So, I'm a huge thrifter/garage sale shopper, and I buy pretty much everything that way (for financial reasons and it's my hobby). So of course S/O and I are totally down with hand me down items from family and friends. I know we will need some extra items anyway to keep at the grandma's houses anyway.
My aunt just gave me some stuff that my cousins baby grew out of - a swing/bouncer seat combo, a play saucer and some activity tables/beep beep boop sound thingies..
They. Are. Filthy.
And my aunt apparently smokes in her house because they reek of cigs. The swing seat is really badly stained. I don't think it'll come out. There is just a layer of grime on everything. And since the activity tables have tons of objects on them, I'm going to have to Q-tip the grime out of the crevases of everything.
I know beggars can't be choosers, and I can't afford to buy all brand new stuff. I know she did it to help, and I am still thankful, but I don't want to even use these as back up items.
And what if my family throws a shower for me? If I put the same stuff on a registry, she'll wonder why I'm asking for stuff she already gave me. I don't want to hurt her feelings.
I have other friends that keep telling me they have items for me - like a bunch of car seats in their garage that have been there for years (her kids are 12, 7 and 2). Or a 12 year old pack and play.
I don't know how to say no on items that I really don't want, and I feel like some people are just wanting to dump their stuff off on us because they just want to get rid of it.
I'm feeling ungrateful but... I don't want a 12 year old pack and play.
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