things that make me crazy

MinnesotaMomma91

The sympathetic look people give me when they find out bf isnt ds bio dad. Its always inevitabley followed up by the worst queation in the world.

What uf you guys break up? Arent you worried bentley wont have a strong male role model?

Honestley that is the last thing i worry about. My dad and bil love him so much. When ever bil drops off the nephews he makes a point to pick up ds and hold him and talk to him for a few mibutes.

My dad is an awesome grandpa. Yesterday he sat on the couch with bentley talking to him. And bentley was so over tired and ovet stimulated while i was packing his stuff up my dad rocked him and sang soft kittu to him till he fell asleep. Then my dad got him in his car seat and in the car.

So no, i dont worry about him not having male role models with my dad and bil around.

Do you hear things like this? What stupid things do people say to you?

tig594

I haven't dealt with this yet.  However, if BD doesn't stop being a douchecanoe so we can raise our daughter together, I'll be very very careful about who I let around my daughter.  I once dated a guy who had 2 young boys and was very concerned about what they saw.  I didn't spend the night with him when the boys were there for about a year because we didn't know how long we'd be together at the time (new relationship blah blah blah) and he didn't want the boys to think it's ok to have different chicks spending the night all the time.  I guess their mom moved her new man right in after they split up.  I didn't disagree with him then but see his reasoning much clearer now, if that makes sense.  If I were to start dating someone new I don't think I'd let them meet Aria for awhile.  If her dad's going to be a dad, whether we're together or not, I don't want her thinking someone else is her dad, too, or whatever.  

MinnesotaMomma91

I totally agree with you tig, if bf and i split, i dont want every random guy who would take me on a date to meet ds.

Bentley already has a dad who will wind up being in and out of his life. He doesnt need other guys to be that in his life. And kids become attatched so quickly. Back when i was 19 i dated an older guy with two kids from a previous marriage. I only met his kids a couple times. A bout a week before we broke up he had his kids with him when he thought hed be nice and drop off supper for me. Well his son was very excited to see me and tell me how daddy got him and his sister a milk shake. I said by went into work to eat. He texted me after i got inside to tell me that his ds thought i was nice and pretty and that me and his daddy should get married and make him a little brother. I felt aweful cause i wasnt serious about the guy and didnt want to have his kids get attatched to me like that.