How do you offer support?... Loss mentioned (not mine)

Mom&nurse

FYI this first part is kinda messy.... I get a phone call today that my Stepdaughter's (13) half sister (18) Lost her baby today.

She was supposed to be 16 weeks but baby measured 8 weeks with no heart beat. I'm a little confused because she was telling everyone that at 11 weeks they couldn't see a heart beat on the ultrasound. That's besides the point.

My questions is What do you say? What do you do? How do I offer support? Is it best for me to stay away?

 I'm close to her sister in some ways. We see her all the time, went to graduation and things. We did have a falling out over baby names (another long story)

Like I said I'm just not sure how to show that I am sorry without shoving my pregnancy down her throat and reminding her of bad things. Any one have any suggestions.

 

I also didn't see anything related to this thread so I posted this new, hope that is ok.

 

Mztwilson

I would just tell her your so sorry to hear of her loss. Ask her how she's doing. That kind of stuff

ELC252011

CAMag said:

Rachel5130 said:

That's terribly sad. Losing a baby is literally the hardest thing anyone can go through. I agree with PPs. Shoot a quick text, don't expect a response. Just say you're thinking of her and how sorry you are to hear of what happened. If she does respond, say you are there for anything she may need. And I would leave it at that. It's a crappy time. Nothing will make her feel better, but at least she will know you're thinking of and praying for her.

Yeah. This.

I agree with this.

ksyknelvr73

Ditto what PP's said. That is very sad. I would just let her know you are thinking of her, you are sorry for her loss, and you are there for her if she needs anything.

Mom&nurse

thanks everyone