Let's talk next baby

housewifebecomesher

I might get flamed for even bringing this up...but I'm just curious.

Who is thinking about another baby?

How long are you planning to wait to start trying again?

For STM+, how long did you wait?

housewifebecomesher

We are thinking about trying for #2 sometime after DD turns 1. My OB recommended we wait at least a year for my body to recover since I had a c-section. I'd be nervous to have 2 under 2 but since it took us a bit the first time around, we want to get started sooner rather than later.

BABYROSEJEANS17

Because I'm considered "old" by medical standards, we decided not do any birth control as we'd like to have another shortly after.  However, we haven't really discussed timing but it needs to happen in the next year or so.

BrittNR

My DH wants to start trying again the beginning of next year. I told him that if he keeps talking like that he won't be touching me for a few years.

But then again, my DD thinks that sleep is for the weak.

SandFHasse

We waited 9 months. We have decided that we are good with our 2 babies and won't be having another one. Even if we did decide to have one it would be awhile because I had a c section this time and I've been pregnant every year since I was 21.

OSUWifey09

DS was a surprise and came at a time when we weren't in the best place - so we waited longer than I wanted to have our second [almost 4 years; I had wanted another when DS was 2 but knew it wasn't the right time for us]. When we lost our second son, we decided to try again sooner rather than later, and we got pregnant again 9 months after the loss.

DS and DD are 5 years apart, which is much further apart than I wanted...but things happen. I do want one more and plan to start trying again in about 18 months. I don't want DS and our last child too far apart in age.

slmille4

DH wants to start after 2 years, I want to wait three. I just would like dd to be in some sort of preschool before we bring another baby into the mix. I don't know how 2u2 moms do it. I couldn't imagine bringing a toddler into this mix.

thegosiers

BABYROSEJEANS17 said:

Because I'm considered "old" by medical standards, we decided not do any birth control as we'd like to have another shortly after.  However, we haven't really discussed timing but it needs to happen in the next year or so.

I am also "well seasoned" so I wouldn't mind trying again in December. DH can't really talk about baby #2 right now, though. The sleep deprivation is too intense.  @-)

MiaMyPuggle

I am DONE! Realized that after DD was born. This is hard! DS was 28mo when she was born.

Clbragg33

We want to start trying for number two next summer. I would like them to be close in age.

ehepner

We'll have another. My first two are 23 months apart. It's been difficult. I knew it would be hard with two, but it's harder than I thought it would be. But even so, I want to have another.

But I will wait longer for #3. Maybe closer to 3 years this time? After my oldest starts school maybe, I don't want 3 kids at home all day. Also I want my youngest to be less dependent than my DD currently is, like being potty trained, sleeping through the night pretty consistently (like all night not just 6-8 hours), be able to put toys away when asked, be potty trained, ecot.

worleygirl

I'm done but mine are almost 5 years apart. I was ready when DS was 3 but DH wasn't. I'm ok with the age difference. They won't be in daycare at the same time I'm 7 years older than my brother and we are super close.

cnctf

Another baby?! Yah, no thanks!

blue_elle

Shut your mouth!

I actually jokingly told dh a few days ago that we could have another by year end. Deductible's already paid and we aren't sleeping anyway. He declined

JaneW2

I haven't totally decided.  I always wanted two kids, then by a few weeks into pregnancy I was like, "Never again," then the minute I laid eyes on my son, I went back to wanting a second child.

If we do have another, I'd aim for giving birth sometime in 2016.  I have a few more years left, but DH just turned 40!  If we have another one, he'd be 60 by the time he or she graduates high school.

Lena122

After I had DS I was thinking about #2 right away. I missed being pregnant and he was getting big way too fast. We started trying when he was 15 months and DD was born a week before his 2nd birthday. We're not definitely having a third but if we do all wait a little longer this time. I don't miss pregnancy like I did after DS and life is much busier with 2!

km_md

We aren't really talking about it yet but I am thinking we will start trying when DD is about 2.5 or 3. I don't want them to be too close in age but I want them to be close enough that they can still do things together.

BABYROSEJEANS17

@thegosiers Ha, I love "well seasoned." I'll have to use that with my OB when I go for my annual later this year. Thankfully she doesn't see my age as being an issue because I have a good health history and this pregnancy was pretty uneventful.  We're pretty exhausted as well thanks to the the current growth spurt. I've been cleared for ST, but that's the furthest from our minds right now.

ScarlettDahlia

Right now, we're thinking that we're one and done. I'm pretty good with just having DS. I can't imagine adding another person into the mix, but who knows where we'll be in a couple years. 

IF we decide to have another, it won't be for 2-3 years. 

sarahmarie2

We are in agreeance that we will try for another in about 2-2.5 years. I would be fine if it happened anywhere from 1.5-4 though.

mrskratt

CopperT0p

After DS1 we pulled the goalie when he was 10 months old.  I was still nursing and did not have PP AF yet.  We didn't get pregnant until he was 2.5 years old (roughly 6 months after he was finished nursing).  With this one we will probably do something similar if we are for sure going for #3.  DS1 is 3 years old, toilet trained, sleeping through the night well and can keep himself occupied playing trains or trucks while I'm nursing DS2.  He goes to JK in September so we won't have to pay for 2 in daycare when I go back to work next January.  

We are also considering my job and DH's.  My boss' boss is due to retire in about 3-4 years.  My boss would move into his role and I would be able to move into my boss' role.  Taking mat leave while in that job would be really hard on all the staff so I'd like to be back from my mat leave before that happens if possible.  

washyourhandsplease

I'm not getting any younger and DH is 12 years older than me. I'm 33 and will be 34 in June.   So I'm thinking we might start trying again after LO turns 1.  After we have our second, then we're done.

questisthebest

After I get my pre pregnancy body back (not just pre pregnancy weight) I told my husband we can try for number two.

mrsjenni

DS1 and DD1 are 21m apart.
DD1 and DS2 are 27m apart. (I m/c'd in between those two.)
DS2 and DD2 are 16m apart.

NO MOAR BABIES.

Tylynngrace

I'm totally on board for trying for another in 2-3 years but DH isn't convinced he wants to do this again, but once we're out of the newborn stage I'm sure he'll change his mind. 

jwp325

@thegosiers, I love the term "well seasoned" and will use that from now on.  We plan on trying in August and September. If I don't get pregnant, we'll wait til late May of next year.  I won't have the luxury of as much time off with baby #2 so we're hoping to have a spring baby so I can take advantage of summer vacation and I really don't want a sub to start the year with my students.  Hard to know if our small window of opportunity this year will work given that I'm breastfeeding, but it's worth a shot.

2u2 does scare DH and I a bit given our current sleep deprivation, but we also like the idea of just being done as we've agreed on two kids.  With his daughter, that makes three and that's enough.  Plus I'll be 36 this month and he'll be 35 in August.  We don't feel old, but would like to wrap up having kids in the next year or two.

CeeJC121013

We haven't decided that we are officially done, but we have 1 of each now. Neither one of us want to take permanent birth control measures. So if we had a surprise #3 that would be ok with me. Adjusting to having 2 wasn't as hard as I had thought it would be, I think mostly because DS is a horrible sleeper so I have been functioning on no sleep for years! I'm used to it!

thegosiers

@jwp325 I'm even more well seasoned than you, so I def feel some urgency to try for #2.  It's funny, though, I never pictured having 2u2. But then I also always imagined myself as the hip young mom of 25.  Not so much.

Like I said, though, DH looks like a rat caught in a trap when I mention a second child.  We will have to work on that!

teacher0708

We are done. My husband is older then me and I have two fabulous children. If another child comes it would be fine but I am content with two.

Edit: cannot spell today

ChuggingWater

We will TTC in a year.

karah4816

My husband's not sure if he wants another but I'd like to have one more. If we do we'll probably start trying when these two are around one1/2

ksonne

I'm done. My two boys are 22 months apart. I feel complete with 2 but I think DH might push for another in a year or so.

thelittlepear

I recognize we're crazy... DH and I talked about it before DD even arrived. We had so many difficulties getting pregnant with her, that I think we'll just forget any sort of birth control, and see what happens. We won't actively try and time things for awhile, but we won't try and prevent anything either. We would like to have them close in age; that said, I'm fully prepared for fate to have a sense of humor, and end up with 2U2!

valigrl21

Had you asked me 5 months ago, I would have said heck no! Actually, even if you had asked me 3 months ago. But now here I am, not on birth control. We are "just seeing what happens". I am EBFing, which I know isn't 100 percent, but I would be ok with another kiddo now that I have met DD2. She is so laid back and easy. She rarely cries, has been smiling at us for weeks and sleeps well. She is so much easier than her big sis was.

jwp325

@thegosiers I never pictured myself with 2u2 either.  Thought I'd be done having kids when I was between 30 and 33.  At least DH is on board with the idea.  My nieces are 18 months apart and SIL said it was actually easy since they were both babies.  Also the older one never went through an "I'm the baby, no other babies but me" phase since she wasn't real aware or understood completely what was happening.  SIL is pregnant with her third and the younger of my nieces, who's 2 and a half, keeps saying "no baby" whenever they talk about the new baby.

precious72381

With my history, DH and I agreed (so did my OB) not to go on any bc.  After all the infertility but then naturally getting pregnant, who knows what will happen. We can't afford fertility treatments for a long time. In addition, this pregnancy had so many difficulties and the doctors don't know if I will have the same issues again, that we also hope Abby will be close to starting preschool before I get pregnant again. I can't be on bed rest and home with a toddler. My cycle used to be very textbook so we hope to use that to prevent pregnancy along with the fact that I'm breastfeeding now but also totally okay if it happens before we try. I hope to be able to be pregnant with number 2 by 35 (in about 3 years). My eggs are much older than me though.

Cormelbaby

DH is done! He has 11 year old twins from his first marriage. He knew I wanted to try to have one when we got married. We were extremely lucky with DS and got pregnant not even a month after going off BC. Right now I'm on the mini pill and we are using condoms - although we don't have sex all that much anymore. He's probably going to get snipped in a month. If it were me, I would probably have another. DH will be 37 and I will be 34 this year so if it were an option it would have to be soon!

MindyBadger1

Try again in a year. I'd like them close together.

Hmvbaby14

DH is thinking we're done, I'm on the fence... We decided we would readdress it when L is 6 months old and go from there.

forevergraceful

Soon, we will try again in 6 months to a year.