me almost. >.<

oscarwao

Babybarlow2014 said:

My FFFC.. I miss my BFF who bailed on me when she got pregnant 3 weeks before me. I truly have no idea why, either. I've tried to contact her every way possible, ask what I've done wrong, apologize for whatever I may have done, what gives.. We are adults, this is just crazy. I get texts from numbers I don't know hoping it's her, but it never is.

That's strange. Hopefully she'll come around!

People bail for all sorts of strange reasons....significant other doesn't like such-and-such, they've become obsessed with a new group of friends, they are offended about something but decline to tell you what offended them, etc. But I think if someone is intentionally disregarding your efforts to make amends and strengthen the relationship, then that person is NOT your friend in the first place - to cut someone off without explanation is hurtful and childish. 

Now on the other hand I must confess that I am COMPLETELY guilty of letting friendships fade out because I wasn't interested in continuing said friendship anymore (for a variety of reasons)...but if the person on the other end asked for an explanation I would certainly give them one. A close friend of mine, who has wanted to marry her SO and start a family for years, had a difficult time watching me get married and KU. I haven't made an effort to continue the friendship because 1.) I think it is painful for her , and 2.) Though I don't think she meant to be, every conversation toward the end of our friendship was fairly poisonous. She would constantly tell me how awful pregnancy was going to be, how I was going to ruin my body, how I'm never going to sleep again, etc etc. I still respond to her occasional text, but I definitely don't make an effort to maintain the relationship the way I did before. 

jjtyler

---I now snore.  My dear husband, who slept on the couch for 3 nights because I wasn't feeling well came back into bed last night and lasted an hour because I was snoring SO LOUD.  He chose the couch over the comfy king-size bed.  And honestly, now I don't feel bad that I want to stretch out and sleep across the bed as I wish.

---I am dreading my shower/sprinkle that my family and friends are throwing me.  I will be 34 weeks at that point, my sister just had her fourth failed IVF, AND I can't stand one of my other sisters (I have four) and my SIL (who may not even show because her daughter's have a basketball game).  Should be a hoot.

Kageer

Jane C said:

My FFFC is that I have been eating like a kid these last couple weeks. I keep wanting peanut butter jelly sandwiches & pirate booty for every meal. Why? I don't usually like pb&j.

Pirate booty is one of the most amazing foods ever created. There's no shame in that!

CamrynnsMommy

Jane C said:

My FFFC is that I have been eating like a kid these last couple weeks. I keep wanting peanut butter jelly sandwiches & pirate booty for every meal. Why? I don't usually like pb&j.

I have no idea what "pirate booty" is. Please share.

83edwards

CamrynnsMommy said:

My FFFC is that I have been eating like a kid these last couple weeks. I keep wanting peanut butter jelly sandwiches & pirate booty for every meal. Why? I don't usually like pb&j.

I have no idea what "pirate booty" is. Please share.

Why am I always stuck in the quote box?

My google search says it is white cheddar popcorn.....

kramja01

This pregnancy has been giving me (dried) bloody boogers and I love picking them. I never had a snot problem before, but now I get some every day. At least I don't eat them/put them in weird places, right?

Chellbell20

awc1986 said:

FFFC: I've had 4 people in 24 hours tell me how small I am. I think they think they're being kind, but it really worries me that so many people are saying it. I'm measuring 2 weeks behind and have been since I was 28 weeks (now coming up to 32). I don't think people realise that telling someone they're really small can be just as damaging as telling them how big they are. It makes you feel like you're doing it wrong.

I know EXACTLY how you feel.  I was measuring 2-3 weeks behind the entire pregnancy with DD.  I do think people think it's a compliment, but it's not and I worried about it.  All someone ever needs to say is "you look great."  FWIW, I measured at 36w when DD was born at 39w3d and she was 6lb 13oz.  Small but not teeny tiny.  She's still a petite little thing, 23lbs at almost 3 years old.  

busterbeagle

CamrynnsMommy said:

busterbeagle said:

I got a mom haircut last night.

I tell DH before I go poop.

I think it's sexy that he darns his socks when they get holes.

Anytime I'm watching TV and a character asks if someone wants coffee, I mentally scream "YES!" and I've started saying it out loud now.

Pics or it didn't happen.

Sorry it's just an awkward sideways selfie. I will save the trout pout/bare belly/tattoo version for FB.

JessElam

My FFFC is that during the summer DH and I like to go to an area on our local lake that is a nude beach.  We have so much fun there and it is very relaxing.  I'm pretty disappointed that this year we won't be able to go because I will not be walking around naked in front of anyone for a while post baby.

kramja01

I am obsessively stalking my registry, even though my shower isn't for another month...

dogsombrero

I've started refusing to do estimates for people who are going to be/already are difficult. I just don't want/need the money bad enough to constantly put myself through hell anymore. Yep I'm the person at the auto shop say no I can't do that, I would feel guilty but I've been accommodating to the max for 2 years.

keeumm

My FFFC: My husband is 18 years older than me.

Better with age

julesf817

JessElam said:

My FFFC is that during the summer DH and I like to go to an area on our local lake that is a nude beach.  We have so much fun there and it is very relaxing.  I'm pretty disappointed that this year we won't be able to go because I will not be walking around naked in front of anyone for a while post baby.

My DH and I go to one too! One of the most beautiful beaches on Martha's Vineyard also happens to be an unofficial nude beach. i never thought i'd do something like that, but after one day there now i look forward to it every year. it's very freeing. i actually think i will go again though we might not make it there this summer. the people at that beach are literally of every age, shape and size you can imagine, and they don't give a crap who sees their loose skin or extra flab so hopefully i can do the same and show off my post baby body.       

lrmrtn

I'm done with most of my family. Besides my mom and step mom, they can't be bothered to come to my shower. They all have ridiculous excuses, including MIL and SIL. And I'm not including in that anyone that'd have to get on a plane because I get that.

JessElam

Jules51814 said:

JessElam said:

My FFFC is that during the summer DH and I like to go to an area on our local lake that is a nude beach.  We have so much fun there and it is very relaxing.  I'm pretty disappointed that this year we won't be able to go because I will not be walking around naked in front of anyone for a while post baby.

My DH and I go to one too! One of the most beautiful beaches on Martha's Vineyard also happens to be an unofficial nude beach. i never thought i'd do something like that, but after one day there now i look forward to it every year. it's very freeing. i actually think i will go again though we might not make it there this summer. the people at that beach are literally of every age, shape and size you can imagine, and they don't give a crap who sees their loose skin or extra flab so hopefully i can do the same and show off my post baby body.       

Yes, totally freeing!  I absolutely love going and everyone just has such a good time.  Nothing better than chatting it up with a 65 year old naked couple with perfect tans!  I agree, no one there really cares about what your body looks like, but for me personally, I think I will be too self conscious this year to walk around with loose baby skin - unless by some miracle everything shrinks back up to normal by August!  A girl can dream right?

julesf817

JessElam said:

Jules51814 said:

JessElam said:

My FFFC is that during the summer DH and I like to go to an area on our local lake that is a nude beach.  We have so much fun there and it is very relaxing.  I'm pretty disappointed that this year we won't be able to go because I will not be walking around naked in front of anyone for a while post baby.

My DH and I go to one too! One of the most beautiful beaches on Martha's Vineyard also happens to be an unofficial nude beach. i never thought i'd do something like that, but after one day there now i look forward to it every year. it's very freeing. i actually think i will go again though we might not make it there this summer. the people at that beach are literally of every age, shape and size you can imagine, and they don't give a crap who sees their loose skin or extra flab so hopefully i can do the same and show off my post baby body.       

Yes, totally freeing!  I absolutely love going and everyone just has such a good time.  Nothing better than chatting it up with a 65 year old naked couple with perfect tans!  I agree, no one there really cares about what your body looks like, but for me personally, I think I will be too self conscious this year to walk around with loose baby skin - unless by some miracle everything shrinks back up to normal by August!  A girl can dream right?

yeah i can totally understand that! it took me a while to be comfortable going naked at the beach pre-pregnancy! and the entire time i felt silly for being self conscious watching these older ladies let it all hang out and having a great time!  

N0nSequitur

My fake plants died because I did not pretend to water them.

bazingaa

Yes! I couldn't agree more. It really upsets me when people say that to me, I just have to keep reminding myself that my doctors opinion is really the only one that matters... As long as he is good, I need to ignore everything that wants to put in their two cents.

typeset

I can't remember the last time I kissed my spouse. 

bazingaa

Why can't I figure out how to properly reply to a specific reply within a thread? Seriously, what am I doing wrong!?

Miles2Go

typeset said:

I can't remember the last time I kissed my spouse. 

I can't remember the last time I enjoyed kissing my spouse.

Cupcakes89

I'm embarrassed to have my baby shower.

My mom is hosting it and my MIL was supposed to help. I feel guilty being whiner about my MIL on this subject because she is out of state taking care of my sick BIL and his wife/kids. BUT she dropped out of Co-hosting it with my mom. Now the guest list is only like 5 people from my moms job that I don't know and none of my inlaws will be showing up because MIL isn't coming. I don't care about the gifts (but I do care if that makes sense..)don't get me wrong and I will appreciate what I get because that's who I am..and I'm happy I was thought of and given this shower but I feel embarrassed because the guest list is small and I don t even know the ladies giving me stuff... it's all confusing to me why strangers should gift me stuff and of course my moms going all out and making a theme and a bunch of games to play which would be fine if there was people to play the games haha

On top of this I just feel guilty about everything... Ugh.

christieep

CamrynnsMommy said:

DD had a banana and Popsicle for breakfast. She's been super finicky about eating lately. She's in this "I said I'm not hungry" phase. Eta: I have no idea why "Popsicle" is capitalized, but auto-correct won't let me undo it.

We are constantly fighting the food battle, I totally get feeding her whatever she wants.  Sometimes that doesn't even work.