Stopped preventing pregnancy

amylee429

So I've been married for 1.5 years. My husband and I decided not to actively try for a baby, but to stop preventing it. I have never been on birth control because I've always hated it when I tried it, so we've used condoms and have just decided to stop using them. I'm happy with this, because I'm definitely ready for a baby, but I don't want to put a lot of stress on trying. I'm not checking my ovulation or anything like that.  The only issue I'm having with it is that when it comes to going out with friends, etc. I'm stressing about having any drinks. I mean, it's not like I'm a heavy drinker or anything, but normally I'll definitely have a drink or two while out to dinner or at a friends house. We also aren't telling anyone else about "not trying, trying" so I also don't want to give it away and have family and friends speculating all the time. 

PB&J714

Drink til it's pink! Really. If you're only having a couple drinks a couple days a week you're not going to hurt a thing.

Helenahhandbasket

Go out with your friends and have a drink.  It will be fine, I promise.

Ducktale

Drink until pink. Many people feel totally comfortable with a glass of wine on occasion WHILE pregnant. If your worried, test before drinking and enjoy if negative.

PennyGirl12

If you only have a glass or two you are totally fine! Enjoy!

Littlenoodle

Drink 'till it's pink!! I haven't started tracking ovulation, but we are planning on actively trying in May. Right now we are NTNP. Everyone tells me that tracking temps and using opks is a very empowering thing. Like you I have fears about over stressing, but we are going to try it out and see how I feel. I know for sure that charting won't hurt our chances, but will only help, so that gives me a little comfort and I hope that's enough to keep me from becoming overly worried and stressed.

LaxMOM44

I had the same worry when we were trying with my first, I had drinks but chose less alcoholic stuff, it probably makes absolutely no difference, but it made me feel like I was "being good". Also I asked my doctor when I got my BFP and he said that a drink or two wasn't going to make a huge difference. So enjoy your last worry free nights!!!

ej1234

This month was our first month TTC #1 and everyone told me to check temps and use OPKs. I have been and got my first positive yesterday. It is very empowering and makes me feel much more in-tune with my body. Using fertility friend and glow apps too. Good luck! @laxmom44 did you start eating like you were pregnant too...no lunch meat or soda etc?

LaxMOM44

No, because I was sure I wouldn't be able to do that for months or years if it took us a longtime to conceive.  I did gradually cut back on things I knew I would have to give up. Also I had to kill a major caffeine addiction so I started doing that while we were TTC. I can tell you that I for sure ate lunchmeat, sushi and fish. 

SmileyJay

Grab a pregnancy book and read about the actual fetal development. Once you know that a few drinks in early pregnancy can not possibly harm the baby (there is no placenta or blood sharing) then you will feel a lot more easy about this.

Also think about all the babies that have been conceived when the parents were wasted. Or how many women have no clue they are pregnant and drink heavily in early pregnancy. If you are going out once a week and drinking 2-3 drinks, you are perfectly safe. Just stop once you get that positive test.

I very rarely drink (like literally maybe a glass of wine twice a year at family events) and think it is easier that way because when I refuse a drink with friends no one thinks I'm pregnant. Most people wait until the 12 week mark to share pregnancy, so it may make that time a little difficult if all of your friends are used to you having drinks. 

SmileyJay

You should do some sort of period tracking though so you know when you should be testing. I love temping and don't find it stressful at all. I would be more stressed not knowing if I were ovulating or if we were having sex on the right days. It's all about giving yourself the best odds of growing your family.