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reinedecajun

Lets do this~!

reinedecajun

My oldest wanted us to get together this weekend with my ex bil and the family. My EX husbands family! No friggin way am I doing this. He keeps insisting on it and luckily big Frankie starts his job today so he'll be working all weekend. I dont know how long I can keep putting him off but im hoping he will come around and understand how uncomfortable that would be for us and drop it.

reinedecajun

briderx said:

I didn't know about half the people in the celebrity peen post. I feel so old!

Lol I didn't either.

EandIMommy86

Last night was the first time I actually cooked dinner all week. Both ds and dd have had colds and it has worn me out. I have had chick fila,McDonald's once and pb&j for lunch this week. Dd has had the same and has eaten spaghetti or nuggets for dinner all week.

zyas

We had a date night scheduled for last night for the past week. However at the last minute we realized there wasn't a movie either of us wanted to see. So we ended up going out for dinner and a bit of shopping. We were home early, before Ava was even in bed. We ended up playing with her for a bit, putting her to bed and we were in bed at 8:30.
But we did have ST 3 times yesterday... Maybe it's no wonder why I was so tired last night.

aylafsu88

@Bliz1712 I completely agree with filing taxes. A normal person should be able to do it there own taxes for free. Only if you have a business or complicated deductions would you need to pay someone to do it for you.

I have not told my H that LO is still nursing for a few minutes before bed. She fusses/cries and gets upset if I do not let her nurse. My H is able to put her to bed when I am OOT for work and we had discussed completely weaning last month so I think he has just assumed that she is weaned.

Barefoot84

I'm super excited about baby no 2, and can't wait for his/her arrival. However, I'm due September 1st, and my birthday is September 5th. I'm unreasonably upset that I probably won't get to celebrate my 30th birthday, because I'll either be taking care of a newborn and healing from birth, or I'll be way pregnant and feeling miserable. All my friends did huge parties for their 30th, and I organized a big surprise party for H's 30th, and I want a big bash too!!

BubbaJug

I remove people on my fb friends list for a variety of reasons.

1. Their status updates are too long winded or effing obnoxious. Often both. Or they themselves are effing obnoxious.
2. I don't remember where I know them from.
3. I don't interact with them on fb or off.
4. They continue to bring up stupid shiiit that I'm over and don't care to discuss further.
5. It's my fb and I'll do what I like.

Color me rude.

KarmB

I got reemed out for doing that bubba. Lol. I took off people I had no clue who they were or didn't talk to at least once a week and you would have thought I stepped on a kitten. I don't remember screen names or real names if we don't talk regularly. Shrugs. My FB. My choice. I like talking with my friends. Even if it's a photo comment here or there. I don't get butt hurt if I get defriended because it's the internet. I probably wouldn't even notice unless it's my parents. I guess that's more of a uo here.

BubbaJug

daniellesa1220 said:

@bubbajug no one was flaming you or calling you out for defriending on FB.   I was honestly just going to reach out and extend you a virtual hug and let you know that we are here to support you because you were going through a rough time.  If someone defriends me, I couldn't care less.  My philosophy is do what you want, it's your lyfe and you don't have to answer to anyone.

I do appreciate that. I very much appreciate any well wishes that have been sent our way. I believe you fell into #2, unfortunately in the mass friending that was the j12 Facebook group, I didn't know who was who on thebump/fb anymore.

aylafsu88

@Barefoot84 You could always do a big birthday bash earlier or later than your actual birthday. I know it will not be on the actual day but you will probably enjoy it more.

Boing214

I'm really starting to regret buying a house and moving, and the big reason is because it's in a different town. MH is going to commute but I'm trying to find a job there so I don't have to for too long. The biggest part of the confession, I had an interview there this week and am pretty sure they're going to offer me the job because I've received the consent page to get a background check done, and I seriously don't think I want to take the job. I wasn't impressed by the place, it's the worst campus I've ever seen, ugly and right next to a plant so smells terrible, and I feel so snobby just judging it like this. I'm going to go through with the background check to see if they would offer me enough to make it worth my while, but unless they can offer more than what I'm making now I'm not going to take it.

singingirl96

We received a $450 check from our mortgage company for excess escrow payment refund...  I'm cashing it and DH has no clue we even got it.  hee hee.
Sad part is I can't even spend it frivolously.   I have to send it to my credit card co...

apollonia10

We usually have a very good sex life, and never go more than a week without sex. I have been hating sex this trimester - belly in the way, sore back after, general grossness - and we haven't had sex in like a month. I'm hoping we can go without it the rest if the pregnancy and make up for it later.

BubbaJug

Meow84 said:

jfresh said:

I try not to but I can't help noticing the dirty background in people's' pictures on FB, IG, etc (and before the paranoia begins, I am not calling any of you out ). My floors aren't perfect but I seriously wonder how nasty a person has to be to have gunk like that on their tile or crap littered on the carpet.

Crop that shit!

Clean the fucking floor!

Boing214

jfresh said:

I try not to but I can't help noticing the dirty background in people's' pictures on FB, IG, etc (and before the paranoia begins, I am not calling any of you out ). My floors aren't perfect but I seriously wonder how nasty a person has to be to have gunk like that on their tile or crap littered on the carpet.

Totally self-concious about it, I know we have a horrible floor but the moment I clean it something happens to ruin it. And most of the time I get home from work after MH was home with LO all day and the house is destroyed. I don't know how they do it either... :-?? Or the stupid dog destroys something that leaves fuzz all over. I swear, it wasn't like this until I got married and had a kid and pets either, but drives me nuts too.

christieep

jfresh said:

I try not to but I can't help noticing the dirty background in people's' pictures on FB, IG, etc (and before the paranoia begins, I am not calling any of you out ). My floors aren't perfect but I seriously wonder how nasty a person has to be to have gunk like that on their tile or crap littered on the carpet.

So I'm not the only one judging people out there!!!  I would die before I would post pictures of my house that messy, I would die before I would let my house get that messy!  My house is no where near perfect (I do have a toddler, two dogs, and a husband) but some pictures make me shudder (or want to call CPS).  A friend posted one the other day that was a borderline hoarding situation, I couldn't get past the clutter to judge the crib bumper and the mattress that desperately needed to be lowered (okay, I guess I did judge that too).

nesenotes

daniellesa1220 said:

@bubbajug no one was flaming you or calling you out for defriending on FB.   I was honestly just going to reach out and extend you a virtual hug and let you know that we are here to support you because you were going through a rough time.  If someone defriends me, I couldn't care less.  My philosophy is do what you want, it's your lyfe and you don't have to answer to anyone.

This was me too. But thanks for giving me the finger @bubbajug.

BubbaJug

jfresh said:

Haha @briderx it's not you! I'm dead serious when I say the picture that prompted my FFFC looked like it had sludge on the tile.

Poop on the tile.

reinedecajun

jfresh said:

Haha @briderx it's not you! I'm dead serious when I say the picture that prompted my FFFC looked like it had sludge on the tile.

I wont lie one of the first things I look at in peoples pictures is the background. Even in my own pics, I will crop the hell out of them to if it's not looking okay lol.

alphahelix

MH and I have had sex exactly 3 times since I got pregnant with this baby... 3 times in 8 months. I have absolutely NO sex drive, I'm exhausted, nauseous, and huge. But you can bet I'll be hitting him up for it once I get closer to the end since it can help get labor going. 

I am seriously considering having my placenta encapsulated so I can maybe I can feel like less of a postpartum train wreck this time around. I NEVER thought I would even think about doing something so 'crunchy'.

lkamenko

- Um, I think I will never post the picture of LO inside my house anymore - you made me feel very anxious, @jfresh,  I always have clutter in backbgound and my tile floor is far from being clean.

- I count a chocolate covered raisins as a fruit serving and yesterday I had 5 "fruit servings"

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- DH is leaving for Europe trip on Sunday and even though I say how sad and jealous I am that he is leaving, I am actually looking forward to a week of quite nights, when I can go to bed early and not having to entertain/having sex with DH after the exhausting day.

breannie

Animal crackers are one of my vices. The kind in the plastic bear tub not the kind in the circus box. 

breezyblueyez

@alphahelix I totally considered doing it last time bc I was afraid of PPD but mh and mom talked me out of it.

aylafsu88

alphahelix said:

MH and I have had sex exactly 3 times since I got pregnant with this baby... 3 times in 8 months. I have absolutely NO sex drive, I'm exhausted, nauseous, and huge. But you can bet I'll be hitting him up for it once I get closer to the end since it can help get labor going. 

I am seriously considering having my placenta encapsulated so I can maybe I can feel like less of a postpartum train wreck this time around. I NEVER thought I would even think about doing something so 'crunchy'.

@alphahelix I did it. Honestly, it was no different than taking any other pill like fenugreek I took to help with my supply. I was a mess postpartum and I shudder to think that it might have been even worse.

apollonia10

My OB is really relaxed about stuff, so I've gotten more relaxed too. He's out of town so the P.A. is covering his appointments. I was telling her about some watery discharge I've had, and she took a swab and checked it out under the microscope. It wasn't amniotic fluid but she did see some yeast, and recommended Monistat.

I know she's right, and I did start Monistat, but part of me wanted to call my actual OB and ask if I really had to take it because he's so chill and I know he'd say no.

Barefoot84

I just realized I have another one and it's probably flame-worty.

My 16-year old niece has a history of cutting herself. She's seen psychiatrists in the past to help her with this problem, and has always stopped doing it after getting help. She was spending the week-end here the other day, and while she was playing on the floor with Tumaini  in her pyjamas, I happened to notice a scar very low near her hip bone that didn't look like it could have any other explanation to it. I asked her about it, and she looked panicked and was trying to scramble for an explanation and not finding one. I simply said "Rough day?" and she shrugged in agreement, and that was it.

I know I should mention it to my sister. However, she tends to overreact, and make everything about her. She'll talk about it with my niece, and she'll sob, and scream and be an emotional wreck, and say things like "Why did I do wrong that you do that?", "Why can't you just talk to me when you have problems?", and then get her to see a psychiatrist and watch her like absolute crazy and totally invade every personal aspect of my niece's life, and that's the last thing my niece needs. The reason she's struggling so hard right now is because of her relationship with her mother, who doesn't know how to let go and admit that her little girl is now practically a young adult.

Every counsellor would tell me that this needs to be adressed, and that my niece needs professional help. I used to cut myself in high school, it was the only way I could deal with living with my parents. Life was just overwhelmingly hard and I didn't know any better way to control my pain. It helped me alot, and once I moved out, I stopped.

My niece is spending the week with my parents in Florida, and then spending another day with us, before going back home to my sister. I'm planning on bringing it up with her but simply telling her I'm here if she needs to talk, and reminding her that life will get much better soon, and that the teenage years are often the hardest ones in life.

alphahelix

jfresh said:

@alphahelix I've been thinking about that for next time around too. My milk was SO slow to come in and I was such a mess with recovery and hormones. If it doesn't cost an arm and a leg I will seriously consider it.

The places near me charge between $130-170. I guess my thinking is that it would totally be worth it if I feel better this time. My husband is a little weirded out, but he's supportive of it. I'm going to ask my OB how much of a PITA it will be to get the hospital to release the placenta to me, and if it sounds like it won't be a problem I'll probably do it.

@aylafsu88 - It's nice to hear that someone I "know" did it too! Did you think it was worth the money to do it? Do you think you would do it again?

breezyblueyez

My FC, I haven't enjoyed ST in a long long time. Ifeel like a jerk but I just don't like it or want it.

aylafsu88

@alphahelix I would probably do it again. It was inexpensive in my area (~150) so I gave it a try. I was worried about milk supply and hormones as I have suffered from depression in the past. I never had any issues with my supply and I felt like the pills gave me more energy. I was still emotional and cried a lot in the postpartum period so they were not a magic cure but I think it would have been much worse. The pills look just like any other vitamin pill in a capsule and they really did not have any taste or flavor so they were not gross to take.  I had a hospital birth and had my doula take the placenta home with her. The OB/nurses never questioned it and she had the pills ready in the next couple of days.

hokiemama06

Barefoot84 said:

I'm super excited about baby no 2, and can't wait for his/her arrival. However, I'm due September 1st, and my birthday is September 5th. I'm unreasonably upset that I probably won't get to celebrate my 30th birthday, because I'll either be taking care of a newborn and healing from birth, or I'll be way pregnant and feeling miserable. All my friends did huge parties for their 30th, and I organized a big surprise party for H's 30th, and I want a big bash too!!

Not sure where my comment went...

@barefoot84 - I'm in the same boat as you, but with a totally opposite perspective.  My 30th is 3/29, and DS#2 will arrive 3/24 via CS.  I'll be just getting home and working on recovery/breastfeeding/weeping at the drop of a hat.  I'm not really into my birthday, since the attention makes me uncomfortable.  A great birthday for me will be hanging out at home with all my boys and maybe some cake.    However, I have a twin who is all about her(our) birthday, so I doubt I'll get so lucky.

Barefoot84

hokiemama06 said:

Barefoot84 said:

I'm super excited about baby no 2, and can't wait for his/her arrival. However, I'm due September 1st, and my birthday is September 5th. I'm unreasonably upset that I probably won't get to celebrate my 30th birthday, because I'll either be taking care of a newborn and healing from birth, or I'll be way pregnant and feeling miserable. All my friends did huge parties for their 30th, and I organized a big surprise party for H's 30th, and I want a big bash too!!

Not sure where my comment went...

@barefoot84 - I'm in the same boat as you, but with a totally opposite perspective.  My 30th is 3/29, and DS#2 will arrive 3/24 via CS.  I'll be just getting home and working on recovery/breastfeeding/weeping at the drop of a hat.  I'm not really into my birthday, since the attention makes me uncomfortable.  A great birthday for me will be hanging out at home with all my boys and maybe some cake.    However, I have a twin who is all about her(our) birthday, so I doubt I'll get so lucky.

I just really hope that H at least gets me a cake. Tumaini was two months old when I had my birthday last time, but I was dealing with breastfeeding issues and adapting to life with a newborn, and wasn't up to going out with friends. However, I was really disappointed that I didn't get cake.

Tink522

Do and I had sexy time last week and I don't think he quite pulled out in time. I am terrified that my period won't come and as I am never regular don't even know when to start worrying. I am in no way prepared to have 5 children and the only reason I am not on bc is because I haven't completely weaned Josh and we have sexy time like once a month at this point.

hokiemama06

mightybee said:

I don't understand cashing and using a tax or mortgage refund check without your SO's knowledge. Since it's both of your money, shouldn't SO at least be aware of it?

Yeah, I'm totally with @mightybee on this one.  I'd be really upset if I found out my DH had withheld information about our finances from me.  Even if we had different philosophies on money, we're a partnership, and should at least discuss what to do with our resources.

Barefoot84

mightybee said:

That's a tough situation, @barefoot84. I can tell you only want the best for your niece, but you're in a sticky spot by keeping something like this from you sister, even if you don't think she'd handle the information in the best way. I can only wonder what the repercussions would be if she found out you kept it from her.

It sounds like your a comforting, supportive, and calm presence in your niece's life. I'm glad that you're planning to talk with her.

I'm also scared about what would happen if my sister were to find out that I knew and didn't tell her. It would be horrible, and I'm already imagining all the things she would say to me and all the guilt I would feel, and the even bigger mountain of guilt she would try to make me feel.

However, unless they were to find a better psychiatrist than the ones my niece has already seen, I don't see how it could benefit my niece, and I can certainly see all the harm it could do to her. What my niece needs is for my sister to seek parenting advice, but my sister is convinced she's doing great, since she's doing the complete opposite of what my parents did. Neither extreme is good, there's a middle, and she needs to find it. In the meantime, I'll try to help my niece find better coping skills.

reinedecajun

mightybee said:

I don't understand cashing and using a tax or mortgage refund check without your SO's knowledge. Since it's both of your money, shouldn't SO at least be aware of it?

Not only that, I dont see how you can go spend a few hundred dollars on yourself and your SO not notice.

reinedecajun

mandie727 said:

mightybee said:

I don't understand cashing and using a tax or mortgage refund check without your SO's knowledge. Since it's both of your money, shouldn't SO at least be aware of it?

Not only that, I dont see how you can go spend a few hundred dollars on yourself and your SO not notice.

When our bank changed over, somehow everyone is set up on email/text alerts. Every single transfer I make into my account (the account to buy odds and ends stuff) it alerts him. I transferred $300 the other day and both our phones went off.

Ours does to, besides that I know he would notice the new stuff. Not that he would care or mind. But if it's something your hiding from your SO it's just shady all around.

hokiemama06

Oh!  I have one to add!  

DS#2 is arriving in 17 days.  We still have not chosen a name for him.  We have about 8 we've been talking about for almost 20 weeks, but nothing is really sticking out to us.  I've been telling friends and family that we're hoping to be down to 2 names by the time we check in, but there has been pretty much no progress made.  I'm relatively confident this baby will always be called #2.

Kdoy705

Barefoot84 said:

hokiemama06 said:

Barefoot84 said:

I'm super excited about baby no 2, and can't wait for his/her arrival. However, I'm due September 1st, and my birthday is September 5th. I'm unreasonably upset that I probably won't get to celebrate my 30th birthday, because I'll either be taking care of a newborn and healing from birth, or I'll be way pregnant and feeling miserable. All my friends did huge parties for their 30th, and I organized a big surprise party for H's 30th, and I want a big bash too!!

Not sure where my comment went...

@barefoot84 - I'm in the same boat as you, but with a totally opposite perspective.  My 30th is 3/29, and DS#2 will arrive 3/24 via CS.  I'll be just getting home and working on recovery/breastfeeding/weeping at the drop of a hat.  I'm not really into my birthday, since the attention makes me uncomfortable.  A great birthday for me will be hanging out at home with all my boys and maybe some cake.    However, I have a twin who is all about her(our) birthday, so I doubt I'll get so lucky.

I just really hope that H at least gets me a cake. Tumaini was two months old when I had my birthday last time, but I was dealing with breastfeeding issues and adapting to life with a newborn, and wasn't up to going out with friends. However, I was really disappointed that I didn't get cake.

@Barefoot84 - My 31st birthday was July 30, exactly 28 days after Riley was born. She screamed and cried all day long, barely slept at all. Not a happy birthday. My H tried to make it special by getting me a gift and some wine. The best part of the birthday was I poured myself a giant glass of wine and sat outside in the backyard all by myself while he took care of cranky baby. Honestly, I barely remember that birthday and in fact, I barely remember being 31 at all. Now I often forget how old I am....hoping my 33rd bday will be better - and I hope you get that cake!!!

ThePinkSuperhero

 I pay our bills/manage the checkbook, but DH watches all our accounts on Mint and quizzes me constantly.  As in, you went to 16 Handles for yogurt on Friday without me???  I can't imagine spending a whole tax refund without his noticing.

lkamenko

Pegleg715 said:

 

I just really hope that H at least gets me a cake. Tumaini was two months old when I had my birthday last time, but I was dealing with breastfeeding issues and adapting to life with a newborn, and wasn't up to going out with friends. However, I was really disappointed that I didn't get cake.

@Barefoot84 - My 31st birthday was July 30, exactly 28 days after Riley was born. She screamed and cried all day long, barely slept at all. Not a happy birthday. My H tried to make it special by getting me a gift and some wine. The best part of the birthday was I poured myself a giant glass of wine and sat outside in the backyard all by myself while he took care of cranky baby. Honestly, I barely remember that birthday and in fact, I barely remember being 31 at all. Now I often forget how old I am....hoping my 33rd bday will be better - and I hope you get that cake!!!

I turned 30 10 days before Caz was born. I was cranky, hot, super pregnant, and had an 11 month old... I did nothing, and it was pretty much the same for my 29th because I was 2 weeks from giving birth to Evie... even if she didnt show up for another month... but I'm hoping that for my 31st we can do something nice.

I had my son 2 days after my birthday. It was 8 years ago. I have not had any celebration or Birthday party for myself since then, since it is always his birthday at the same time, and I am busy organizing birthday party for him. But frankly that does not bother me much - he was the best birthday present ever!