Cloth Diapers for a coed Shower

sizzerhands13

So i have decided to use cloth diapers for our first child mainly because i am an  eco minded person and i can't imagine all the diapers that must be in land fills.   My best friend is throwing me a coed shower  because i would like my husband to feel included in the celebration and i think it would be more fun for my girlfriends to bring their spouses and just have one big party. So my concern is that i feel by default many guys will assume they should bring diapers since a lot of people call this sort of thing a diaper party.  How do i kindly request that they don't? I was thinking of putting something on the bottom of the invite that says we have decided to be ecominded and use cloth diapers....without saying negatively NO DIAPERS PLEASE! Anyone have any ideas? or am i just overthinking and probably no one would bring diapers if it doesn't say "diaper party"? Any advice would be great- thanks!

jackson290721

My shower was really small. Everyone knew I planned to do cloth diapers. It came up in conversation, NOT by some note on the invite. I still was given disposables. 

Just roll with it. Return/donate any disposables. 

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jackson290721 said:

My shower was really small. Everyone knew I planned to do cloth diapers. It came up in conversation, NOT by some note on the invite. I still was given disposables. 

Just roll with it. Return/donate any disposables. 

This happened with me, too. Anyone who would be invited to your shower will probably know you well enough to either know you are cloth diapering or are environmentally conscious. I did get one package of diapers and I just returned it to Target without a receipt and got store credit to use towards items we needed to purchase off our registry.

VOR

Yeah.... overthinking.  It's not a "thing" for men to bring diapers to a co-ed shower.

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annathyst

You don't want to put anything on the invite regarding gifts, when people call to RSVP, if they ask for gift ideas, your host can mention that you CD.
We CD as well and any diapers we got we just exchanged at Walmart or donated.

RibbitGrl930

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

You're over thinking it.

It's a shower, and, presumably, is being called as such on the invitation.  Therefore,it is not one of these tacky "dudes and diapers" parties.  Men going to a co-ed shower are not going to be the ones running out to buy the gift - their SO/spouse will be.

Make NO mention of what gifts to buy/to not buy on the invitation.  To attempt to dictate how people spend their money is rude.  Register for cloth diapers and call it a day.  If you do receive disposables, return them (some stores will take back unopened boxes, like BRU) or donate them to someone who can use them.  Also, it may be that you might want to use some when, for example, traveling.  

Do NOT say something like "We are being Eco-friendly and will only be using cloth diapers."  It comes off as high and mighty and really condescending in general (I would feel like it's "I'm better than you because you use disposables").

Yeah, all of this.

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