UO

NSAbby

rockyrollgirl said:

cruelsound said:

I feel very, very badly for the woman who tried to drive her kids into the ocean recently. Don't get me wrong, I almost cried thinking about the kids involved, but I can't stop thinking about the mother.

I had terrible PPA/PPD after my first (I've battled depression since I was young) and the first two months of his life were the darkest times I've ever faced. I never hurt him, never ever, but there were moments when it was just me and him home alone and I pictured shaking him or taking him somewhere and just leaving him. Then my mind instantly turned to guilt and how awful of a person I must have been to even be thinking about those things. It was a daily battle going on in my brain, with this poor little tiny guy stuck in the middle. I finally admitted I had a problem and spoke to my doctor, I just couldn't do that to my son anymore. It was one thing to deal with it my whole life when it was just me, but it wasn't anymore.

So yeah, I feel terribly for that woman and I really, really hope she gets the help she needs.

Oh wow. I saw a glimpse of that the other day, but did not catch the story. I assumed it was some type of accident.

I'm angry and sad at the same time.  In situations like that, I'm left thinking how bad it must be (for them) that that becomes the only option they see?

It must truly be heartbreaking to think that is your only way out.

NSAbby

zoegirlTX said:

NSAbby said:

After having the barrel of a gun against my temple, I have really become a knife person.

I'm not allowed to carry a gun with me on duty, but I'm allowed to carry a knife.  And I have a pretty great knife collection going.

I need more of the story & details here....

When my niece was a toddler, (my brother was deployed) we went to go Christmas shopping.

Getting my neice out of her carseat, guy came out of nowhere, put a gun to my head and demanded my money.  I went for my wallet, tossed it at him, and ran as fast as I could toward the enterance to the mall, carrying my neice.

Second scariest moment of my life

 

aghouston86

Here is mine:

I despise minivans. I think they are ugly and I have always vowed never to be a minivan mom.

cashews29

You know, if we are tired of a gun discussion, we could always talk about vaccinations again.

:P

Jennicillin

I don't want a mile long quote box, but on the subject of PPD

I dealt with it worse with my first than my second.  I worry a lot about it with my 3rd.  I feel like a lot of people think if they aren't bursting into tears every day they aren't depressed.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  I was just anxious, grumpy, tired but couldn't sleep, and completely lacked motivation.  I would have panic attacks because we ran out of milk and I HAD to have it!  I would vacuum 6 times a day because I was worried about germs, but then wouldn't shower for four days because I just didn't care.  It was a bizarre almost bipolar and compulsive world that I lived in for a few months and then I just crashed into not wanting to get out of bed.

For me therapy was the answer.  They also found out when my son was 13months old my thyroid was all messed up and under active.  I had never had thyroid problems before and they attributed the change to "one of many" that my body went through during pregnancy. 

After my daughter I still had PPD and went back to therapy, but it was much more manageable.  Probably a combination of not having a thyroid issue on top of it, and knowing it was coming and having the right tools available immediately to get myself through it.

chase16

K&M9 said:

Oh my god, I actually get to share my UO this week without sounding like a combative butthead. 

I really don't like grammar nazis. I used to be one, I was so judgmental about people who had horrible grammar, spelling, made numerous typos... 

Just because some people have been exposed to a higher level of education and perhaps grew up in a higher socioeconomic class, that doesn't give them free rights to belittle those who didn't get those same opportunities. Or those who have organic brain disorders, or dyslexia, or head injuries, or etc. etc. Just seems elitist and mean. 

I don't know. I definitely don't belittle people via internet, because honestly that's just not my game anyway, but I do participate in debates at times, and if you can't spell to save your life, or use words incorrectly, I will admit that I don't take what you have to say as seriously. (Most of the time because people that do this generally have no facts and statistics to stand on anyway, and are just regurgitating some meme they saw on FB). For example, for one of my college classes someone wrote a discussion board post about drugs. They wrote that drugs will never "seize to desist." I immediately stopped reading. Don't get me wrong, I have sympathy for those that have a learning disability such as dyslexia, or something similar, but if all you can claim is that you didn't have a good education growing up and that's why you can't spell or write coherently? Make an attempt to educate yourself in your adult life. It can only benefit you.

haliebabyx3

NSAbby said:

zoegirlTX said:

NSAbby said:

After having the barrel of a gun against my temple, I have really become a knife person.

I'm not allowed to carry a gun with me on duty, but I'm allowed to carry a knife.  And I have a pretty great knife collection going.

I need more of the story & details here....

When my niece was a toddler, (my brother was deployed) we went to go Christmas shopping.

Getting my neice out of her carseat, guy came out of nowhere, put a gun to my head and demanded my money.  I went for my wallet, tossed it at him, and ran as fast as I could toward the enterance to the mall, carrying my neice.

Second scariest moment of my life

 

Good for you to throw it the opposite direction and run for help and not buckle under pressure! Glad you are here today with us and of course that your niece is okay!

Also, not sure why the quote box went all funny. 

aghouston86

LollyDoll428 said:

aghouston86 said:

Here is mine:

I despise minivans. I think they are ugly and I have always vowed never to be a minivan mom.

I've always said I would never own a minivan, but now I'm changing my tune.  SUV's that I like and would work for my family are crazy expensive and don't have the best gas mileage.  So now I'm finding myself trying to convince my husband that we should get a minivan.  

Are you looking at buying used or new?

I'm just more an SUV kinda gal and I miss my MDX terribly. I could never see myself driving a fugly minivan.

zoegirlTX said:

I actually like mini-vans.  I drive them occasionally for work when we have lots of equipment & I think they are fabulous.  I have newer Explorer now, so I don't need a new car.  But once we have #2 & I still need a place for our dog....I'd gladly consider a mini-van.

Why not another SUV with a third row seat?

aghouston86

Gotcha!

GinnyJ2012

aghouston86 said:

LollyDoll428 said:

aghouston86 said:

Here is mine:

I despise minivans. I think they are ugly and I have always vowed never to be a minivan mom.

I've always said I would never own a minivan, but now I'm changing my tune.  SUV's that I like and would work for my family are crazy expensive and don't have the best gas mileage.  So now I'm finding myself trying to convince my husband that we should get a minivan.  

Are you looking at buying used or new?

I'm just more an SUV kinda gal and I miss my MDX terribly. I could never see myself driving a fugly minivan.

zoegirlTX said:

I actually like mini-vans.  I drive them occasionally for work when we have lots of equipment & I think they are fabulous.  I have newer Explorer now, so I don't need a new car.  But once we have #2 & I still need a place for our dog....I'd gladly consider a mini-van.

Why not another SUV with a third row seat?


I love my pathfinder. It gets decent gas mileage and holds so much. The third row seats lay flat when you don't need them.

tamarar5

GinnyJ2012 said:

aghouston86 said:

LollyDoll428 said:

aghouston86 said:

Here is mine:

I despise minivans. I think they are ugly and I have always vowed never to be a minivan mom.

I've always said I would never own a minivan, but now I'm changing my tune.  SUV's that I like and would work for my family are crazy expensive and don't have the best gas mileage.  So now I'm finding myself trying to convince my husband that we should get a minivan.  

****stuck in quote box****

I was the same way until #2 came along. I live my Grand Caravan, but I miss my 4wd. I hate getting stuck in the snow in my own driveway.

aghouston86

Good luck!!

My vote goes to the SUV, lol.

I will add that not all SUV's with third row seats are created equal so something to keep in mind as well.

I know the older model Acura MDX is much more spacious IMO as opposed to the new model. And a girlfriend of mine has a Rav4 with a third row and that thing is cramped!<blockquote class="Quote"

Hilee18

My UO is I don't get sending dad to be out for midnight cravings. Why can't I do that myself if they are so crazy and I have to have it? Unless on bedrest I don't see the point in waking my husband up to go get me something. 

dogperson11

potterowl said:

I shall list mine:

1. I think owning a gun for any reason other than hunting and sport (shooting targets- not sure what it is called) is DUMB! I don't think we should have any other guns at all. 

2. I will vaccinate my kid (was vaccination even mentioned? I am gong for it)

3. I think it is incredibly stupid to get worked up over non-scientific studies. Don't tell me ultrasounds are dangerous unless there are multiple published studies in peer reviewed journals that have high effect sizes and demonstrate significance. Yahoo and local news don't count as peer reviewed. 

4. If you are going to make decisions based on bad/fake science, then be consistent. If you don't want any ultrasounds because you are convinced that they are bad, then don't get one to find out the sex of your baby. 

5. If you can't patiently wait for your A/S, I find you silly. How do you deal with life? We all have to wait for stuff. Now, if your spouse is being deployed, family emergency, etc, I get going in for an elective so that you can share that news. 

6. I don't like raw tomatoes either

7. I really want a birth photographer so that I can look at those pictures later, but I don't want to spend money on it and I don't want someone there taking pictures. 

8. I really want to go the minimalist route in buying stuff for this baby. I refuse to let the stuff take over my life.  (I know that grandparents and friends won't let me go minimalist though)

9. I am secretly judgey mcjudgerson of people who don't at least try to live a greener life. 

10. I am also secretly super judgey mcjudgerson of people who eat like crap. 

So... I am kinda a bitch in my own head. and I now realize that 9 and 10 are FFFCs. Oh well. 

I think I love you

NSAbby

haliebabyx3 said:

NSAbby said:

zoegirlTX said:

NSAbby said:

Good for you to throw it the opposite direction and run for help and not buckle under pressure! Glad you are here today with us and of course that your niece is okay!

Also, not sure why the quote box went all funny. 

Part of our training, as paramedics, is how to handle stickups for narcs and medical supplies.  "Toss and run" unless you have a patient.

A big part of being an emergency responder is acting like you are okay, even when the world around you is ending.

But as soon as I got inside the building, and made sure we were both okay, I don't think I stopped shaking until the next day.

Training and reality are two completely different feelings!

OutdoorGirl10

So my EDD is 8/28 and I'm hoping that if I go early, the LO isn't born on the 24th or 25th. 24th because it's DH's grandma's bday (deceased a few years) and someone I can't stand was born on the 25th. DH's grandma was the typical cute little old lady and I liked her but I really don't want to hear my MIL making comments about how there's some cosmic connection if LO is born on the same day. On the other hand, if I go really early and baby is born on the 20th, I'm perfectly OK with that because it's my dad's bday.  So I guess I'm just mean. 

Jolaine83

I agree that the gun debate is overdone at this point and just pointless.  We are responsible gun owners, but I can't agree with some of the stuff said in this thread.  We shoot for target practice, but our main reason was DH's pathological need to protect his family.  It is locked up and hidden up high out of reach of the kids, and they don't even know we have it.  I will say that it gives me peace of mind, no matter how silly it is, for those week long business trips that DH takes. But I'd much rather a shotgun with a noisy cocking sound because apparently that is way more effective in home invasions than the small click of a gun hammer.  We've joked several times about simply recording that sound on our phones to play as backup.

I am another who had PPD/A.  It took me 6 months to finally admit it and I refused therapy but did do medication.  It did not return with DD, although we were completely prepared for it happening again if it does.

Oh, and I love love love my van.  The sliding doors, the extra headroom inside, the stow and go seating.  It's amazing.  I've now driven two different vans, a Traverse and a Tahoe, and the vans were far superior in my opinion to deal with small kids and a huge dog.  I told DH that I would never be giving this van up now that I've gotten my hands on it!

haliebabyx3

Speaking of the elective ultrasound and unpopular opinion or popular, whatever. Today I had a friend from high school text me, she's pregnant as well and is a week behind me. I saw her post on FB that she was going to find out next week what she is having. I asked her how so soon. She texted me saying she HAD to know and was dying to find out so she was going to an elective place we have around town. She said she couldn't wait until her 20 week appointment. I asked her how far along she was, knowing not as far as me, and she replied that she would be 14 weeks when they go. She also invited us to her reveal party the day after the elective ultrasound, but we will be out of town. I know this has been discussed this week, but funny that this happened today. Guess you could say my opinion is that it is ridiculous to find out at 14 weeks!

OutdoorGirl10

potterowl said:

So my EDD is 8/28 and I'm hoping that if I go early, the LO isn't born on the 24th or 25th. 24th because it's DH's grandma's bday (deceased a few years) and someone I can't stand was born on the 25th. DH's grandma was the typical cute little old lady and I liked her but I really don't want to hear my MIL making comments about how there's some cosmic connection if LO is born on the same day. On the other hand, if I go really early and baby is born on the 20th, I'm perfectly OK with that because it's my dad's bday.  So I guess I'm just mean. 

My bday is the 25. I think it is a good day!

 

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Artebellezzavita

laurelcharles said:

I don't think any of the members of One Direction are remotely attractive. 

I didn't know who they were until like...last year some time? And I have no intentions of getting to know them better.