Love being pregnant and grateful!

kara222

Just thought I'd share my positive thoughts (esp. since there is so much negativity, criticism and rudeness on forums).  I am LOVING being pregnant!  Anyone else agree?  I love that I don't have to worry about "sucking in my stomach" or being bloated when I'm already big.  Haha.  I also love the fact that in a couple of months I get to meet my precious daughter.

Granted, this is my first pregnancy and so far it's gone smoothly.  No complaints.  No morning sickness, no sore boobs, no fatigue.  It's been great (I know that's a rare 1% of the population).

I also want to add that I am extremely grateful for this opportunity.  Both my husband and I were diagnosed with infertility so we both experienced the pain that comes along with "might not be able to have children."  I told my husband if I ever got pregnant I wouldn't complain about my aches and pains because it means that I get to have a child of my own and I should feel extremely grateful when lots of other women won't get to experience this. 

Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise.

Anyone else agree!?  

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Sarafar4

I have wanted be a mother my entire life, with the feelings growing stronger and stronger the past few years, and have had so many "I can't believe this is finally happening" moments. This is the best part of life so far and my husband and I are so happy. Thank you for starting this thread ! Reading your post brought tears to my eyes and a smile to my face

jasrun80

I see the bright side even through all my negative pregnancy woes but this is a nice reminder! good luck with the whole process,,, you'll cherish that baby like no other!

missmiss307

The first trimester of this pregnancy was difficult for me, but I've tried very hard not to lose sight of the fact that I have so much to be thankful for. To this point, I have had two healthy pregnancies, I've never suffered the loss so many women have, and I've never struggled to get pregnant like so many women have. I think it's a disservice to them for me not to recognize how lucky I am.

I appreciate the positive thoughts, OP, and hope you have a continued healthy pregnancy!

ADC1979

I'm grateful to be pregnant after trying for 14 months and sooo many doctor visits to figure out what might be going on.  We were able to conceive naturally, which is a blessing in itself.  There are times when not everything is sunny (looking at you, gagging at the mere thought of brushing my teeth!) and the bloating of the first trimester was disheartening at times.  But I'm still so glad to know there's a little guy depending on me!

I'm in 2nd tri now, of course, so right now I'm experiencing those panic moments of "I feel too good right now...am I really pregnant?  Is everything okay in there?  Helloooo baby kick once for yes, two for no..." I have an anterior placenta so along with being a FTM, I may not even feel my LO for another few weeks.

And...I'm happy for maternity pants.  Here I've been, buttoning and zipping pants up all my life like a fool.  

laurenmichaels

I love this post and I'm feeling the same way. I'm 23 weeks and feeling amazing and so happy I can't stop smiling.

solotuyyo0813

same here this pregnancy has been good i have had minor complications that had nothing to do with the baby but more to do with sickness.. i didn't have any morning sickness just went through a period of sickness when i was dehydrated.. i feel blessed to even be pregnant because like you we believed i couldn't have them we talked about it my husband already has two boys so he knew it was possible for him .. but since we never used a condom and nothing happened then a year later i went to the ER cause of lower pain and over working myself just to find out i was pregnant we knew right away it was a girl because of our native insight .. this has been an amazing experience i love feeling her move and kick .. now to do it again im not sure i want to right away maybe in 2 years lol i went from not wanting kids to having 2 god daughters then wanting a boy and then meeting my husband to just knowing we will have beautiful girls to go along with the two boys he has brought to the table.. idk why but i always got the feeling of joy knowing it

solotuyyo0813

ow btw im 25 weeks pregnant! 

kara222

Love all of these responses!! So sweet to hear others talking about their little ones. I'm 23 wks today - woo hoo!

weddingringsandbabythings

I'm thoroughly enjoying it! I'm 14 weeks today, and in the last 10 weeks, I've had bronchitis twice, a stomach flu, I've past out probably 20-something times (so I have to eat and drink constantly to keep my blood sugar and pressure up), and I've had to take progesterone suppositories since week 5, and 200mg of levothyroxine...but it's all good, and totally worth it. I'm so in love with my baby bear. 

con07s

I love being pregnant too!!! 14 weeks today and I cannot wait to see our baby again... Feeling good and not feeling any movement yet makes me nervous so I really look forward to ultrasounds!!! I get all giddy thinking of how I've got a miracle growing inside my tummy and I still can't believe it! Knowing that I'm never alone is nice too... Overall, pregnancy is a wonderful thing

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kjensen1975

I disagree with the PP who think it's rude for us to feel good about having a relatively simple pregnancy. We go on these boards day after day and feel awful about ourselves because we can't commiserate with the majority of the women on the board who have a multitude of issues both.physical and emotional. Why should we be the silent minority? Why can't we be happy? Why are these boards here to complain or.lament only? A casual observer to these boards would.think that being pregnant is the worst thing that can happen.

I think it's great that we get an outlet, 1 post.out of.hundreds mind you, to share how we feel and NOT.feel ashamed of it! Its NOT bragging...or at least that's not the.intention. we're happy, is that so wrong?

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kjensen1975 said:

I disagree with the PP who think it's rude for us to feel good about having a relatively simple pregnancy. We go on these boards day after day and feel awful about ourselves because we can't commiserate with the majority of the women on the board who have a multitude of issues both.physical and emotional. Why should we be the silent minority? Why can't we be happy? Why are these boards here to complain or.lament only? A casual observer to these boards would.think that being pregnant is the worst thing that can happen. I think it's great that we get an outlet, 1 post.out of.hundreds mind you, to share how we feel and NOT.feel ashamed of it! Its NOT bragging...or at least that's not the.intention. we're happy, is that so wrong?

Same. I've had my fair share of issues this pregnancy, health, emotional, and financial, but I'm still enjoying it to the fullest, and I don't know what's wrong with that. I didn't feel like we were rubbing it in anyone's faces. I mean I'm not offended by all the people who complain on here. 

kjensen1975

@triumphgrrl you make a valid.point about the phrase you quoted. I dont think we shoild ever discount or assume that a woman is (or isnt) looking forward to the day she'll hold her LO in her arms for the 1st time regardless of her symptoms or lack thereof.
I think I'm just a bit sensitive about all this as I'm hearing it outside the boards as well

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waraz89

I was told by numerous doctors I couldn't have children, I needed 3 surgeries to get to the point where I could house a fetus for more than 18 weeks. After 16 mc believe me I am so grateful to be pregnant.
How ever at 33 weeks and some days pregnant I am really bloody uncomfortable, irritable and generally exhausted.... Get back to me about your fabulous pregnancies when you're all too uncomfortable to move... Enjoy it while it lasts ladies! Just because you are having easy pregnancies now doesn't mean it will carry on!

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con07s

I think we're all happy just to be pregnant and for me, thinking about that miracle takes away the stress of finances and struggling with my jobs as well as the outrageous health insurance costs. I commented in this forum because I didn't see any negativity and its nice to hear how others are enjoying being pregnant as well!

marathonmommy82

Um, bully for you?

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momthatlifts

Good for you. I'm happy you're enjoying every second of your pregnancy. It's not necessarily the same for everyone. I have been super blessed with a very healthy baby and no complications at all, but I feel like crap. It's one thing after another for me. I have actually thought to myself "I'm not doing this again for a few more years. How could I feel this way an raise a child at the same time?". It definitely isn't what I thought it would be like. Yes I am grateful and no I wouldn't take it back, but it is not all sunshine and rainbows for everyone like it is for you

NewMrsMacC

@Bliss thank you for saying what I didn't have the nerve too say! 

I agree, 1200%! 

This is my first pregnancy, I was deathly sick with MS for 5 months, lost 22lbs, and when that FINALLY went away about a month or so ago (I'm 28 weeks now) the headaches and backaches like Ive never had in my life started! I cant sleep because I have to pee, constantly, and my hips ache at night so bad that even my snoogle isn't helping! Ugh. I wanted to get pregnant, this WAS planned, I am married to a wonderful, supportive man, we aren't in financial trouble, Im not worried about money or other such things.. I'm just.. pissed. A lot. Because I don't feel good! So I complain. So what?! That means Im not happy or grateful to be able to have and carry a healthy baby?? How insulting! Of course I am happy, and of course I know how blessed I am by the little miracle growing strong inside me! I'm so in love with her! I sing to her daily, talk about her constantly (to the point I annoy my own self sometimes, lol) and am planning and anticipating for her arrival like no event I have ever experienced in my life! Im overjoyed by her, but ya know what? Im sick as a f*in dog with no shots I'm going to bitch and complain when I feel like doing it. How dare her insinuate it means I am not grateful! 

The OP's op was totally obnoxious. Quite frankly, it really pissed me off. 

#endrant

Empireceo

Team Bliss. Just because I don't enjoy pregnancy doesn't mean I don't appreciate being a mom. And how lovely for you that you think the stressful/shitty parts of pregnancy are registering and decorating the nursery. Your post comes off as obnoxious and AW.

weddingringsandbabythings

kara222 said:

Just thought I'd share my positive thoughts (esp. since there is so much negativity, criticism and rudeness on forums).  I am LOVING being pregnant!  Anyone else agree?  I love that I don't have to worry about "sucking in my stomach" or being bloated when I'm already big.  Haha.  I also love the fact that in a couple of months I get to meet my precious daughter.

Granted, this is my first pregnancy and so far it's gone smoothly.  No complaints.  No morning sickness, no sore boobs, no fatigue.  It's been great (I know that's a rare 1% of the population).

I also want to add that I am extremely grateful for this opportunity.  Both my husband and I were diagnosed with infertility so we both experienced the pain that comes along with "might not be able to have children."  I told my husband if I ever got pregnant I wouldn't complain about my aches and pains because it means that I get to have a child of my own and I should feel extremely grateful when lots of other women won't get to experience this. 

Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise.

Anyone else agree!?  

I'm still looking for the part where you said that everyone has to love being pregnant, and if they don't then they are a bad mother. 

But I'm not finding it...

Probably because it's not there. Maybe I should learn to read though.  

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Congratulations on your pregnancy OP! It's nice to see something positive on these boards!  

weddingringsandbabythings

kaysa2 said:

Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise.

Anyone else agree!?  

I'm still looking for the part where you said that everyone has to love being pregnant, and if they don't then they are a bad mother. 

But I'm not finding it...

Probably because it's not there. Maybe I should learn to read though.  

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Congratulations on your pregnancy OP! It's nice to see something positive on these boards!  

Stop it.  The paragraph I've left above showcases, for me, the problem area.  Take a minute to appreciate that I've been given an opportunity to be a mother, because not everyone can?  Not everyone gets the opportunity to projective vomit blood due to HG, either, but I'm not going to be grateful for it.

There are plenty of positive threads on these boards.  The women here are incredibly supportive when it is warranted.  Some people have great, awesome pregnancies, some people don't.  But demanding that we all be grateful for this time is incredibly irritating and insensitive.  If you and OP think pregnancy is so great, I invite you over to my place and you can help me clean the bathroom every two hours from what is left of my shredded esophagus.  That should put things in perspective.

Omg lol. Like I am so sorry you're having a rough pregnancy. I get it, I really do. My last pregnancy was awful, and I don't even have anything to show for it, because it ended in a miscarriage, but we are still allowed to be grateful, even if our pregnancies are awful. I feel like you're comment is trying to convince us that we shouldn't be grateful, a whole hell of a lot more than the op seemed to be trying to make everyone feel grateful. So no, please, you stop it. There was absolutely nothing offensive about her post. She didnt say everyone HAD to agree. She asked if anyone DOES agree. If you didn't,  you could have simply said no, or passed it up without even commenting. It's not hard. 

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Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

kaysa2 said:

Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise.

Anyone else agree!?  

I'm still looking for the part where you said that everyone has to love being pregnant, and if they don't then they are a bad mother. 

But I'm not finding it...

Probably because it's not there. Maybe I should learn to read though.  

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Congratulations on your pregnancy OP! It's nice to see something positive on these boards!  

Stop it.  The paragraph I've left above showcases, for me, the problem area.  Take a minute to appreciate that I've been given an opportunity to be a mother, because not everyone can?  Not everyone gets the opportunity to projective vomit blood due to HG, either, but I'm not going to be grateful for it.

There are plenty of positive threads on these boards.  The women here are incredibly supportive when it is warranted.  Some people have great, awesome pregnancies, some people don't.  But demanding that we all be grateful for this time is incredibly irritating and insensitive.  If you and OP think pregnancy is so great, I invite you over to my place and you can help me clean the bathroom every two hours from what is left of my shredded esophagus.  That should put things in perspective.

Omg lol. Like I am so sorry you're having a rough pregnancy. I get it, I really do. My last pregnancy was awful, and I don't even have anything to show for it, because it ended in a miscarriage, but we are still allowed to be grateful, even if our pregnancies are awful. I feel like you're comment is trying to convince us that we shouldn't be grateful, a whole hell of a lot more than the op seemed to be trying to make everyone feel grateful. So no, please, you stop it. There was absolutely nothing offensive about her post. She didnt say everyone HAD to agree. She asked if anyone DOES agree. If you didn't,  you could have simply said no, or passed it up without even commenting. It's not hard. 

@weddingsandbabythings You fail at reading comprehension.  No one is saying don't be grateful, happy, etc. 

The point is not to be a narrow-minded fuckwit.  Apparently you are unable to grasp the concept.  Not everyone is having a planned pregnancy, some people are incredibly ill.  The OP has no complaints, great for her, but don't fucking assume that everyone here is in the same boat as you.  They aren't.  

You know what else isn't hard?  Not being an asshole.  You should try it.

Where in her post did she say that EVERYONE here is in the same boat as her? You're the one that lacks reading comprehension skills. She made a post saying that SHE was enjoying her pregnancy, and said "I am LOVING being pregnant!  Anyone else agree?". It is not her fault that you guys can't comprehend what she wrote. I understood what you all wrote without a problem, I'm just pointing out that it's irrelevant. She didn't say you had to be grateful, she said that she was, and wanted to know who else was...BIG difference. It's not her problem that you got your panties in a wad over something so stupid. 

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kara222

These two quotes are why I write my post. I wasn't trying to offend anyone. A lot of people on here post their feelings, so I thought I would, too. You can disagree; that's fine. I'm just stating my opinion like everyone else.

weddingringsandbabythings

Bliss+Berry said:

weddingringsandbabythings said:

Bliss+Berry said:

@weddingsandbabythings You fail at reading comprehension.  No one is saying don't be grateful, happy, etc. 

The point is not to be a narrow-minded fuckwit.  Apparently you are unable to grasp the concept.  Not everyone is having a planned pregnancy, some people are incredibly ill.  The OP has no complaints, great for her, but don't fucking assume that everyone here is in the same boat as you.  They aren't.  

You know what else isn't hard?  Not being an asshole.  You should try it.

Where in her post did she say that EVERYONE here is in the same boat as her? You're the one that lacks reading comprehension skills. She made a post saying that SHE was enjoying her pregnancy, and said "I am LOVING being pregnant!  Anyone else agree?". It is not her fault that you guys can't comprehend what she wrote. I understood what you all wrote without a problem, I'm just pointing out that it's irrelevant. She didn't say you had to be grateful, she said that she was, and wanted to know who else was...BIG difference. It's not her problem that you got your panties in a wad over something so stupid. 

And I don't agree, which is why I posted.  I thought her post was obnoxious and sanctimonious and many other Bumpies agreed. 

Furthermore, she's telling everyone how to feel about their pregnancy, to be grateful, blah, blah, blah and implied that the biggest stressors or registering and nurseries, which obviously is not the case for everyone. 

I know this may be hard for you to grasp, but not everyone has to agree with you or the OP.  I can post if I disagree.  My post was "No, I don't agree, here's why."  You have no business qualifying who can post what.  Unless of course you are the post police now?  

Oh, and fuck off.

  

I never said you had to agree or be grateful, nor did I say that you couldn't post. It's just slightly amusing that you ladies have such massive sticks up your asses. 

Like I said, there was nothing offensive about her post. There's nothing obnoxious about loving or being grateful for a pregnancy. There's nothing wrong with saying that, if you are stressing over nurseries and registries, to take a break, because it's not that big of a deal. She never said you couldn't be stressed. She never said you couldn't be upset or ungrateful for your pregnancy. God forbid someone on here be positive for once...it's so awful to let someone be happy. 

Puka99

kara222 said:

Just thought I'd share my positive thoughts (esp. since there is so much negativity, criticism and rudeness on forums).  I am LOVING being pregnant!  Anyone else agree?  I love that I don't have to worry about "sucking in my stomach" or being bloated when I'm already big.  Haha.  I also love the fact that in a couple of months I get to meet my precious daughter.

Granted, this is my first pregnancy and so far it's gone smoothly.  No complaints.  No morning sickness, no sore boobs, no fatigue.  It's been great (I know that's a rare 1% of the population).

I also want to add that I am extremely grateful for this opportunity.  Both my husband and I were diagnosed with infertility so we both experienced the pain that comes along with "might not be able to have children."  I told my husband if I ever got pregnant I wouldn't complain about my aches and pains because it means that I get to have a child of my own and I should feel extremely grateful when lots of other women won't get to experience this. 

Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise.

Anyone else agree!?  

I normally play nice in the sandbox but this rubbed me wrong today. Now, if OP had stated just the stuff in bold, I'd be cool with what she wrote. She is just stating her opinion in which she has every right to say/feel.

The stuff in the second paragraph that is italicized is what gets me. I am glad your pregnancy has been drama free and smooth sailing especially in your first pregnancy. You are very lucky you've experienced nothing bad. I don't blame you nor do I hold that against. That didn't even bother me though, until I got the the last paragraph. 

The part I bolded and italicized that is what really gets me. OP is telling us how to feel. As somoene who has had an uneventful first time pregnancy, I really don't need to hear her tell me to be grateful. I am extremely grateful. I can still hate being pregnant but be grateful every day that I am still pregnant today.

 I had one pregnancy that went to term with morning sickness and fatigue. I then had three trimester losses, then another full term pregnancy with terrible morning sickness. I then got pregnant again, and had terrible morning sickness (lost 20 lbs in the first 13 weeks) and lost that baby at 18 weeks.This time I've lost 25lbs and am still puking daily. Just because I get tired of puking and feeling like crap and complain every now and then, it doesn't mean I am ungrateful.It means I'm human. I've known people who've gone through chemo/radiation and even though the chemo/radiation helped them become cancer free, they still complained they missed their hair. Did I tell them to be grateful because they beat the cancer? heck no, they are entitled to complain too.

I have more to say but it is getting me more angry so I'm going to stop here.

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weddingringsandbabythings

What's obnoxious is hijacking someone's positive post with hateful and negative crap. 

I'm done now. Sorry your lives are so terrible that you can't be happy about anything, or let others be either. Misery loves company, right? 

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kara222 said:

These two quotes are why I write my post. I wasn't trying to offend anyone. A lot of people on here post their feelings, so I thought I would, too. You can disagree; that's fine. I'm just stating my opinion like everyone else.

Except your biggest problems appear to be registering and planning the nursery and picking baby supplies. It's awfully easy to see past those problems.

I'm very happy for you that you are pregnant and experiencing such an uneventful pregnancy. That's wonderful for you. Unfortunately, not everyone is in the same boat.
For a long time I thought that my infertility and the treatments that led to this pregnancy meant I couldn't complain about anything. Fortunately, I've realized that I can still be thankful to be pregnant but I don't have to love being pregnant- because my body certainly doesn't. It won't make me any less grateful to say "I wish I weren't experiencing X, Y or Z".

Empireceo

Pregnancy isn't a blissful time for everyone. It's great that you enjoy your pregnancy. It's not okay to admonish women for struggling with real issues during that time to "just be grateful!" and "focus on the positive!" I'm so happy that the OP has had no morning sickness, enjoys gaining weight, and has received no alarming news regarding her health or that of her child. I'm just amazed that she can't pull her head out of her ass long enough to realize some people are struggling with real issues beyond "what color should I paint my nursery?" THAT is what makes the original post obnoxious.

rainydayluck

"Please take a minute and amidst all the stress about registering, decorating a nursery, buying supplies, doctor's appointments, stop to appreciate the fact that you've been given an opportunity to be a mother.  Not everyone gets that chance in life.  That is a huge responsibility and no one should take it lightly.  I am so excited to teach my daughter self-respect, compassion towards others and the ability to work hard and perservere when tough situations arise."

To address the presumptuously ignorant quote from OP:

I don't have stress about registries, nursery, supplies, etc. I have stress that DD had to have surgery. I have stress because I am off my anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication which makes me have severe bouts of both where for days I can't do anything but struggle against death thoughts and very scary dark thoughts. I guess in the midst of that, I should go ahead and just "take a break" from it. I am sure my counselor would agree *sarcasm*

My pregnancy is also high risk which means tons of appointments, and gosh golly, I would love to take a break from the stress of those.

I also had HG for the first half of my pregnancy and wished I had never gotten pregnant during that awfulness and man, do I feel horrible for those poor women who deal with HG the entire pregnancy.

I guess that I am not "teaching my daughter self-respect and compassion" because I don't subscribe to your everyone should remember and appreciate that they are pregnant attitude.

My first pregnancy was a breeze! I loved every moment. I certainly did not go around telling other pregnant woman how awesome it was and how they should take a break from whatever was going on in their lives and appreciate their pregnancy. Why? Because I have no idea what is going on in any one else's lives nor do I need to tell people how and what they should be appreciating.

Edited for typo.