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when you can't agree on a name

I have heard of couples of settled on a name at birth,etc. but what are you doing to solve the issue if you and SO can't agree on name? My DH and I still have 6 mos. to decide but I know its going to creep up fast. What did you do to settle on something? I am hoping we both just magically agree one day.
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Re: when you can't agree on a name

  • At some point, you'll both have to compromise. If you both cannot agree on each other's #1 choice, then you move on to something else. But, before you make any decisions or rule anything out, I found it helpful when we'd both think about the name for a while before saying yes or no. You still have some time, so you can take what SO loves and he can think about what you love and see if it grows on you at all. If not, then move on to something you can agree on. 

    Try to see why a name is important to your SO and then explain why you love your names. Sometimes shutting something down right away can cause resentment or hurt feelings. At least hear him out and him do the same.
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  • We had no problem agreeing on a boy's name but the girls name was tougher. DH really liked the girls name that we eventually decided on but i was on the fence about it cause it was a little common. Eventually I talked him into changing the spelling a little to make it a little more original plus we are going with a middle name that I prefer more. I guess that's our compromise.

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  • We actually had names picked out several years ago.  Ever since I was little I had a specific girls name picked out.  My DH likes the name and he picked out the middle name.  We picked out the boys name together.  It actually came together rather easily for us.  Now, if we have second child that is the same gender as our first then we might have more difficulty coming up with a name.
  • We had a hard time with naming our first. We vetoed every name the other person loved and agreed to throw all those options out because neither of us was budging. We both then made a list of names we liked and wouldn't mind and picked threw that list together until we got down to 1. We're about to name kid number 3 and the only thing in our house named a name someone "loved", is our dog.
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  • It really is all about compromise and communication.  My hubby and I had a terrible time at first picking out names, but eventually found one that we both liked. With our second on the way, we had a tough time again, but again we compromised- I kind of sold him on the first name that I liked, and he got to chose the middle name.
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