I would like to apologize in advance and warn that this is a super long post! I promise any future posting will not be like this!!! Thanks for your patience
Hello everyone! I am a sahm to my little boy born July 24 and really hoping to find some like-minded parents here because I feel we're kind of struggling with what is perceived as the norm for raising a baby vs how I am raising our baby. A little about us: DS is a sweet, tall & skinny 6.5 mo baby and I suppose he'd be classified on the clingy side. He doesn't care to play independently for more than 10-15 min and then he wants to sit in my lap and play or be picked up or nurse (we nurse ALL the time). I can't leave him alone to cook or take a shower without a meltdown. He definitely prefers me to anyone else but that seems normal for his age. He's never napped independently, always while being held after nursing. I've only put him down successfully a handful of times and it never lasts very long. For bedtime he's always nursed to sleep and then I would put him down swaddled. This was somewhat successful but only slept 3+ hours a few times. After getting up with him he'd nurse back to sleep and we'd try again. On particularly bad nights we'd fall asleep together in the recliner nursing and I'd be too exhausted to keep the routine up so we'd sleep together. Then he started teething and rolled in the swaddle at the same time so any semblance of a routine was demolished and after 2 weeks of up every 20-40 min I gave up and now we just sleep in the recliner together. He does wake up several times throughout the night and I just switch him to the other breast and we go back to sleep (although sometimes it feels like I do that all night so maybe this isn't our ideal arrangement anymore).
Overall I'm really happy with all the time we get to spend together but would like a little more time for other things. I would like to be able to sleep in the bed again (with baby is fine) but he won't settle in since he's not physically on me. I feel he will become more independent as he becomes mobile and a little older but DH thinks otherwise. My husband was on board with my no CIO parenting but now feels like DS is old enough that we're establishing negative habits and he is manipulating us by crying to get his way and he would be just fine if we left him to fuss and cry. Yeah, that was our ongoing conversation on Valentines Day, so romantic right?
Are we so abnormal though? Am I doing all this wrong and creating a monster baby? He is a bit more high need than expected but all babies are different. Overall he is an amazing kid and so sweet and happy. So many ppl are just starting to make me feel like I got him started on the wrong path and now we're just kinda screwed up.
Well, thanks for reading (I hope it wasn't too bad!) and I look forward to joining the forum!