UO Thursday

juliad2010

You all know what to do.

juliad2010

I have 2 this week.

Firstly I HATE when someone says that a father is babysitting his own children when he watches them. Find it annoying and insulting. He's a parent who is parenting! Have never heard someone say a mum is babysitting her own children.

Also dislike when people say they put in 110% effort. No, only goes to 100% so that's impossible.

Rowcate

1) I love being snowed in. It means I don't need to put on pants.

2) I absolutely hate when I see people post RIP so and so on social media. RIP just seems trashy to me, write it the hell out if you mean it. Also I doubt loved ones we have lost are checking Facebook from beyond the grave. I wish people would just say what they mean; I lost someone, I like attention, show me love or, at least, write out something more thoughtful then RIP.

Edit: posted to soon

rh10264706

I have a real uo this week. @Rowcate's uo reminded me of mine. I hate when people post things to their babies on fb. Not about their babies, I love that, but when people say "happy birthday w, mommy and daddy love you so much" etc. Your baby isn't checking Facebook so I don't really understand the point.

Emeraldeyed315

Rowcate said:

1) I love being snowed in. It means I don't need to put on pants. 2) I absolutely hate when I see people post RIP so and so on social media. RIP just seems trashy to me, write it the hell out if you mean it. Also I doubt loved ones we have lost are checking Facebook from beyond the grave. I wish people would just say what they mean; I lost someone, I like attention, show me love or, at least, write out something more thoughtful then RIP. Edit: posted to soon

I mostly agree with your post. However I just posted a picture of my best friend on facebook today because it's her 30th birthday. She passed away in September and I miss her every freaking day. I posted today because I WANT people to remember her. To see her face. It isn't about me at all, it's about people remembering her on her birthday and remembering her funny stories and laugh. While I know there are people out there that post things to gain attention for themselves, and I see that too...there are people out there that are just trying to keep someone's memory alive. 

LokiLahve

I like the fact there's a blizzard outside. It means a snow day (possibly 2!) with my munchkin.

KQuinonez

LokiLahve said:

I like the fact there's a blizzard outside. It means a snow day (possibly 2!) with my munchkin.

We had a couple of those days last week.  It wasn't really that snowy but the cold kept me home ( I work in a rock quarry).  I am glad to be at work and making money but I really enjoyed my days at home with DS.  I feel like this age is so much fun. 

MinnesotaMomma91

I dont believe people who say they hate valentines day. Cause irl the people i know who say they hate valentines day and they dont believe in it cause its just a hallmark holiday are the same ones who are gushing about valentines day when they are in a relationship.

That being said. I love valentines day because i always get these amazing cards from my dad and want to carry on the tradition with bentley

TrueBeliever925

I think it's absolutely BEYOND crazy that people who aren't used to driving in snow/ice are going to work or out and about. 

We're used to this weather (VT) and there are still people that shouldn't be out driving. STAY HOME. It's not worth it! It becomes much more of a major crisis when there are stranded people and cars or worse, like pb&jojo posted about in Raleigh yesterday (car on fire!). I bet most of these people stranded don't even have water or food, much less an emergency blanket or flares or a first aid kit. Smarten up!

Snowbird7

KQuinonez said:

LokiLahve said:

I like the fact there's a blizzard outside. It means a snow day (possibly 2!) with my munchkin.

We had a couple of those days last week.  It wasn't really that snowy but the cold kept me home ( I work in a rock quarry).  I am glad to be at work and making money but I really enjoyed my days at home with DS.  I feel like this age is so much fun. 

And now this is how I'm picturing you at work:

LokiLahve

Oh FML...snowed in and we only have 4 diapers.

TrueBeliever925

LokiLahve said:

Oh FML...snowed in and we only have 4 diapers.

Makeshift CD with burp cloths? Or if you have tile or linoleum extra nakie play time? Or stick her in the tub? Or maybe a neighbor? (if that's possible. I have no clue where you are )

ETA:

OR! now would be a good time to potty train  

PTmama199

LokiLahve said:

Oh FML...snowed in and we only have 4 diapers.

OMG are you having a panic attack!! That really stinks.

LokiLahve

@truebeliever925 I'll get right on that potty training, lol!
We have about 8" & DH has 4wd...it's not impossible to get out just difficult. I think the big challenge will be finding an open store. For once I'm counting on wal mart!

PTmama199

My UO is I am not a germaphobe in the least. I practice good hand hygiene especially at work but lily will not get a flesh eating bacteria if I put her in a shopping cart without a cover. I put a picture on Facebook of her first time sitting in a cart and my crazy SIL immediately scolded me telling that lily will catch "Germies" if I don't use a cover. Why don't you use your parenting energy on your almost 3 year old that constantly smacks you across the face. (Sorry for the added bitch fest)

MagPie 1986

LokiLahve said:

Oh FML...snowed in and we only have 4 diapers.

2 words

Elimination communication.

V&G101808

If a guy is wearing white sunglasses I immediately think: "douchcanoe".

TrueBeliever925

V&G101808 said:

If a guy is wearing white sunglasses I immediately think: "douchcanoe".

I agree! Although.. I'm not so sure it's the white sunglasses that is making this particular guy a "douchcanoe".

V&G101808

TrueBeliever925 said:

V&G101808 said:

If a guy is wearing white sunglasses I immediately think: "douchcanoe".

 

I agree! Although.. I'm not so sure it's the white sunglasses that is making this particular guy a "douchcanoe".

True.  I couldn't find a better picture in my 2 second google search

MagPie 1986

I have a good one this week and I'm totally ready for any potential backlash.

I think that schools and day cares should compile a list of all students that aren't vaccinated and send it to all the other parents detailing what they're missing. If there's a child at C's daycare that's not fully vaxed and she gets sick, I think the most responsible thing for me to do would be to let my pedi know that she could have come in contact with something preventable.

And, C had her hep b delayed and is missing her second one so I totally realize she would be on this list, too.

Flame away if you would like

rh10264706

MagPie 1986 said:

I have a good one this week and I'm totally ready for any potential backlash.

I think that schools and day cares should compile a list of all students that aren't vaccinated and send it to all the other parents detailing what they're missing. If there's a child at C's daycare that's not fully vaxed and she gets sick, I think the most responsible thing for me to do would be to let my pedi know that she could have come in contact with something preventable.

And, C had her hep b delayed and is missing her second one so I totally realize she would be on this list, too.

Flame away if you would like

I thought schools and day cares only take kids who are fully vaccinated? Is that not true?

MagPie 1986

rh10264706 said:

MagPie 1986 said:

I have a good one this week and I'm totally ready for any potential backlash.

I think that schools and day cares should compile a list of all students that aren't vaccinated and send it to all the other parents detailing what they're missing. If there's a child at C's daycare that's not fully vaxed and she gets sick, I think the most responsible thing for me to do would be to let my pedi know that she could have come in contact with something preventable.

And, C had her hep b delayed and is missing her second one so I totally realize she would be on this list, too.

Flame away if you would like

I thought schools and day cares only take kids who are fully vaccinated? Is that not true?

Not necessarily, kids can be exempt for religious or health reasons if they have a note from their pedi.

TrueBeliever925

MagPie 1986 said:

I have a good one this week and I'm totally ready for any potential backlash. I think that schools and day cares should compile a list of all students that aren't vaccinated and send it to all the other parents detailing what they're missing. If there's a child at C's daycare that's not fully vaxed and she gets sick, I think the most responsible thing for me to do would be to let my pedi know that she could have come in contact with something preventable. And, C had her hep b delayed and is missing her second one so I totally realize she would be on this list, too. Flame away if you would like

I can see this. I think that it's reasonable. But parents who don't vaccinate would be up in arms there kid is on *DUN DUN DUNNN!* THE LIST! But seriously? That's the choice you made. Your choices affect others as well as you and your family. 

NBR, but It kind of reminds me of the "safe houses" we had in our tiny town's high school directory phone book. There was a list of houses that parents signed for that there wouldn't ever be underage drinking at their houses. That just put a red mark on everyone elses doors and some parents wouldn't let their kids go to their friends houses anymore. So stupid. 

kwrecks

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

I dont believe people who say they hate valentines day. Cause irl the people i know who say they hate valentines day and they dont believe in it cause its just a hallmark holiday are the same ones who are gushing about valentines day when they are in a relationship. That being said. I love valentines day because i always get these amazing cards from my dad and want to carry on the tradition with bentley

I legit don't like Valentines day.  No real reason.  It's just a holiday I don't really care to celebrate.  DH and I don't, and have never, done anything special for it.  I'd rather get flowers or a card or something on a random Tuesday or something, than on Valentines Day when he's only doing it because the day says he has to. Now that LO is here, we may make a bigger deal of it, but it's still not my favorite.

Rowcate

Emeraldeyed315 said:

Rowcate said:

1) I love being snowed in. It means I don't need to put on pants.

2) I absolutely hate when I see people post RIP so and so on social media. RIP just seems trashy to me, write it the hell out if you mean it. Also I doubt loved ones we have lost are checking Facebook from beyond the grave. I wish people would just say what they mean; I lost someone, I like attention, show me love or, at least, write out something more thoughtful then RIP.

Edit: posted to soon

I mostly agree with your post. However I just posted a picture of my best friend on facebook today because it's her 30th birthday. She passed away in September and I miss her every freaking day. I posted today because I WANT people to remember her. To see her face. It isn't about me at all, it's about people remembering her on her birthday and remembering her funny stories and laugh. While I know there are people out there that post things to gain attention for themselves, and I see that too...there are people out there that are just trying to keep someone's memory alive. 

I apologize if you took offense at my post. I see posting a picture is more thoughtful and I agree with keeping the memory alive particularly when sharing with others who knew her. It bothers me when it is an obvious ploy for attention. When it's about a celeb or someone they went to school with and never even actually spoke too. I feel it's insulting to those who have been deeply effected by these losses to see others exploit it for drama. I also hate when they post so soon that others (such as close friends or family or have yet to be informed) find out that way. I am sorry for your loss.

Revez

I thought of one!

Every time you Americans complain about the winter or the snow I roll my eyes (which has been an awful lot lately). The world isn't ending! It's snow for crying out loud! 8 month of the year all I see is fucking snow! I now think that Americans are winter pansies.

But...

Bunnyfer

Someone mentioned Valentines Day....I have been with DH for 18yrs, 20 if you count our dating in HS...we have NEVER done Valentines Day...no cards, no flowers, no gifts. We both really do hate it. I have always told DH, I do not need one day out of the year to know you love me...I would rather get a dozen over priced roses in the middle of the week in June...than a day for "love". That being said, we will be making it a tradition to buy LO something every year...nothing big...but we want to recognize all holidays...does that make me a hypocrite...?

LokiLahve

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic...
If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something.
Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

Bunnyfer

LokiLahve said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic... If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something. Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

Thats was my thought....Vax kids are protected...so why worry?

Rowcate

LokiLahve said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic...
If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something.
Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

I didn't post the vaccination post but I find it interesting, possibly a good idea. My worry isn't about my older vaccinated child being exposed it is the possiblity if her carrying it to her younger and maybe not yet vaccinated for that illness sibling. I am not really fully educated on the possiblity if immune people carrying disease to others but it makes me nervous. I see no issue with full disclosure. I would inform anyone my kid is on contact with if she is sick and contagious so I don't see the problem with this.

MagPie 1986

LokiLahve said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic... If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something. Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

1.  Everyone is at risk when children aren't vaccinated, even the vaxed ones because vaccines work based on a concept of herd immunity.  Each person not vaxed makes the herd weaker and everyone is susceptible.

2.  My child isn't old enough to receive some of the vaccines that would protect her.  So, if a 3 year old doesn't have their MMR, my child is at risk because she doesn't get her first dose of that one until 12 mos.

tdmklm

Bunnyfer said:

LokiLahve said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic...
If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something.
Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

Thats was my thought....Vax kids are protected...so why worry?

Two words: herd immunity, which only works if everyone who can be vaccinated is. That and if my older kid brings something home and my baby, whose immune system isn't mature, catches it and gets seriously sick, I will be very angry. And I'm not good when I'm very angry.

MagPie 1986

Rowcate said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic... If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something. Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

I didn't post the vaccination post but I find it interesting, possibly a good idea. My worry isn't about my older vaccinated child being exposed it is the possiblity if her carrying it to her younger and maybe not yet vaccinated for that illness sibling. I am not really fully educated on the possiblity if immune people carrying disease to others but it makes me nervous. I see no issue with full disclosure. I would inform anyone my kid is on contact with if she is sick and contagious so I don't see the problem with this.

yes, this was my point!

rh10264706

Also, some vaccines don't work on certain people but you don't know if you are one of them or not. So the pertussis vaccine may not be effective on my kid, even though he is vaccinated. I won't know until anther kid who isn't vaccinated passes it on to my kid, who gets sick despite being vaccinated. People who don't vaccinate put everyone at risk, not just themselves and other non vaccinated people.

MinnesotaMomma91

Bunnyfer said:

Someone mentioned Valentines Day....I have been with DH for 18yrs, 20 if you count our dating in HS...we have NEVER done Valentines Day...no cards, no flowers, no gifts. We both really do hate it. I have always told DH, I do not need one day out of the year to know you love me...I would rather get a dozen over priced roses in the middle of the week in June...than a day for "love". That being said, we will be making it a tradition to buy LO something every year...nothing big...but we want to recognize all holidays...does that make me a hypocrite...?

I get there are people like you who actually dont believe in valentines day, but i guess in the group of people i know the louder and hardet people say they hate valentines day the more i dont believe them.

Revez

LokiLahve said:

I'm not going to quote, but on the vaccination topic...
If your (universal) child is vaccinated and another child isn't...other child gets sick...how does this danger your child if he/she is vaccinated from said sickness? Maybe I'm missing something.
Wouldn't the unvaccinated child be the one at risk, not the vaccinated one? If so, why does there need to be a list?

I'm mobile, otherwise I'd do some research and post a few links for you. But look up herd immunity. It'll explain why people who are vaccinated protect those that are unvaccinated and why that is no longer occurring.

To add to that: just because someone is vaccinated doesn't mean they can't a. Get sick (just a milder version) and b. Carry the disease around. Those with decreased immunity are especially suspectible (pregnant women, elderly, infants).

For example: if I sent my child to school with an unvaccinated child who was sick, my child will carry back the pathogen/virus (whether or not she got sick). Say we visited her grandma that day or she had a younger sibling at home that was too young to be vaccinated or if I was pregnant. If a certain percentage of people were vaccinated we'd have herd immunity and this wouldn't be an issue.

Wow, I'm really sorry that was so long. Basically: if enough people vaccinate, we can protect everyone. It isn't as black and white as: vaccinated = safe, unvaccinated = unsafe.

KQuinonez

ayanahazel1 said:

KQuinonez said:

LokiLahve said:

I like the fact there's a blizzard outside. It means a snow day (possibly 2!) with my munchkin.

We had a couple of those days last week.  It wasn't really that snowy but the cold kept me home ( I work in a rock quarry).  I am glad to be at work and making money but I really enjoyed my days at home with DS.  I feel like this age is so much fun. 

And now this is how I'm picturing you at work:

If I am down in the pit that is kind of what it feels like.  I will have to go drive around later and take you guys a picture.  When I was little I never imagine this would be my job, but I rather enjoy it and now that I have had LO they created me a new position and I have lots of flexibility.

As far as vaccinations go, just because you are vaccinated does not mean you will not get the disease.  Think about the flu shot.   Of course the flu strain is constantly changing (wanted to put evolving but afraid I might get flamed for that word) so it is harder to vaccinate against but no vaccination is 100% effective when people are walking around unvaccinated.  I know people are worried about the effects of vaccinations but FOR US any bad outcome from the vaccination is WAY LESS LIFE THREATENING than the actual diseases.

This is how I feel about this TOPIC. 

V&G101808

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Revez said:

I thought of one!

Every time you Americans complain about the winter or the snow I roll my eyes (which has been an awful lot lately). The world isn't ending! It's snow for crying out loud! 8 month of the year all I see is fucking snow! I now think that Americans are winter pansies.

But...

you need to move 8 months of snow isn't living!!!

Cosmic+Love

In addition to the educational vaccination responses, I would like to submit the movie Outbreak as proof positive of how quickly a disease can spread.

Revez

V&G101808 said:

Y

Revez said:

I thought of one!

Every time you Americans complain about the winter or the snow I roll my eyes (which has been an awful lot lately). The world isn't ending! It's snow for crying out loud! 8 month of the year all I see is fucking snow! I now think that Americans are winter pansies.

But...

you need to move 8 months of snow isn't living!!!

I know! But I got a year of mat leave to trade for it. Maybe when we're done having kids I'll move to California.

LokiLahve

Well it seems I have a bit of reading to do on vaccinations. I retract my previous challenge...time to petition for a list!
Also, on the "herd immunity" phrase, I am now picturing a bunch of babies and toddlers dressed in cow costumes at DC.

Eta