FFFC

jy725

Happy Friday!

jy725

DH and I finally DTD this week. First time since I was pregnant. It was good but I can't help but feel so unappealing. We had this amazing sex life and now my body is so weird. I need to get my sexy back.

teacupkat

I got two...

I think pumping at work is weird. All my coworkers know my boobs are out in the closed room and they hear the machine... I try to make light of it by offering them shots of breast milk, but I don't know, I just feel awkward.

LO is home with me today instead of daycare as my dad has surgery today. I'm afraid she's going to be miserable since she seems to love going to DC. Mommy isn't cool anymore I feel like since going, she just doesn't want to smile at me. I'm relieved she transitioned well, but is never expected to feel so inadequate so quickly.

Eta: I write this as she's sleeping on me with her hand in my shirt clinging to me and hasn't wanted me to put her down since waking up.... I guess I'm just insecure.

KateVA

@risalyn222 My older boys are in bunk beds but the baby spends much of his night in our bed and I love it! The older boys come in our room a lot stiil, lately my 6 year old wakes me more than the baby. He's been sleeping on the couch in our bedroom. And my middle guy is just an insomniac like mom so climbs in with me randomly. It's like the Walton's over here! All 5 of us in one bed by the time the night is over! It makes me sleep deprived but also unbearably happy.

Cambury108

Risalyn222 so been there and done that. My son is 8 and although he sleeps in his own bed....He still asks every night if he can sleep with us. Sometimes I let him. Even though I feel he is to old now. I think in my head if he is asking he must need it. He is such a good cuddler and I love his lil face in the mornings. Every blue moon I will wake up to both my older ones in bed with us. The last time it happened I went to bed with my husband and my 1 month old at the time and 2 dogs, was woken up around 4am by my son and then again at 6 by my oldest dd. Only living thing in the house we were missing that day was the cat. I am in camp cherish it while you can.

tattooedtragedy

I have an irrational fear of treadmills. I've always felt really stupid about this and always avoided them. I fear falling on them and flying off the back like an idiot. Because of this, I've always done my cardio on the bike or elliptical but this week I finally got over myself and ran on the treadmill for the first time. And I feel even more stupid for being worried about it all this time. :-/

iranwithscissors

jyparker725 said:

DH and I finally DTD this week. First time since I was pregnant. It was good but I can't help but feel so unappealing. We had this amazing sex life and now my body is so weird. I need to get my sexy back.

I went to MommyCon Chicago last week, and there was an amazing couple there speaking about sex after a baby.  It was an open forum so we got to hear everyone's questions and concerns.  One of the girls asked about not feeling sexy or not having self-confidence in her body anymore.  They replied by asking the audience "Who thinks 'unsexy' people deserve to have great sex?" and of course everyone raised their hands.  Then went on to say "So why, when we feel unattractive, do we believe that we don't deserve to have great sex?"

It hit home for me at least.  Yes, my body changes with every child.  But my husband still finds me attractive.  I need to not be so hard on myself and enjoy sex, because no matter what I think I look like, I still deserve great sex

eta: words

teacupkat

mireland23 said:

I have an irrational fear of treadmills. I've always felt really stupid about this and always avoided them. I fear falling on them and flying off the back like an idiot. Because of this, I've always done my cardio on the bike or elliptical but this week I finally got over myself and ran on the treadmill for the first time. And I feel even more stupid for being worried about it all this time. :-/

There's nothing wrong with holding onto the front bar to keep yourself balanced. I did that for the longest time. Also unless you're sprinting at a pace you can't keep up with, you definitely won't fall off

Springfly13

I am 11 weeks out from labor and still have my DH convinced that I have not been cleared for sex. His birthday is this week and I still don't want to give in :^o

teacupkat

@sss
That's actually me going down escalators!!! I have a crazy fear of them and I've been like this since I was 2 my mom says.
Scary factor: Down escalators>treadmills

Whitterpow

I'm a stingy love titter. I'm working on it.

Also, I'm squeezing my child into clothes that are too small because I don't want to pack them up before he's ever worn them.

BoothBaby

Hearing about that poor baby in the hospital with whooping cough makes me want to smack the crap out of all the people who choose not to vaccinate.

Springfly13

Whitterpow said:

Also, I'm squeezing my child into clothes that are too small because I don't want to pack them up before he's ever worn them.

^^This! I have packed up two totes already and we are going to miss more if I don't "make" her wear them soon. She isn't even 3 months and we are consistently dabbling into 9 month clothes already!

bubblesmtu

I still feel a pang of jealousy when I hear people are pregnant. It's only momentary but still happens. I think it's because my h and I struggled so long to get pg and had a m/c. Now we have our own beautiful little girl but I still get these feelings!

macadamia03

We were plannig a family vacation in Florida for the last week of March. DH has gotten so busy at work he doesn't want to take any time off. So he said that I can take the money and the boys and go on a road trip to see my parents. I'll be driving from outside of Chicago to Tenesee(dad) and then on to Georgia(mom).Most people hear this and think lady you have lost your mind. Taking a two year old and a three month old by yourself. My confession is I think it will be more fun without DH. He sucks at helping me with the kids, he's always in a rush and he doesn't get along that well with either of my parents. Plus I'm glad my parents will finally get to meet P. Florida would have been nice but I'm excited to hit the road with my boys.

cammyisagirlsname

@mrssturm45 we watch it too! Every day! Haha

thesportsgal

I was excited to get back to work Monday and don't feel like I miss my baby enough.  I love her to death but I also was so sick of sitting in the house during this horrible winter.  I know she is in great hands and I was excited for her to have new and different experiences.  It makes me feel like a terrible mom that I'm not sobbing everyday. 

thesportsgal

teacupkat said:

I got two... I think pumping at work is weird. All my coworkers know my boobs are out in the closed room and they hear the machine... I try to make light of it by offering them shots of breast milk, but I don't know, I just feel awkward.

I understand this.  Do you wear a hands free bra?  I figure that you really can't even see anything besides just the nip so they're not totally out.  And I'm super paranoid that I'll open my door before fully getting dressed...there's just too many steps.

Mrbatesisinnocent

I may have consciously decided that if I peed in the shower I could sleep 3 more minutes today. .....




I may have decided this twice this week.

tattooedtragedy

superspecialsnowflake said:

teacupkat said:

mireland23 said:

I have an irrational fear of treadmills. I've always felt really stupid about this and always avoided them. I fear falling on them and flying off the back like an idiot. Because of this, I've always done my cardio on the bike or elliptical but this week I finally got over myself and ran on the treadmill for the first time. And I feel even more stupid for being worried about it all this time. :-/

There's nothing wrong with holding onto the front bar to keep yourself balanced. I did that for the longest time. Also unless you're sprinting at a pace you can't keep up with, you definitely won't fall off

@mireland23 ... I totally imagine this is you... but with treadmills. :P





That's about right....

amberpro

As far as bed sharing... DS1 has always been an Independant sleeper. DH hates having kids in the bed. But since DS2 was born, DS1 comes into bed with me around 5am every morning. DH gets upset with me for letting him, but I love it. I'm in the middle of a cuddly cute sandwich.

This is how I left my boys in bed this morning (I was in the middle).

teacupkat

thesportsgal said:

teacupkat said:

I got two...

I think pumping at work is weird. All my coworkers know my boobs are out in the closed room and they hear the machine... I try to make light of it by offering them shots of breast milk, but I don't know, I just feel awkward.

I understand this.  Do you wear a hands free bra?  I figure that you really can't even see anything besides just the nip so they're not totally out.  And I'm super paranoid that I'll open my door before fully getting dressed...there's just too many steps.


I do and for some weird reason, the hands free bra reminds me of bondage. I don't know why, probably a really weird thing to relate it to, but this adds to my uncomfortable feelings. No one at my works cares too much besides my boss. He has made it pretty obvious the whole thing weirds him out.

noslen0519

Smart lady!

MamaCBear said:

I'm driving to visit family and friends about two hours away tomorrow. MIL emailed me last night saying that I should let her know if I wanted company for the drive and I could drop her off at her sisters for the weekend. I promptly marked the email as unread and will respond tomorrow. When I get to my destination. If DH was coming I'd be okay with it, but I definitely can't handle that long of a car ride with her.

thesportsgal

Thanks, @mrsp821.  You're right, I'm not a terrible mom (even thought I dropped my cell phone on my baby the other night) . 

shannonas4

I'm so jealous of my Mom getting to be at home with B while I work. I am so grateful that she is able to do that for us but I wish I could stay at home instead.

MissyC979

I hold the baby for most of his naps. I occasionally have him in the swing or bouncy sear if I need to use the bathroom or make lunch. I haven't tried to put him in the crib for a nap in weeks--he kept waking up, even though he sleeps well in there at night.

I should have been working on this the last few weeks since daycare and my Mom won't be able to hold him all day when I go back next week. However, I haven't been willing to give up any cuddles as I get closer to going back to work... I really hope he transitions okay.

Caitlinh27

I'm visiting my sister in CA and I may go with her to her gym this morning and if I do I will put LO in the daycare. I will NOT be telling DH. My sister says the ladies who work in the daycare are amazing and there is a separate room for babies. They take babies starting at 6 weeks, and LO will be 11 weeks tomorrow.
DH wouldn't tell me I can't, but it would open up conversation where he asks a million questions about the daycare and he will expect me to find out how LO did every minute of the hour he will be in there.

thesportsgal

MamaCBear said:

Thanks, @mrsp821.  You're right, I'm not a terrible mom (even thought I dropped my cell phone on my baby the other night) . 

Been there. Bumping and feeding is hard.

Oh, I wasn't bumping.  I had my phone playing a white noise app while I rocked her to sleep.  So then I decided to put the phone in my mouth to lay her down in her crib.  That's when it fell out of my mouth and hit my baby in the head.  Needless to say, she woke up.  Double fail.

Kermode61581

I do not enjoy breastfeeding DD#2 like I did with DD#1.

shelbygirrrrl

gwinnygirl said:

I'm considering giving Nora  a bottle of formula for her last feeding at night to see if it helps her STTN. I don't care even a tiny bit if anyone judges this. I have a shitload of bm stored in our freezer & am not really worried about supply. I just want to see if it would keep her fuller longer. But I dread formula poops.

Before I stopped breast feeding DS, I would give him a 4oz bottle of formula at night. He slept for a good 5 hours, instead of up every 2 or 3.

frankierokx

I hate this new trend called #100happydays that is all over my Facebook, yet I started it 3 days ago just so I have one more excuse of posting more M pics.

cammyisagirlsname

Sometimes I sit on the toilet for 10 extra minutes to Bump, IG, text when H is home. Like right now.

notkateanymore

jenniferbromley said:

Sometimes I sit on the toilet for 10 extra minutes to Bump, IG, text when H is home. Like right now.

Yeah...been there. And there now. 

kbart82

bubblesmtu said:

I still feel a pang of jealousy when I hear people are pregnant. It's only momentary but still happens. I think it's because my h and I struggled so long to get pg and had a m/c. Now we have our own beautiful little girl but I still get these feelings!

I feel the same way sometimes. My husband and I lost our little girl late in our first pg. We were able to get pg easy the second time. However, I get jealous of people's excitement over their pregnancies. We had small signs that things were wrong in our first pg but didn't realize how bad it was until our anatomy scan. I never got to be excited or over joyed in either pg, I was to terrified something would go wrong.
I would never wish anyone to feel or go through what I went through. But I am enviousness of their happiness.

Kermode61581

Cashingn2 said:

Kermode61581 said:

I do not enjoy breastfeeding DD#2 like I did with DD#1.

eh, I haven't enjoyed bf'ing at all. I was so determined to do it, but I was miserable.

For me i think it's because I get no relief, she will not take a bottle and eats a lot with no set pattern.

lettingitsnow

I told my DH that LO was fussy all week so I didnt have time to do any laundry or tidy the house, when really he was a little angel baby, I just wanted to snuggle and watch netflix. Sorrynotsorry.

lettingitsnow

Cashingn2 said:

Kermode61581 said:

I do not enjoy breastfeeding DD#2 like I did with DD#1.

eh, I haven't enjoyed bf'ing at all. I was so determined to do it, but I was miserable.

Add me to this list. Feeding my LO has made me feel like I am trying to feed a feral cat. Too many wiggles and head butts and scratches and kicks to be enjoyable.

KFED103

Next week we are taking both kids on an airplane and not bringing seats for either. I'm also relying on the IPad to keep my almost two year old in the seat belt when I know he could probably wiggle out pretty easily. It's a little less than 2 hour flight so I'm really not that worried.

cuntasaurusrex

I'm from July '14 and wish you guys and your AEs would visit more often. 

northport6

thesportsgal said:

I was excited to get back to work Monday and don't feel like I miss my baby enough.  I love her to death but I also was so sick of sitting in the house during this horrible winter.  I know she is in great hands and I was excited for her to have new and different experiences.  It makes me feel like a terrible mom that I'm not sobbing everyday. 

@thesportsgal This is how I was feeling when everybody was like, "Two month shots today and oh! I cried more than my baby did!"

Because, FFFC, I was kind of laughing and trying to get her to focus on my face rather than on her little band-aided-up thigh.  I was so relieved she was finally being vaccinated that there was nothing sad about those moments at all.

northport6

@Mrbatesisinnocent

"IT'S ALL PIPES, WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?"