Can I join you? (child mentioned-siggy warning)

Karen1973

I hope I have chosen a suitable board- I seem to fit into lots of the different groups..

As for my introduction, I am a 41 (just) old expat living in the US and married to DH who is 48. We do have one child, and then suffered a loss in Aug 2011. I found it devastating and have yet to put it behind me I feel. In recent months we have found a well known fertility clinic (and expensive) and have self funded 2 IUI treatments- which have both been unsuccessful.

Now is the crunch time- do we a)... cut our losses.. and be so very grateful for what we have... b)try for another IUI.. or c) try IVF... it's only money right?

Don't worry- I am not expecting any answers- just would love to hear from other like minded people... I have found this a very lonely journey- not least being away from family and friends, but also having (luckily) no other friends in a similar situation..

would also be interested if anyone has had counseling during their journey and whether they have found it useful..

thanks for listening

kindershlitz

I'm sorry for your loss and struggle. I have no words of advice but welcome to this board I hope you find it helpful and supportive.

URMySunshine77

I'm so sorry for your loss and your loneliness, @Karen1973. 

 

I am also rather new here. I know that you will find this board a warm and supportive community. I hope that you come to a decision that gives you peace. Sending a welcome hug.

[Deleted User]

The user and all related content has been deleted.

PrivateOne

Sorry for your loss and tough journey. All of us can relate on some level to your pain.  I just wanted to wish you a welcome to the board and let you know that I'm sure you will find the ladies here very helpful and supportive.

Your questions were probably more rhetorical than actually wanting a response, however if it were me and I wanted to continue to try for #2 I wouldn't waste time or money on IUIs. The success rates just aren't great and at our AMA, I'm pretty certain it is not the best option.  Good luck with whatever you decide, though.

hooligans4

Welcome to the board. I hope you find the support you are looking for. We are very supportive so whatever path you choose we will try and help you through it.

I am very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately most if us understand how you are feeling. My loss was one of the hardest things to go through so I get where you are coming from.

If IVF is an option for you and you want the best success rates I would say go that route. Especially if you have a great fertility clinic. But good luck with whatever you choose.

Samuelismomma

Welcome.. Feel your pain just getting over my 3 rd loss, after having ds.. I know this board is very supportive. I hope your stay is short and welcome!

ksgsmu

PrivateOne

So sorry for your loss but welcome to our board!

KirstenAlecia

Welcome!

Sorry to hear about your loss. So many people hare can relate and you will find much support. 

Karen1973

Am quite over whelmed by the welcome- thank you so much, it means more than you know. I hope I can also be a support to others as we travel along this road together- again, thank you x

BeckyP005

Hi and welcome to the board. Sorry about your loss. The group of ladies on here are wonderful! Lots of support

I tried counseling twice with 2 different people and didn't last long...just didnt click. I just started with someone new and only had 2 sessions so far. I cancelled rest for time being. I would rather talk on here than with a therapist! Lol. I will go back when needed

Davie813

I'm a little late to the party, but welcome to the board! I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the board will be a positive resource/outlet for you (it already has for me, and I'm fairly new). I also hope that you will be able to come up with a plan if action that sets your mind at ease.