What did your post-loss visit(s) entail? Bloodwork? Exam? Talk only? Were you seen just once or more often?
When I had my missed m/c in January 2013 I was still being seen by my RE, so after my D & C I went in weekly for betas to follow them down to zero. After delivering my twins at 21w6d, my first doctor visit is tomorrow at 4.5 weeks post-loss. I'm not looking forward to it, but maybe it will help answer some of the millions of questions swimming through my head each day?
Re: post-loss visit with your doc
@milb11 For 3 weeks I have been trying to talk myself into returning to the gym, but it hasn't happened yet. Thank you for sharing your experience.
@mingaling2 First of all, I love the Carly Marie sunset picture of your daughter's name--that is gorgeous! (I'm on the list and can't wait to see them in a few months.) Thanks for the visual--my appointment will actually be at the same hospital I delivered at and there will be pregnant women everywhere. Silly me was worrying about the exam when I need to be worried about keeping myself together! They should've prescribed me (1) Xanax to take prior to my follow-up visit--oy.
I hope they tested my placenta. I have a lot of which came first chicken/egg questions regarding my incompetent cervix and silent preterm labor.
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IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
I just had a pelvic exam and asked about 3 million questions that I had written out before...most about trying again and asking if I had done anything to cause her condition.
I really wasn't prepared for how emotional the visit made me...i was kind of looking at it as a milestone of getting through my grief and when I got there it was really hard and emotional. I cried for about 30 minutes in the car afterwards and then went home and cried for a long time.
GL tomorrow...maybe you could call ahead and see if they can go ahead and put you in an exam room to wait on the dr. and not just have you in the general waiting room.
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No blood work but plenty of talking.
She went over when I could TTC again and so on.
So sorry for your loss
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I was seen only once, about 4 weeks PP. It was very hard as the office is located in the hospital where I delivered, and since my doctor is an MFM, it's all pregnant women there as opposed to just a regular OBGyn that might get a lot of routine gyn patients as well.
As I was being taken back to the room, I could hear a fetal HB in another room and I lost it. Being back there was hard enough without having to hear that, but I understand there is really nothing they could have done.
The nurse talked to us for a while, about our daughter, what we named her, if we had a funeral service, etc. Then the doctor came in. She did a quick pelvic exam, I was very nervous about it but I barely felt it (no speculum thank God). She talked to us about our loss, asnwered questions, gave results of the placenta biopsy though no real answer was found for why I delivered so early.
She went over what would happen once I got pregnant again, how the pregnancy would be different (ie the monitoring I will get) and she helped prepare me for how I may feel...I might feel over anxious, I might feel detached, etc and she assured me it was all normal. She also assured me that they understood I would likely be more on edge and in need of reassurance that everything is ok, and that they were prepared to give me that extra attention if I needed it.
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She concurred that my loss was due to an incompetent cervix, which brought on preterm labor and my premature delivery of our sons. They suggested a preventative vaginal cerclage for next time, but because we are doing IVF I can't guarantee twins won't happen again and they were clear when I begged for a cerclage and pessary prior to my loss that "there was no evidence that those procedures worked in the case of twins." I came home and within the hour had an appointment scheduled for a TAC surgery (transabdominal cerclage) out of state with another doctor.
Thank you all for your insight--it definitely helped keep me focused and tear-free for my appointment! (Having DH there helped, too.)
TTC since 10/2010
IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)