Does your DH know how to put LO to bed?

juliemay623

So I don't think DH has ever put DD to bed for the night (okay maybe once). This is mainly because I nurse her to sleep, however it can be done because from around 4 weeks to 7/8 weeks old DH did a MOTN feeding with her and she would fall asleep ok from the bottle... but he hasn't done that in over 2 months.

Tomorrow night I've been invited to a girls dinner but won't get home until after DDs bedtime. Does your DH know how to put LO to bed? WWYD?

1) not go so I can still put her to bed

2) go but leave early and push back LOs bedtime a little so I can still put her to bed

3) go. DH needs to learn how to do it some time and I deserve a night out.

jennlin

3, for sure.

H can put baby to sleep, but he can't put toddler to sleep. Since he can't get dd to sleep, h bounces on the yoga ball with ds after I feed him and he goes to sleep while I nurse dd to sleep.

Ajoyd

#3. He has to learn!

bkeane619

Yup pick #3

Heather91011

#3

My hubs has no clue how to put LO to bed. He really needs to learn.

PixiesDust

Deft. #3.  

I like putting DD to bed but DH can and has filled in on several occasions.  It takes him a little longer but he gets it done.

jnsmith85

#3- you should totally go. they'll survive without you.

He HAD to learn. I work nights so 3-4 nights a week he's by himself with the baby from 6:15pm until I get home in the morning around 7:40. The first few nights after I went back to work, he would call me and be all panicky bc LO wouldn't stop crying. But now they both do really well at night.

sleepy33

#3 and yes, my H can put the baby to bed.

LittleBabyG2013

3!! Have fun

amber0529

#3
My boyfriend had to learn to put DS to sleep because I work til 10 once or twice a week. He figured it out after a couple evenings of freak outs.

Lee81

No one is going to say anything but 3. If they do, they're a troll and and they are trying to pick a fight. Go out! Have fun! It will be good for everyone. 

To answer the questions, ever since my boobs failed, there isn't anything I do that DH can't also do if needed. His kid, too and all that. 

vargasgurl

#3 they will survive

juliemay623

dh13 said:

#3 - no contest! Not saying you're doing this, but the more you make excuses and sacrifice your own life, the less they will be willing to learn to do it. Don't let it be an option for you to not go, he will be fine and will totes figure it out.

You hit the nail on the head! It's not DH that is like you shouldn't go or you should come home early... It's me thinking wow DH hasn't done this and what if it doesn't go well?! I'm sure he can handle it and I shouldn't be such a worry wort.

Thanks ladies!

ballygirl

#3. DH sucks at it but has been getting a little better recently out of necessity. Still can't leave him w both girls but he can handle one on his own if he has to.

asilwhite

#3 he deft has to learn. But I will say I'm terrified of having MH put DS to bed because he goes down so easily for me since I nurse to sleep. So I wonder how he'd be with the bottle.

Basically I'd love to see a video of it because I think it'd be a shitshow.

muffyvonmuff

#3 Without question.

DH and I split everything I put DS to bed 4 nights a week and he does 3 nights.  DS also wakes up around 530am to eat, so DH gets him for me from the nursery I nurse him in bed and then he burps him and puts him back to bed in his crib.  Theres also been quite a few times I couldn't t get him down and Ill tag in DH in to get the job done.  

pmarie33

3
DH has no problem putting his kids to bed.

Arod1087

3 3 3!!!!

Dh does this magically shake/sway and baby goes out. He is my savior lately.

BlessUrHeart29

3

Generally DS falls asleep on one of us, and then we just set him in his crib **very gently**

Skyjewell23

3.

DH can get him to sleep with rocking/singing. It takes him much longer though.

Gatorsgirl731

3

DH does not know how. He is too playful with her at bed time. But he is starting to understand bed time is quiet time. I think he would do better if I wasn't there to help/take over. If I went out I'd just be prepared to come home to a mess.

tashad18

#3.

My DH puts LO to bed on his 3 days off. I almost always go to sleep earlier than them on those nights.

megs1409

3

DH is actually the one that normally does the nighttime routine. I have been FF, so that definitely made it easier for me to have DH "responsible" for the night routine most nights.

mancila60

3 H puts him to bed quite often. H does quite a bit with LO when he's home so I really don't have to worry about much because H can do everything just as I would.

hlb622

3! Do it. Go.

DH has this magic bounce-sway-dance he does that I actually had to learn from him once I stopped nursing to sleep.

kelle017

I think he could but she almost always nurses to sleep and she's not a bottle fan so it would be tough.

NatesCupcake47

3. DH puts DD to bed anywhere from 1 to 3 nights a week depending on my plans. It took a bit of work in the beginning but he's got it down now. DD is still ebf as well.

ksimo6

DH needs to figure it out.

My DH is probably better at putting LO down than I am. He puts her in there drowsy and let's get put herself to sleep. I feel like I need to get her to sleep and then put her down. Good thing he wanted the evening shift! I'm better on the morning shift.

SnoopyLuv

He puts both girls to bed most nights. That was always our arrangement. I feed, he swoops in and puts them down. He's really awesome at it, and usually has to rescue me if I try to put Frankie down.

yesthisiskim0401

A2 doesn't take a bottle because she enjoys being a little asshole like that, so DH can't put her to sleep. But if I had a girls night out and LO took bottles you bet your ass I'd go and make DH figure it out!

AmandagStark

#3! I can't believe other options are even listed. My DH knows how to and does everything besides BF our LO.

chicsahm

Go and don't worry! He will figure it out, and if he struggles a little then that is OK! They have to figure it out together…. Your LO and DH. DH has his own way of doing things with our kids… he follows the basic routine , bath time, stories etc…. but he has his special things he does with them I don't… and I love that, bedtime is special for them when Daddy does it. Let him find his nitch

huntjul

Alright, get out your flamethrowers. I'm not sure forcing DH to put LO to sleep when he usu doesn't and has historically had problems for the first time when you're away is the best idea. I'd actually consider #2. But hear me out.

DD loves DH during the day, but if he tries to put her to sleep or comfort in the night, she often cries harder than if she were not comforted at all.  It's a problem I created from nursing her back to sleep and she's continued to grow worse as far as time to fall asleep and number of bedtime failures (not saying nurse to sleep is a problem for everyone, but it has turned into one for us).  Because it is a problem I created, I don't want to leave it for DH to deal with while I get a night out.  Instead I'm working on fixing it, and then I'll happily go out with friends when he's given a fair chance at bedtime success.  Otherwise, and rightly so, he's not going to be thrilled any time he has to do bedtime in the future.

ajjf1026

3, hands down. DH has never put DS to bed nor has he ever given him a bath. At first it was difficult bc he was BF but he is now FF so it shouldn't be an issue, but it is.

Go & have a great time. Your DH will figure it out.

baby101010

No better time for him to learn than now! Another vote for 3. He will figure it out.

sleepy33

huntjul said:

Alright, get out your flamethrowers. I'm not sure forcing DH to put LO to sleep when he usu doesn't and has historically had problems for the first time when you're away is the best idea. I'd actually consider #2. But hear me out.

DD loves DH during the day, but if he tries to put her to sleep or comfort in the night, she often cries harder than if she were not comforted at all.  It's a problem I created from nursing her back to sleep and she's continued to grow worse as far as time to fall asleep and number of bedtime failures (not saying nurse to sleep is a problem for everyone, but it has turned into one for us).  Because it is a problem I created, I don't want to leave it for DH to deal with while I get a night out.  Instead I'm working on fixing it, and then I'll happily go out with friends when he's given a fair chance at bedtime success.  Otherwise, and rightly so, he's not going to be thrilled any time he has to do bedtime in the future.

I know you and I are in the same boat with dads being primary caregivers during the day. My observation is this: the baby ALWAYS cries more/harder with my H than he does with me when he's cranky or being put to sleep. Always. Nothing changes it; he's tried doing exactly what I do, shushing, singing, etc, but to no avail. BUT, that being said, the baby does not cry for very long and actually nods off FASTER with my H. So it may be a more peaceful transition to sleep with me, but it takes longer. Just sharing my somewhat random observations.

Inn2

Yes. And #3.