Advice Please.

wychets

Morning Ladies,

DH brought to my attention this morning that he heard one of DD's daycare teachers talking about her one evening at p/u. He said this was a week or so ago, I am upset that he didn't tell me to begin with because I perfer to address issues when they happen. Anyway he said he heard her say "If she can ask for this and that she can go to the bathroom, I am tired of changing her." She didn't say DD's name but DD was the only child there, and personally I don't think she should say that about anyone's child. DD turned 2 in December, she was not interested in potty training right away and I did not force her. She recently showed interest and we have been working with her daily on it along with her Teachers. I am pretty upset so I didn't mention it this morning at drop off because I do not like to address things when I am upset. Any advice on what I should do? The Teacher that made this comment is actually the assistant director that was filling in, we have had small issues with her before but nothing too serious. I kind of feel like if she feels this way how does she act if she has to change DD? Is she angry? Is she aggressive? I do not believe she would hurt my child because in that case she wouldn't be there however I have all these thoughts going through my head now.

emberlee3

Wait, how do you even know they were talking about your child?  Maybe the lady was talking about her own kid or grandkid or whatever.  Stop worrying about it.  Continue following your child's lead about potty training without forcing anything.

VOR

Yeah, you really don't know if this was about your DD or not. 

And I will say that if she was, or if she was talking about any child at DC - making that comment while parents were there is very, very uncool.  But the idea that they should never say that about anyone's kid kind of made me chuckle.  You can darn well guarantee that if a teacher is frustrated w/ a child for some reason - they are probably going ot voice it to other teachers, especially if those teachers know what they are talking about. 

TIme and place was inappropriate.  But - I have no doubt that teachers will express frustrations to each other all the time.

ccam

I don't know that I'd say something about that comment in particular, especially since it's been a while and you don't know for sure if it was refering to your DD.  But maybe have a conversation with her teacher, ask how potty training is going there and if there are any suggestions that they have.  Obviously if you hear more comments about DD, then I'd have a conversation with the Director.  They, of all people, should know that all kids are different with potty training.

wychets

Thank you ladies for your voice of reason. I am sure they voice their frustration among each other at work, we all do. I do find it unprofessional to have those coversations in front of the children or a parent. Like mentioned above it was awhile ago and I am not completely sure she was speaking about DD, which is why I asked for advice. I am glad I did because I do not like to react on angry especially if I do not have all the facts on top of it happening a week or so ago. Thanks again!