Gender reveals?

weddingringsandbabythings

My husband and I set up our 20 weeks scan for April 8th. I didn't get the option to have the NT scan done, so I haven't seen my baby in what feels like forever..and the next 5 weeks will go by so slowly, but I'm so excited to see my baby bear and make sure everything checks out good with him/her. 

My husband and I are going all out this pregnancy. We take the weekly photos, and do the chalk board updates. We keep a journal, and write letters, and all that good stuff. Anyways, we want to do a gender reveal party, but there are so many cute ideas. 

Have any of you guys done one? If so, what did you do, and what did you like about it, dislike/or wish you could've done differently? 

WashingtonQueen

You're not going to get many positive responses.

I had a small reveal with just us, my mom, my brother and our 3 kids. We did a cake cutting. We absolutely loved it. It was so much fun for us and our children. Our pictures and video are priceless! Kids are not allowed at ultrasounds so it was fantastic to have them apart of it this time (they didn't get to last time).

weddingringsandbabythings

That's awesome! Especially that your kids got to enjoy it as well! I plan on doing a colored cake no matter what. There are so many ideas to choose from, and not enough babies in my uterus. 

*Hopefully not too many people turn this into a negative post. I'm honestly just curious as to other ideas, and things that people have attempted. 

WashingtonQueen

MrsMuq said:

We didn't do anything other than text family members that LO was healthy and a boy.

I really don't like gender reveal parties, and they're not popular around TB.

OP, and also, it's really not a gender reveal party. It's a sex reveal. You're letting everyone know whether your baby has a penis or a vagina. Personally, I don't understand a party whose sole purpose is to tell family about my baby's genitalia.

And it begins.

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WashingtonQueen said:

MrsMuq said:

We didn't do anything other than text family members that LO was healthy and a boy.

I really don't like gender reveal parties, and they're not popular around TB.

OP, and also, it's really not a gender reveal party. It's a sex reveal. You're letting everyone know whether your baby has a penis or a vagina. Personally, I don't understand a party whose sole purpose is to tell family about my baby's genitalia.

And it begins.

Gotcha... 

Oh well. Whatever kind of party you want to call it, we're having one. We come from a tiny town, and every knows us (as in basically the entire town was at our wedding a few years ago), and knows about our previous losses, and this pregnancy and it's progression is a big deal to everyone that we know. I constantly get asked when we'll find out the sex, and so we're going to reveal it in a fun way. If it's not something you'd do, that's cool, you don't have to have one. 

vixey

We had our parents and our siblings over for lunch.  After lunch, we brought out a cake that said "It's a Girl!"  And that was the extent of the party.

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Bliss+Berry said:

Honestly, I find them attention whorish and silly.  Especially if you are inviting everyone you know or your entire town.  (Massive eyeroll).  An entire party dedicated to your BTB's genitals is so very strange.  Whatever.  

Apparently you are a special princess and need a party.  Try Pinterest (there's a mass of ideas there, I'm sure.)  

Oh look who it is...*talk about a massive eyeroll*

I guess it's a good thing you don't have to have one then, huh? 

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mamakate12345 said:

I'm not having one.  But if you want one, have a ball. I certainly wouldn't think it odd if I were invited to one.  Personally, I enjoy all types of parties as long as there is good food (and booze when I'm not pregnant!).  So, don't let anyone rain on your parade.  I'm not the creative type but I'm sure there are great ideas on pinterest.

I've found all sorts of ideas on pinterest! So much fun. I was just curious to know if anyone here has done them, and how it went for them. Thanks!

Weezy56

I think small family get togethers for sex reveals are cute. I agree with PP's though that throwing a huge party is ridiculous and screams "look at me look at me!"

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Weezy56 said:

I think small family get togethers for sex reveals are cute. I agree with PP's though that throwing a huge party is ridiculous and screams "look at me look at me!"

...Umm, you mean like birthday parties, bridal showers, bachelor/ette parties, weddings, baby showers? 

I mean aren't all those screaming "look at me!"

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brittlynn44 said:

I thought about doing one but decided against it. I just don't have the time. Take a look at Pinterest for ideas, they have neat ways to reveal!

I have all kinds of ideas, I was just curious about people who have already have them, and finding out what they liked or didn't like about what they chose to do. Thank you though!

ksukitty1979

My MIL is insisting we do one for the family.  Frankly, I'm not a big fan of the idea.  Mainly, because I'm the type that likes to tell people instantly and I don't like a big fuss being made.  So we've reached a compromise.  My little girl is turning five the same day we find out.  She will be having a regular party and then a just family party for member of my husband's family that couldn't be there.  We'll have a small pinata and fill it with blue or pink candy.  But I'm going to be honest, we're telling the kids before then.  Because my little girl will be at the Ultrasound reading and desperately wants to find out as a birthday gift.  So if my kids can keep it to themselves, it will be a surprise..I'm not betting on it.

mrsd0930

We have a St. Patrick's Day party every year and we are going to do the gender reveal during our party.  I am going to let my niece open a box and let either pink/blue balloons come out.  I saw the idea on Pinterest, too.

 

I agree that the people that care the most are your immediate family, but these parties are very popular in New Orleans. Maybe that's because we like to party in this town!  Have fun with yours!

crystaljoanna

We did one and invited close family and friends that knew about our fertility challenges. Lots of alcohol, food, etc. was provided and we did the balloon in a box thing. We called it a Sex Party and we found out at the same time our guests did so we didn't know in advance.

We had made our TTC journey public. For me, the party was a way to celebrate the good A/S, get our families together, and have a little fun. Was it a little AWish? Probably. But we had a blast and I know our family did too.

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crystaljoanna said:

We did one and invited close family and friends that knew about our fertility challenges. Lots of alcohol, food, etc. was provided and we did the balloon in a box thing. We called it a Sex Party and we found out at the same time our guests did so we didn't know in advance. We had made our TTC journey public. For me, the party was a way to celebrate the good A/S, get our families together, and have a little fun. Was it a little AWish? Probably. But we had a blast and I know our family did too.

I just got off the phone with my grandma, and she joked about calling it a Sex Party, instead of reveal. She said it was attention grabbing, and she loved it. Lol. That's awesome! I'm glad you had fun!

Weezy56

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Weezy56 said:

I think small family get togethers for sex reveals are cute. I agree with PP's though that throwing a huge party is ridiculous and screams "look at me look at me!"

...Umm, you mean like birthday parties, bridal showers, bachelor/ette parties, weddings, baby showers? 

I mean aren't all those screaming "look at me!"

Birthday parties, showers, and bachelorette parties, when done properly, are thrown by somebody else as a gift. If someone were to throw one of the above parties for themselves, yes I think it would scream "look at me!" and I would side-eye it just like a gender reveal.

I think trying to compare a wedding to a party where the sole purpose is to announce wether your kid has a penis or vagina is a stretch.

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Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Honestly, I find them attention whorish and silly.  Especially if you are inviting everyone you know or your entire town.  (Massive eyeroll).  An entire party dedicated to your BTB's genitals is so very strange.  Whatever.  

Apparently you are a special princess and need a party.  Try Pinterest (there's a mass of ideas there, I'm sure.)  

Oh look who it is...*talk about a massive eyeroll*

I guess it's a good thing you don't have to have one then, huh? 

I'm guessing this is supposed to mean something to me.  It doesn't.  I have no idea who you are.  I think "gender reveals" are ridiculously stupid.  Sorrynotsorry.  Not everyone is going to agree with you on the internet, sweets.

Never said you had to, sweets. Just said you didn't have to have one, and lucky for you, you won't be invited to mine. 

Is it actually possible for you to answer someone's question,  or do you spend every second of your time on this website thinking of a rude, irrelevant comment for everything? 

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Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Honestly, I find them attention whorish and silly.  Especially if you are inviting everyone you know or your entire town.  (Massive eyeroll).  An entire party dedicated to your BTB's genitals is so very strange.  Whatever.  

Apparently you are a special princess and need a party.  Try Pinterest (there's a mass of ideas there, I'm sure.)  

Oh look who it is...*talk about a massive eyeroll*

I guess it's a good thing you don't have to have one then, huh? 

I'm guessing this is supposed to mean something to me.  It doesn't.  I have no idea who you are.  I think "gender reveals" are ridiculously stupid.  Sorrynotsorry.  Not everyone is going to agree with you on the internet, sweets.

Never said you had to, sweets. Just said you didn't have to have one, and lucky for you, you won't be invited to mine. 

Is it actually possible for you to answer someone's question,  or do you spend every second of your time on this website thinking of a rude, irrelevant comment for everything? 

So because you find my comment irrelevant and rude, I should change how I answer posts?  Um, no.  I'm sorry if you can't handle honesty, but that's you're problem, not mine.  If you're going to get the butthurts every time someone doesn't agree with you on the internet, you should probably find another activity.  

You never answer the question. My question was who has done the reveal parties, what they did, and what they liked and disliked about what they did. I didn't ask what your opinion on a gender reveal party was..so yeah, it was pretty irrelevant.  Just like your "I'm sorry if you can't handle honesty" comment. Honesty is fine, if you're actually answering my question. I'm sorry you if you can't read, but that's your problem, not mine. 

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haliebabyx3

We're not doing anything, I think they have became more overrated and out done because so many people have done them. We are going to do something small with H's family and then with my family. We are going on a cruise while i'm 20 weeks with my family, so i'm going to see if they will schedule me something for the week before the cruise. We will tell H's family probably in a small cute way before we leave. Then we will tell my family the week of the cruise which is also my moms birthday, so we might do a small card or so for my family. 

Weezy56

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Honestly, I find them attention whorish and silly.  Especially if you are inviting everyone you know or your entire town.  (Massive eyeroll).  An entire party dedicated to your BTB's genitals is so very strange.  Whatever.  

Apparently you are a special princess and need a party.  Try Pinterest (there's a mass of ideas there, I'm sure.)  

Oh look who it is...*talk about a massive eyeroll*

I guess it's a good thing you don't have to have one then, huh? 

I'm guessing this is supposed to mean something to me.  It doesn't.  I have no idea who you are.  I think "gender reveals" are ridiculously stupid.  Sorrynotsorry.  Not everyone is going to agree with you on the internet, sweets.

Never said you had to, sweets. Just said you didn't have to have one, and lucky for you, you won't be invited to mine. 

Is it actually possible for you to answer someone's question,  or do you spend every second of your time on this website thinking of a rude, irrelevant comment for everything? 

So because you find my comment irrelevant and rude, I should change how I answer posts?  Um, no.  I'm sorry if you can't handle honesty, but that's you're problem, not mine.  If you're going to get the butthurts every time someone doesn't agree with you on the internet, you should probably find another activity.  


You never answer the question. My question was who has done the reveal parties, what they did, and what they liked and disliked about what they did. I didn't ask what your opinion on a gender reveal party was..so yeah, it was pretty irrelevant.  Just like your "I'm sorry if you can't handle honesty" comment. Honesty is fine, if you're actually answering my question.

I'm sorry you if you can't read, but that's your problem, not mine. 

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It's a public message board. People can respond how they please. Just because you didn't ask opinions specifically from people who don't like gender reveals doesn't mean they can't give their opinion.

weddingringsandbabythings

And once again, nobody said you had to have one, or attend them. Go tell your friends that you dont want to attend their parties, because they're attention whores. I'm going to have my party anyway, because I don't care about your opinions on whether they're appropriate or not. I was asked by several people, and told how fun they are, so I looked them up and decided to do one. You can comment or answer however you want, and you wont change my mind, you're just wasting your time posting irrelevant comments, but I've learned that's what seems to be how some of you spend most of your day anyway..so enjoy yourselves. 

Weezy56

weddingringsandbabythings said:

And once again, nobody said you had to have one, or attend them. Go tell your friends that you dont want to attend their parties, because they're attention whores. I'm going to have my party anyway, because I don't care about your opinions on whether they're appropriate or not. I was asked by several people, and told how fun they are, so I looked them up and decided to do one. You can comment or answer however you want, and you wont change my mind, you're just wasting your time posting irrelevant comments, but I've learned that's what seems to be how some of you spend most of your day anyway..so enjoy yourselves. 

Have a gender reveal party. No skin off my back. I doubt anyone here gives a shit what you do. But don't open yourself up to opinions and get all butt hurt and take it personally when people say something you don't agree with.

kdaugherty4

We are doing our party next Friday. It is a lures and lace theme. We got our invites off of etsy. Super cute! We are revealing the sex through scratch off cards. Everyone at the party will get one and only one person in the entire party will get the one that has three of the same color fish in a row. That person will scream out what the gender is. We also got these off of etsy. We are going to do fish tacos and hot dogs (HAHA) and everything will go with the theme! We can't wait!

WashingtonQueen

This thread went down the predictable road. ::sigh:: Sorry, OP.

weddingringsandbabythings

Aw! Thanks for your answers ladies! Lures and lace is adorable! I think we're pretty set now on doing the box full of pink or blue helium filled balloons for the actual reveal, and we'll have the colored cake as well, and we'll play a lot games for maybe two hours, and we'll have the guessing game and stuff. It's gonna be lots of fun, because special princess parties are always a blast, and the best part is that people that don't like the idea don't have to come! How cool is that.  

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triumphgrrrl said:

kdaugherty4 said:

We are doing our party next Friday. It is a lures and lace theme. We got our invites off of etsy. Super cute! We are revealing the sex through scratch off cards. Everyone at the party will get one and only one person in the entire party will get the one that has three of the same color fish in a row. That person will scream out what the gender is. We also got these off of etsy. We are going to do fish tacos and hot dogs (HAHA) and everything will go with the theme! We can't wait!

... like, fishing lures? Because girls don't fish?

This is the internet..I must be offended. Omg. 

WashingtonQueen

Are you doing the official reveal with the balloons or the cake?

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WashingtonQueen said:

Are you doing the official reveal with the balloons or the cake?

Balloons. The cake will probably be eaten later, and since we'll have pink and blue decorations everywhere, I might actually make the cake half and half, so it can be eaten whenever, and then we can do the actual reveal last after all the games, and food. 

hlm184

I don't care about your baby's genitals, but I like cake.  And booze.  Make sure there is plenty of both.

WashingtonQueen

weddingringsandbabythings said:

WashingtonQueen said:

Are you doing the official reveal with the balloons or the cake?

Balloons. The cake will probably be eaten later, and since we'll have pink and blue decorations everywhere, I might actually make the cake half and half, so it can be eaten whenever, and then we can do the actual reveal last after all the games, and food. 

________________________________________
We did balloons for pictures. I went all out decorating the box. It took me several days to complete. I was a bit irritated when it decided to rain. Haha!

WashingtonQueen

triumphgrrrl said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

triumphgrrrl said:

kdaugherty4 said:

We are doing our party next Friday. It is a lures and lace theme. We got our invites off of etsy. Super cute! We are revealing the sex through scratch off cards. Everyone at the party will get one and only one person in the entire party will get the one that has three of the same color fish in a row. That person will scream out what the gender is. We also got these off of etsy. We are going to do fish tacos and hot dogs (HAHA) and everything will go with the theme! We can't wait!

... like, fishing lures? Because girls don't fish?

This is the internet..I must be offended. Omg. 

Offended? No. Do I find it incredibly narrow-minded to expect that because you have a boy or a girl they'll fit into certain gender-specific sterotypes? Yes. Boys may not like fishing, or football, or whatever other idea people come up with, and girls may not be the pretty pretty princess girly-girl that people use for these parties.

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Yeah and? I'm sure because she is having a themed party she is going to force her child to fit that theme for the rest of it's life. Give me a break.

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triumphgrrrl said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

triumphgrrrl said:

kdaugherty4 said:

We are doing our party next Friday. It is a lures and lace theme. We got our invites off of etsy. Super cute! We are revealing the sex through scratch off cards. Everyone at the party will get one and only one person in the entire party will get the one that has three of the same color fish in a row. That person will scream out what the gender is. We also got these off of etsy. We are going to do fish tacos and hot dogs (HAHA) and everything will go with the theme! We can't wait!

... like, fishing lures? Because girls don't fish?

This is the internet..I must be offended. Omg. 

Offended? No. Do I find it incredibly narrow-minded to expect that because you have a boy or a girl they'll fit into certain gender-specific sterotypes? Yes. Boys may not like fishing, or football, or whatever other idea people come up with, and girls may not be the pretty pretty princess girly-girl that people use for these parties.

Who cares? It's a baby. BABY. They don't even know what they like yet. 

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WashingtonQueen said:

WashingtonQueen said:

Are you doing the official reveal with the balloons or the cake?

Balloons. The cake will probably be eaten later, and since we'll have pink and blue decorations everywhere, I might actually make the cake half and half, so it can be eaten whenever, and then we can do the actual reveal last after all the games, and food. 

________________________________________ We did balloons for pictures. I went all out decorating the box. It took me several days to complete. I was a bit irritated when it decided to rain. Haha!

That would definitely be irritating. We're having ours indoors, so that won't be a problem we'll run into, thankfully. My husband wanted an outdoor wedding, and I refused, because I was positive it would rain...it always rains on my big days, so I never schedule anything outside anymore. 

Helenahhandbasket

OP, if I am being completely honest, the idea of coming to a party (any party) and being forced to play games for two hours sounds awful.  When I go to a party, I want to sit back, relax, have some good food and mingle a bit.  I don't want to play word games, guessing games, relay races, trivia and I for sure don't want to pin the tail on anything.  That's actually the part of your plan that I find most offensive.

Yes, I know that nosy neighbor of yours keeps asking if you know the sex, and last week Johnny the librarian asked if your H was able to "put the stem on the apple" (or some other equally charming rural colliquisim). People are trying to make conversation with you. When someone asks how you are doing-- you say fine. That's what they want you to say. They don't want to hear that you are sad 'cuz your cat ran away and they discontinued your favorite shade of lipstick.

This is the same thing.  They say--" what are you having" and you say boy (or girl) and they say "how nice".  That's how polite conversations go.

I don't generally think sex revel parties are great ideas, but I can see in some cases where a family might be extra excited for a new baby (maybe the couple had issues conceiving, or there hasn't been a new baby in a while, or you're having quadruplets-- whatever.)

In those cases, I think there's nothing wrong with inviting your nearest and dearest (truly your dearest- not the grocery clerk, not the town sheriff) and do a balloon release or a cake cutting or whatever cute thing you want to do.  

Then serve your guests good food, pass around drinks, talk about baby names and send your guests on their merry way.

Whew.  That got long.  Take it FWIW OP.

haliebabyx3

I do like the balloon idea. We had talked about doing that with the family. 

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Helenahhandbasket said:

OP, if I am being completely honest, the idea of coming to a party (any party) and being forced to play games for two hours sounds awful.  When I go to a party, I want to sit back, relax, have some good food and mingle a bit.  I don't want to play word games, guessing games, relay races, trivia and I for sure don't want to pin the tail on anything.  That's actually the part of your plan that I find most offensive.

Yes, I know that nosy neighbor of yours keeps asking if you know the sex, and last week Johnny the librarian asked if your H was able to "put the stem on the apple" (or some other equally charming rural colliquisim). People are trying to make conversation with you. When someone asks how you are doing-- you say fine. That's what they want you to say. They don't want to hear that you are sad 'cuz your cat ran away and they discontinued your favorite shade of lipstick.

This is the same thing.  They say--" what are you having" and you say boy (or girl) and they say "how nice".  That's how polite conversations go.

I don't generally think sex revel parties are great ideas, but I can see in some cases where a family might be extra excited for a new baby (maybe the couple had issues conceiving, or there hasn't been a new baby in a while, or you're having quadruplets-- whatever.)

In those cases, I think there's nothing wrong with inviting your nearest and dearest (truly your dearest- not the grocery clerk, not the town sheriff) and do a balloon release or a cake cutting or whatever cute thing you want to do.  

Then serve your guests good food, pass around drinks, talk about baby names and send your guests on their merry way.

Whew.  That got long.  Take it FWIW OP.

Where did you all get the idea that I plan on inviting the entire town to a gender reveal? I simply said that the whole town is interested, which is why we're having a get together with friends and family, and taking lots of pictures of our "reveal" so everyone can find out. I'm not going to have 700 people at a "party for my child's genitals". I also never said that then entire town was invited to my wedding, I said they showed up. 1. I don't have the money to feed all those people, or supply drinks. 2. I absolutely never said this was going to be a whole town thing. 

My parent's will be there, along with my sisters, my husband's aunt and grandparents, and like 6 of my friends (who are also pregnant, and suggested that I have the party). We did have a bumpy road to conceiving, and getting this far in pregnancy, and everyone knows..and that's why we're celebrating every possible aspect of it. 

Really you guys are reading way too much into this, and taking it entirely too far. Does anyone know how to read anymore?

weddingringsandbabythings

If that's what someone wants to do, why not? It's an exciting time for some people, and some spend years trying. So to you, it might be just something people have been doingsince the beginning of time, but to someone else, it could be everything. Who are you to judge them for being excited?

Helenahhandbasket

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

OP, if I am being completely honest, the idea of coming to a party (any party) and being forced to play games for two hours sounds awful.  When I go to a party, I want to sit back, relax, have some good food and mingle a bit.  I don't want to play word games, guessing games, relay races, trivia and I for sure don't want to pin the tail on anything.  That's actually the part of your plan that I find most offensive.

Yes, I know that nosy neighbor of yours keeps asking if you know the sex, and last week Johnny the librarian asked if your H was able to "put the stem on the apple" (or some other equally charming rural colliquisim). People are trying to make conversation with you. When someone asks how you are doing-- you say fine. That's what they want you to say. They don't want to hear that you are sad 'cuz your cat ran away and they discontinued your favorite shade of lipstick.

This is the same thing.  They say--" what are you having" and you say boy (or girl) and they say "how nice".  That's how polite conversations go.

I don't generally think sex revel parties are great ideas, but I can see in some cases where a family might be extra excited for a new baby (maybe the couple had issues conceiving, or there hasn't been a new baby in a while, or you're having quadruplets-- whatever.)

In those cases, I think there's nothing wrong with inviting your nearest and dearest (truly your dearest- not the grocery clerk, not the town sheriff) and do a balloon release or a cake cutting or whatever cute thing you want to do.  

Then serve your guests good food, pass around drinks, talk about baby names and send your guests on their merry way.

Whew.  That got long.  Take it FWIW OP.

Where did you all get the idea that I plan on inviting the entire town to a gender reveal? I simply said that the whole town is interested, which is why we're having a get together with friends and family, and taking lots of pictures of our "reveal" so everyone can find out. I'm not going to have 700 people at a "party for my child's genitals". I also never said that then entire town was invited to my wedding, I said they showed up. 1. I don't have the money to feed all those people, or supply drinks. 2. I absolutely never said this was going to be a whole town thing. 

My parent's will be there, along with my sisters, my husband's aunt and grandparents, and like 6 of my friends (who are also pregnant, and suggested that I have the party). We did have a bumpy road to conceiving, and getting this far in pregnancy, and everyone knows..and that's why we're celebrating every possible aspect of it. 

Really you guys are reading way too much into this, and taking it entirely too far. Does anyone know how to read anymore?

An entire town showed up for your wedding?