On Thursday February 13, 2014 I went to the OB for my 16 week check up. The nurse couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler so we did an ultrasound. The measurements showed that baby stopped growing around 13 weeks and we could see that his/her's little heart wasn't beating. Two days prior I thought I had felt movement for the first time. I had no clue anything was wrong.
I had a D&C yesterday. I am surprised at how good I feel physically. It seems like this should be worse. Emotionally, part of me wants to stay in bed and cry and the other part wants to go do something so I don't think about it. Then I feel guilty for not wanting to think about it. I'm just so tired of crying. I have so many different feelings right now. I don't know how to handle them.
We have custody of our 2 year old niece and she doesn't understand why I'm so upset. She looks at me so sadly if she sees me crying. I'm trying to be strong for her.
I hope I'm in the right place. I'm not sure what the difference is between this board and the miscarriage board. I posted here because I didn't miscarry. Please let me know if I'm in the wrong place.
I am so sorry for your loss. The miscarriage board might also be a good resource, because several of the women on that board have also had to go through the D&C process. Stay were ever you find yourself most comfortable.
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Thank you both. We're having chromosome testing done. If that comes back normal, then we won't know. She said usually it's a placenta issue. This was my first pregnancy and now I'm really scared to try again.
I am so sorry for your loss. Our son was my first pregnancy and I've been scared about trying again so I empathize with how you're feeling right now. Sending lots of love and support your way.
Welcome to the board. I loss my first pregnancy at 13 weeks. Give yourself time to heal. I know personally, I am always scared about getting pregnant, but it does get easier
You're welcome to stay here. I lost my daughter at 18 weeks due to chorioamnionitis. Although in medical terms I had miscarriage, I personally had a baby.
I understand the fear of next time, but for me I feel like getting pregnant again will help fill the void. I feel so empty. Just know I'm thinking of you and stay as long as you want.
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I am so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. Like a PP mentioned, the miscarriage board will likely have more women who have gone through a D&C but you are welcome to post in both places - wherever you feel comfortable and supported.
TTC since 2008 Dh:34, no issues. Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion. 4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary. 6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN, 1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized. 2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP. Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection. 2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!! 5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9 Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2 Beta 3 14dp5dt: 497 Please be our sticky rainbow baby!
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I am so sorry for your loss. The miscarriage board might also be a good resource, because several of the women on that board have also had to go through the D&C process. Stay were ever you find yourself most comfortable.
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I understand the fear of next time, but for me I feel like getting pregnant again will help fill the void. I feel so empty. Just know I'm thinking of you and stay as long as you want.
TTC since 10/2010
IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
TTC since 2008
Dh:34, no issues. Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized. 2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!! 5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9 Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2 Beta 3 14dp5dt: 497 Please be our sticky rainbow baby!