FFFC

Kate_C

Confessions now welcome.

Sol1790

I went all out making SO a gift basket. Made it myself bought balloons and a card and wrapped it up. The whole 9 yards! And all he did was say "Thank you" guys suck! I wanted the whole "OMG THAT'S AWESOME" type of girl reaction. I confess I'm upset about it.

JBDamonM

I am giving my two weeks notice next week and will be using my remaining time at work strictly to plan LO's first birthday party. Although I confess, I feel like it's less planning than I thought it would be.

JordynLeighx3

I'm spending more money on the girls' birthday than I spend on myself for our wedding...

I know. I know.

Aprilbaby49

@Alpine Engaged - I do that more times than I'd like to admit and I don't have baby brain as an excuse

@Sol1790 - I used to go all out with every holiday/event etc. DH wouldn't react the way I expect and I'd get annoyed so I stopped doing it haha. Just got him a card from me and a card from the baby with his fave chocolate bar and he seemed more grateful this year haha.

My confession is I'm so over DH's back problems and it hasn't even been a week yet. He pulled his back last weekend while shoveling snow/ice and has been useless since Monday. I do believe he is in pain and I feel badly for him but I'm starting to resent him. I know it's not his fault and I feel guilty for becoming annoyed/frustrated but it's so hard having zero help with the house and the baby.

He's been on muscle relaxants and pain meds for almost a week so he's been resting in bed this whole time. I woke him up this morning so he can watch the baby while I shoveled the snow. When I walked in the house after 30 mins of shoveling and frezing my a$$ off, he says "I'm really going to try to take it easy today" then he goes back to bed! Are you friggin kidding me? I was so disgusted and pissed. I know he's in pain but I'm not sure if he's just being a wuss. When women are sick, we are up and about by the end of the day but when men are sick they are such babies! Sorry so long...just had to get that out.

pinottoparenthood

@AlpineEngaged I can one-up that... sometimes I remember/realize that there is laundry in the washer but I'm too lazy or tired or busy to do anything about it, so I purposefully leave it in there. Once I left wet clothes in the washer for a week and our whole basement smelled like mildew. I had to wash them like 3 times to get them smelling fresh!

Kate_C

@jbdamonm - did you get a new job? Congrats!

I confess I am still bitter about the fact that FIL couldn't be bothered to come meet my daughter at the hospital when she was born. They visited both days we were in the hospital with my son, but MIL only stopped by for 30 minutes after DD was born and FIL didn't come at all. I'm biting my tongue to not say something bitchy like "oh it's great you're able to make it to her bday party since you weren't able to come meet her when she was born!"

I know I know. It's been 9 months. Get over it.

tondraluv

@jordynLeighx3 I'm right there with you. I don't feel too bad though because my husband is equally spending a lot of money. My fam is trying to give me a hard time but I'm also putting a lot of money in his college fund so they can suck it.

I have two confessions; at dinner last night, I told our waitress that Brayden was a newborn (he wasn't with us) just so I could get the "you just had a baby?!" Comment.

Also, sometimes I secretly think that @cece2682 could be russianmommy 

Erin10408

I cut down to 2 pumping sessions at work.

I still go to the lactation room 3 times a day.

 

X_X

Aprilbaby49

@tondraluv -you made me lol with both of your confessions. I thought RM was active under a different SN.

hatroopes

tondraluv said:

@jordynLeighx3 I'm right there with you. I don't feel too bad though because my husband is equally spending a lot of money. My fam is trying to give me a hard time but I'm also putting a lot of money in his college fund so they can suck it.

I have two confessions; at dinner last night, I told our waitress that Brayden was a newborn (he wasn't with us) just so I could get the "you just had a baby?!" Comment.

Also, sometimes I secretly think that @cece2682 could be russianmommy 

Good call! I never thought about that but it makes so much sense now...

Erin10408

tondraluv said:

@jordynLeighx3 I'm right there with you. I don't feel too bad though because my husband is equally spending a lot of money. My fam is trying to give me a hard time but I'm also putting a lot of money in his college fund so they can suck it.

I have two confessions; at dinner last night, I told our waitress that Brayden was a newborn (he wasn't with us) just so I could get the "you just had a baby?!" Comment.

Also, sometimes I secretly think that @cece2682 could be russianmommy 

I love everything about this confession
^:)^

tondraluv

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. I'm off to get a massage. Be back later.

Sol1790

@tondraluv lol I am pretty sure cece is cece she is on the fb group and it looks legit.

MsAmeera25

tondraluv said:

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. I'm off to get a massage. Be back later.

How dare you post and run lol RM was such a crazo I remember when she asked if Babs was a man lolol

MKC12/22/2006

I dropped a pumping session at work because I have a chest freezer full of milk, yet I still feel guilty that I am purposely lowering my supply. Even I can't figure myself out.

Kate_C

tondraluv said:

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. I'm off to get a massage. Be back later.

I guess I don't entirely see the similarity... Has cece ever suggested swaddling would cure cancer? Pretty much all I remember about RussianMommy was that swaddling was her advice for everything... Didn't matter what was wrong, a tight swaddle would cure it!

Erin10408

MKC12/22/2006 said:

I dropped a pumping session at work because I have a chest freezer full of milk, yet I still feel guilty that I am purposely lowering my supply. Even I can't figure myself out.

This is me 100%

 

 

Erin10408

tondraluv said:

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. 

Exactly.

@cece2682, a message board is not something to cry about. You're just fine...

MsAmeera25

I went to Sephora and bought all the mascaras you guys told me about today plus some extra stuff. I did it on my personal break which is technically 15 minutes but I was gone closer to an hour. I still plan on going to lunch in a few minutes. AND This is my first day at work all week thanks to the snow, it's Friday and I have no intentions of working.  

smiles21866

I'm REALLY tired of this feeding tube and not being able to eat anything by mouth.

My FFFC is the other day at target I bought chocolate chip cookies and ate 4 of them. I vomited all.day.long. Doesn't hurt anyone but me.

So thankful to have found a surgeon to take on my case. I have an appointment with him on the 25th to schedule surgery so I can get back to my normal self--whatever that is :-/

farmerpinky

I watch our church's choir director's son a few days a week. I don't have anything going on in the mornings so it works out. I get some play money every week.

However, he just turned 6 months and he doesn't do anything! Well, he whines constantly. It drives me up the wall. Phee is super active and was already mobile and interesting by 6 months. I'm totally past this baby stage.

Today is a bad day for us. He won't let me put him down and even whines while I hold him. I'm going to give his mom some recs for a new sitter today. At this point I'd probably help pay for it.

Aprilbaby49

Kate_C said:

tondraluv said:

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. I'm off to get a massage. Be back later.

I guess I don't entirely see the similarity... Has cece ever suggested swaddling would cure cancer? Pretty much all I remember about RussianMommy was that swaddling was her advice for everything... Didn't matter what was wrong, a tight swaddle would cure it!

Again I was still a lurker when RM was around but I do remember her asking insensitive questions about miscarriages right after someone would post that they had a loss. This was very early in our pregnancies -during the first trimester.

Edit to add: I think I know who RM is but not gonna call her out. Maybe she'll confess who she is today

JBDamonM

Kate_C said:

@jbdamonm - did you get a new job? Congrats! I confess I am still bitter about the fact that FIL couldn't be bothered to come meet my daughter at the hospital when she was born. They visited both days we were in the hospital with my son, but MIL only stopped by for 30 minutes after DD was born and FIL didn't come at all. I'm biting my tongue to not say something bitchy like "oh it's great you're able to make it to her bday party since you weren't able to come meet her when she was born!" I know I know. It's been 9 months. Get over it.

I did

I accepted Wednesday and start March 10th. IT's actually with my old employer, so I get grandfathered in with 3 years of service.  I'm excited The only downside will be less bumping. WAH.

And - my MIL is the SAME way with things. Like how she showed up Christmas day with no gift for LO - yet gifts for other grandkids. And how she called yesterday and had the audacity to tell me how she forgot to leave LO"s baptism gift last weekend..... RIGGGHt. I wouldn't care, but I watch her treat her other grandkids differently.

None the less it takes me a LONG time to get past her antics, so I don't judge you

burneyonboard

Alpine Engaged said:

I had to rewash the same load of laundry twice this week because I forgot about it and this happens more than I like to admit. I have baby brain on top of pregnancy brain and can't keep my days straight at this point.

This happens probably once a week for me...including this morning.  I ate the last of the vanilla oreo cookies and blamed it on my 3 year old.  Yes, I'm ashamed!

hatroopes

Sol1790 said:

@tondraluv lol I am pretty sure cece is cece she is on the fb group and it looks legit.

Did RM ever post a picture? She was really cray cray though..fun times.

Debbie0580

I seem to remember RussianMommy was Canadian...or claimed to be. And I remember that because I was embarrassed that she was Canadian. Yeah. I'm mature like that.

Debbie0580

I confess that I'm irrationally upset that there are a couple old guys in our town with quads/blades or mini tractors or snow blowers that clear all my old neighbour's driveways every time after we have a storm. Hey, what about me?? I'm a mom with two young kids. Getting out to shovel when it's -40 isn't easy and my husband leaves for work and comes home in the dark. Sure I'll get out there myself when it's -10, but we haven't had temps like that since November!!

melissad23

Don't forget the Russianmommy classic- don't ever sleep train or put your baby on a schedule. NEVER EVERRRRRRRRRRR

elbou

Debbie0580 said:

I seem to remember RussianMommy was Canadian...or claimed to be. And I remember that because I was embarrassed that she was Canadian. Yeah. I'm mature like that.

Ditto! *shudder*

Lhyacinth888

@cece2682- Well for what its worth you are ok in my book. I think you keep it real with what you think and feel. I dont always agree with what you say but there are definitely people that say things on this board that I would question before you. Sometimes things come over poorly in writing too. I do admire that it seems like whenever you do say something that offends someone you apologize. Oh and I don't think you are RussianMommy... lol. Because I am... there I came clean. Lol. Just kiddin. ;-)

Kate_C

Aprilbaby49 said:

Kate_C said:

tondraluv said:

Lol I really like Cece, way more than RM, but sometimes her comments sound exactly like something RM would say. I'm off to get a massage. Be back later.

I guess I don't entirely see the similarity... Has cece ever suggested swaddling would cure cancer? Pretty much all I remember about RussianMommy was that swaddling was her advice for everything... Didn't matter what was wrong, a tight swaddle would cure it!

Again I was still a lurker when RM was around but I do remember her asking insensitive questions about miscarriages right after someone would post that they had a loss. This was very early in our pregnancies -during the first trimester.

Edit to add: I think I know who RM is but not gonna call her out. Maybe she'll confess who she is today

Still not seeing it. Pretty sure RM never apologized for sticking her foot in her mouth. She didn't give a flying fluck if she offended anyone as I recall (I do remember the Babs episode). Cece clearly does and has already apologized. Not sure why this keeps coming back as a topic of conversation...

Erin10408

cece2682 said:

Maybe my confession is that I take this board too seriously. I dont know but I don't agree that it's nothing to get upset about and here's why. First, I can't help how things said here make me feel. Whether I know you all or not, I have opened up to you ladies, I have shared things, I have tried to be encouraging, supportive, and helpful when I could. I have invested some time here and most of all, I share things dealing with the most precious person in my life, my son. So when I feel attacked(even if it's justifed)or I am basically being called the crazy person or people are suggesting that I am some fake person under some fake name, it genuinely hurts my feelings. I get that I said some stupid stuff recently and some have made it quite clear that they can't move past that and i accept that, but I think it's unfair to use those few negative moments to negate all the months I've been on here trying to be a positive part of the group. Am I being over sensitive? Sure. But that's me. I've come to enjoy this group, I have vented here with some personal issues and maybe I shouldn't have, but I did, so when someone tells me I shouldn't care what anyone says on here, I can't help that. I don't think just because it is a message board that it doesn't mean anything. That would make it all superficial, and to me, that's sad. I have had a genuine response written in the UO post from last week but never shared it. I was hoping it would blow over and I could feel like a part of the group again, but today's comments just stirred it all up again and I guess that's why I got upset. I just feel like I've invested time here and getting to know everyone and that all means nothing now. I am being spoken of like some crazy made up person and it doesn't feel very nice. This isn't an attempt for anyone to feel sorry for me either- it really is just how I am feeling at the moment. That is all.

This makes sense...I can see how you would be hurt. I'm sorry for saying you shouldn't be upset.  I confess that I jumped on the mean girl bandwagon today, and shouldn't have. I also confess that I judge you HARD for some of your recent comments, and that probably won't ever go away. So I'm just going to ignore them, I think. Can't change  how a person thinks or views the world.

edited for wording.

keado

Wow.  Some of you need to get laid for Valentine's Day. 

KrisM86

jthree said:

My confession is that I like FFFC about food.  Makes me feel a little better and that maybe I'm not the only one out there who had a piece of chocolate cheesecake for lunch.

I confess I wish I had some chocolate cheesecake to eat for lunch!

Mommymorticia

I don't think cece is russianmommy. I would be very surprised if one of us is her based on her posts that I remember.

@jthree I have had chocolates all morning and had a chocolate malt and french fries for lunch. It was sssooo good.

Kate_C

jthree said:

My confession is that I like FFFC about food.  Makes me feel a little better and that maybe I'm not the only one out there who had a piece of chocolate cheesecake for lunch.

I brought treats for the office and have already had a doughnut and half a chocolate filled croissant. I'll probably have more carbo-junk for lunch. Happy Valentine's day to me!

Sol1790

Alpine Engaged said:

 

briannah1010 said:

Mommymorticia said:

I don't think cece is russianmommy. I would be very surprised if one of us is her based on her posts that I remember. @jthree I have had chocolates all morning and had a chocolate malt and french fries for lunch. It was sssooo good.

Now I want a Wendy's Frosty and fries to dip in it! 

YESSS!!!


Ahhhh!!! Really??? I have never fone this lol need to try asap

Aprilbaby49

@cece2682 I don't think you are Russianmommy or crazy either. You def have a right to be sensitive to the comments on this board. I would feel hurt too. I'm sorry that you feel attacked. I think many of the ladies like you on this board and it shows by the amt of ppl who have back your up.

JSS1002

I think that if you disagree with somebody opinion or find something they said offensive, obviously that is totally fine and you are more than entitled to a healthy discussion / debate, or even to call them out.  My problem with The Bump in general has always been this sort of 'mean girl' cliquey attitude where people seem to forget that there are real humans with feelings and hearts reading their words.  I think that most people would not say the mean things in person that they freely post on a message board.  I think there's a lot of 'group think' that happens online -- like when somebody says something and then 50 people basically post the same response to it... and I don't get that.  Hello, beating a dead horse.  Just let it go people, it's like this big "we'll show her!" attitude and it drives me crazy.  

I have always felt like the April board was a lot LESS like that, which is what I like about this place.  My new September board is so full of hormonal nastiness, groupthink and mean girls that I barely bother posting (unless it is to defend somebody, and then they all gang up on ME, so fuck that noise).  It's the thing I always hated about the TTGP board... 

I guess that is my confession.  A lot of people think that stuff is funny, and it is easy to get wrapped up in it (been there!), but there are real people on the other sides of these screens.  I don't think that accusing somebody of being somebody else (who isn't well liked), is a very nice thing to do, and it was obviously said with the intent to hurt somebody else, which is surprising to me.

Murraydog

jthree said:

My confession is that I like FFFC about food.  Makes me feel a little better and that maybe I'm not the only one out there who had a piece of chocolate cheesecake for lunch.

I had a cupcake for breakfast. it was delicious and I have no regrets!