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June 2014 Moms
Jazznit1984
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What the bleep did you just tell me??
Jazznit1984
member
I am writing this to hopefully give a little smiles on your Monday.
As some of you know (and for those that don't) I live in Singapore. I just took a cab ride from downtown to home. I tell the cabby to drive slower because I am pregnant.
He then begins to tell me how important it is that I don't neglect my husbands needs after the baby is born. He goes on for over 30 minutes about how important it is to continue to satisfy your husband. He stated that once women give birth they are too focused on being mothers and do not feel that it is important to sexually satisfy their husbands. He elaborated (uneccessarily) that this is common with 90% of the men that he talks to in his cab. He then goes on to tell me all the problems in his marriage. Particularly focusing on how they have not had sex in 5 years and sleep in separate bedrooms. This was not a conversation but a lecture.
I try to change to subject more than once. So then he tells me not to eat watermelon or my baby will get asthma. Not to look at construction sites because my baby will be born with a cleft palate. Not to eat cold things or my baby will be angry. Not to gain any weight because I still need to be attractive to my husband. This man does come from a culture where the view of marriage is equivalent to 1950's america. But still this is pure and utter bullshit.
I try to be nice and tell him some of our 'Old wives tales' and he proceeds to tell me how made up it sounds and that I don't know what I am talking about because this is my first child. He then tells me that I should only look at books with pictures of babies, listen to soft music, no violent TV and refrain from doing crafts . As this the latter will take my energy away from making the baby. Guuh... friggin loser dumbass, no wonder he hasn`t gotten laid in 5 years.
BTW I am eating watermelon, looking at the construction site outside my window and I plan on crotcheing while watching TWD.
As some of you know (and for those that don't) I live in Singapore. I just took a cab ride from downtown to home. I tell the cabby to drive slower because I am pregnant.
He then begins to tell me how important it is that I don't neglect my husbands needs after the baby is born. He goes on for over 30 minutes about how important it is to continue to satisfy your husband. He stated that once women give birth they are too focused on being mothers and do not feel that it is important to sexually satisfy their husbands. He elaborated (uneccessarily) that this is common with 90% of the men that he talks to in his cab. He then goes on to tell me all the problems in his marriage. Particularly focusing on how they have not had sex in 5 years and sleep in separate bedrooms. This was not a conversation but a lecture.
I try to change to subject more than once. So then he tells me not to eat watermelon or my baby will get asthma. Not to look at construction sites because my baby will be born with a cleft palate. Not to eat cold things or my baby will be angry. Not to gain any weight because I still need to be attractive to my husband. This man does come from a culture where the view of marriage is equivalent to 1950's america. But still this is pure and utter bullshit.
I try to be nice and tell him some of our 'Old wives tales' and he proceeds to tell me how made up it sounds and that I don't know what I am talking about because this is my first child. He then tells me that I should only look at books with pictures of babies, listen to soft music, no violent TV and refrain from doing crafts . As this the latter will take my energy away from making the baby. Guuh... friggin loser dumbass, no wonder he hasn`t gotten laid in 5 years.
BTW I am eating watermelon, looking at the construction site outside my window and I plan on crotcheing while watching TWD.
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Re: What the bleep did you just tell me??
But yeah, this guy sounds extra dumb. But he really knows a lot about babies. Was he maybe an OB or pediatrician?
What a rude prick. Sorry you had to deal with that!!!
@Ashes92813 nice assessment, you know your stuff.
I`m laughing about it now, there are dickheads everywhere in the world sadly.
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2010: son born 9/1
2013: 2 miscarriages + d&cs, both at 10 weeks: April & July
2014: son #2 born 6/29
2016: Baby girl stillborn at 21w6d 4/29 and baby boy stillborn at 20w 3d 11/16
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
I'm not putting too much stock in it because he also told me he was sure I was having a girl based on the shape of my stomach (awkward!). Two days later I found out I'm having a boy!
I married a feminist dude who will stay home two days a week for childcare. Fuck men who complain about their partners CARING FOR THEIR CHILDREN.
How rude! Even if it is true, you don't tell his daughter that!