Intro and question...

BabyBsOven

Hi all! I just had my first OB appt with transvag ultrasound and it's twins! I had a gut feeling since this pregnancy has been a lot more intense than my last but I wasn't sure until today. Oh, and I'm due Oct. 24, 2014 so I'm only 6w/4d and I'm a little hesitant and guarded because of vanishing twin syndrome. But anyway, on to my question:

My husband is NOT happy. He didn't want another baby so soon but I convinced him (he thought it would take a while to conceive since it did the first time but we got it on the first try this time!) and he only wanted two kids total (I wanted 3) so now that it's twins he's pissed. He's acting like I did this on purpose. He keeps saying "You always get what you want!" and he's moping and snappy. Did anyone else have a SO that wasn't so happy in the beginning but snapped out of it? I know he'll always be there for the babies but I don't want this pregnancy to be miserable. Any reassuring stories from you ladies?

ceechie

It's a major shock to find you're expecting multiples. I cried for the first few months. I was super scared and not sure I wanted such a big family. But there was no going back and I had to move on and get happy. And my girls are such a light of my life.
My mil really blamed me for it too. She told dh she was disappointed in us and we should have been more careful. Wtf? Slowly she turned around and became supportive but dh had to talk to her and say "hey, these babies are coming either way. Get on board now."
Maybe you need to slap him in his balls and tell him to put his big boy pants on. You need support and and a milkshake- stat!

mer313131

Welcome and congrats! October twin momma here too! As far as your SO, I would give him some time to warm up to the idea of twins. This wasn't in our plan and DH was not too thrilled at first, but two weeks later he is much better. Good luck!

Kissimi21

Congrat!  Your H will eventually come around, it's just a big shock right now.  Give him time to digest the news and if he is still unhappy, let him know he needs to suck it up.  You both had made the choice to TTC, nature just decided to be a little more generous than you expected.

My H freaked out when we found out we were expecting twins. We were one and done, then surprise!  It was hard for him to be happy about having one more baby, never mind when the u/s showed 3 (then 2) more babies.  To be honest, we nearly split up over it.  After a month of him acting like a jerk about the pregnancy, I told him they were coming with or without him.  He pulled himself together and is a great father to all of our children.  He just handled the stress really poorly at first.

ks3pink

Mine wasn't quite as upset as yours but he did go through a short bout with depression after finding out. His concern was finances. There was about two months between the u/s when we found out it was twins to our anatomy u/s. Seeing them that time seemed to give him a connection and a peace. We started looking for a house and making plans to get things ready for them. Now he wouldn't trade them for the world. He teases me sometimes about always getting my way since I wanted three and he wanted two but it's all in good fun. Give him some time and I'm sure he'll come around.

BabyBsOven

Thanks for the reassurance ladies. I think I was just so shocked at his reaction because he was so in love when I was pregnant with our daughter, kissing my belly and everything. I guess I was just disappointed that he wasn't acting the same way this time. I know he'll come around, especially after hearing all your stories. 

Thanks again and nice to meet y'all!