yay a BFP! (and worries and intro)

RedBirdFly

Hello! I am new to TB but well aware of the reputation it has for being tell it like it is - which is why I came here. Anyway I got my BFP Monday morning (& yesterday & today because I had a stock of dollar store pee tests and why not?). We have been trying since DH got back from underway at the beginning of February so that's why I am slightly paranoid - I feel like it was too easy. We are, of course, both ecstatic. He wants to bet on whether we are having a boy or a girl - but we are Team Green. Based on my LMP I'm about 6 weeks along & due date is Oct 27 but I think I ovulated super late because of getting off birth control - also if I am six weeks along, he wouldn't have been here for conception and I didn't sleep with another man.

I already have a DS - different father who is kinda a dead beat. He is 28 months old and was born Oct 31, 2011. He's the light of our world - mine and DH's.

For this baby, like I said, we are Team Green and we are going for home birth. My hospital birth with DS was traumatizing and they did unnecessary things. If we do go to a hospital it will be to a different one, but I trust my midwife with my life since she's been delivering babies for over half of it - and has known me more than half of it. I wouldn't consider it otherwise.

I'm scared about my parents' reaction. They already suspect in part because I almost fell asleep on DHs shoulder last night at dinner - and my mom knows I stopped taking BC but I think she assumed we were using something else. I think she will worry about me since my husband is Navy and will be gone for some of the pregnancy. My pregnancy with DS was really emotionally hard on me - I was 19 when I became pregnant & the dad wanted nothing to do with it and pushed for abortion and then adoption. He's better now but still tries to get out of his visitation days because he would rather sleep. Since at the time I lived with my parents, it was also really hard on them I suppose. My dad I think will be over the moon - he absolutely loves being a grandfather and takes DS out on grandpa-grandson dates once to twice a week.

We are going cross country to see his family next week and are going to tell them there in person, just because its rare that we would have the opportunity to. His parents, we suspect will be thrilled!

So hi!

AggieBeth06

"Based on my LMP I'm about 6 weeks along & due date is Oct 27 but I think I ovulated super late because of getting off birth control - also if I am six weeks along, he wouldn't have been here for conception and I didn't sleep with another man. "


What is your worry? Immaculate conception?

RedBirdFly

AggieBeth06 said:

"Based on my LMP I'm about 6 weeks along & due date is Oct 27 but I think I ovulated super late because of getting off birth control - also if I am six weeks along, he wouldn't have been here for conception and I didn't sleep with another man. " What is your worry? Immaculate conception?

No! Lol! I'm afraid my mother will react badly to the news when either she figures it out on her own or I tell them next month!!! Although immaculate conception would be pretty fantastic - imagine all the TV/movie/book deals

That and...I feel like it was too easy. I was all set for a few months of trying at least, if not several - and it's the cycle after stopping (hormonal) BC that gets me KU. I know it's stupid to worry! I just worry. About everything. It's what I do, even though I try not to.

AggieBeth06

I would be careful throwing that in everyone's face here. There's a lot of women who have gone down some very tough, long roads to be here... And while you're welcome and I'm sure they will be happy you're here... The last thing some will want to read is a poster gloating about how easy it was.

RedBirdFly

Yeah - I know. I didn't mean to sound gloating, and to anyone that reads this further, I am sorry for my wording if it offends - that's not the case. I know that many people really have problems with concieving. Like I said, I know my worry is stupid and insignificant. The bigger and more actually significant worry in my life is my mom, since her and I are really close. I don't want her to stress/worry over me.

I also don't know how to tell them or when, since I feel like they will find out anyway.

Thank you for the advice, AggieBeth, and I hope I didn't offend you! I'm new to TB and really, birth forums in general, and guess I lack common sense when it comes to etiquette & tact still.

AggieBeth06

You didn't. I was just razzing you with the first post.

Welcome. We all learn lessons. No biggie.

MissLibertarian

Through lots of therapy I've walked away with the golden rule that you cannot control other people's reactions. This is 100% true with your mother and, IMHO, I don't think you should waste your energy worrying how she is going to react.

Focus on how you feel, how your DH feels and your future as a family. Bathe in the joy and happiness, make that your foundation.

Then, when you chose to tell you family, fuck how they feel. If they feel excited, then great! More joy... If they side-eye you, then fuck them... return to your own little pool of happiness between you and DH.

RedBirdFly

That's wonderful advice, MissLibertarian!!! Thank you so much! I'll try not to worry much more but I am honestly quite terrible at the not-worrying thing. But definitely, I will try to focus on our "pool of happiness!" That's a really good way to put it, especially since we really are quite ecstatic.

AggieBeth, thank you again =]

RedBirdFly

No I don't know when I ovulated - but sex was not happening when I supposedly concieved, sooo I am pretty sure if I am pregnant I had to have ovulated later than normal

Thank you for the congrats!